Wwyd - stbxh having key cut

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Been separated from stbxh for over two years. None of it has been amicable. Last summer police were involved. They told me to take keys off him and for him to stay away from the house.

Today he told me via text message that he had a key to the house. I asked him if he had had one cut as I'd take it off him and he said yes. So he has either a) has a key cut behind my back without my knowledge or consent and against the advice or the police or b) lied about having a key cut to scare me and make me anxious. Not sure which is worse tbh.

Not sure what, if any, action to take and was hoping you'd give me some advice and tell me what you think I should do.

First things first, change the locks

Change your locks

Change the locks

Seems obvious what to do....

Inform the police and change the lock.

Find a locksmith. Install deadbolts and use them.

Another vote for changing the locks.

Change the locks.

Dont engage with him anymore. Change the locks. Depending on his reaction from here, possibly contact police if you're concerned.

You can also get fairly cheap alarms that go on the door. Amazon?

If you can afford it get an ABS lock, they cannot be cut without the accompanying card so if you gave someone a key for whatever reason they cannot have it cut without your knowledge.

But definitely get the barrel changed no matter what.

Do you have children together?

Get the locks changed. And if you can't do that today either stay somewhere else tonight or ask a friend to stay over. Don't stay there tonight.

@ConfidingFish yes we do have children together.

I don't actually think he does have a key I think he was saying it to intimidate me which is just as worrying tbh. I will be getting the locks changed

Reply saying you'd changed the locks ages ago so it doesn't matter if he has a key or not, and then get the locks changed to the abs type as suggested above, just for your own peace of mind.

One more vote for Change the locks (why isn’t it obvious? )

I think it is fairly straightforward to change the barrel without needing a locksmith - YouTube and/or @PigletJohn should sort you out.

Change the locks

Change the lock, you can do it yourself easily with a bit of help from you tube. Then just ignore him, he's trying to upset you. If you put the lock in yourself you know no one has a spare key... Oh and you could get indoor security cameras and let him know.

Will definitely get the locks changed just didn't know whether or not to log with anyone, police etc. Think I'm going to get one of the video doorbells to so I can see if he has been at the door.

Make sure you screen shot the message so you can keep a record just in case things escalate. Definitely tell the police.

Change the locks and don't tell him.

Stupid question. Change the bloody locks

Yes unfortunately all messages have been screenshot for a while now. Sad it's come to this but needs must

@Hahaha88 yes as I've said I am going to get the locks changed tomorrow I was meaning more should I log this with police or any other agency or just keep the text messages as proof?

Is his name on the house?