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To not want her there?!

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RZNW · 16/02/2019 18:00

DP and I have set the wedding date and all is running smoothly...so far.

Only hiccup is the guest list. He wants to invite one specific person I truly don't want there because she brings a dark cloud.

She's a colleague of ours (we work at the same place) and she is absolutely no threat to our relationship - she's happily in a relationship with a woman. But she's just downright fucking rude to me.

No matter how many times I try and engage in conversation or say hi to her, she blanks me. To DP though she's "hilarious and so friendly" 🙄

The girl even claimed at one point we'd never met. Whereas in reality she spent 2 hours in a meeting with me and only one other person so it's not like I got lost in a crowd.

Anyway, I've made peace with the fact you can't please them all and she simply doesn't like me for whatever reason. I don't particularly want her at my wedding though.

Thoughts please? I'm a bridezilla and should just chill the fuck out?

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comedycentral · 16/02/2019 18:00

No way would I have her at my wedding. She sounds toxic.

Spotsmum · 16/02/2019 18:02

Put your foot down. She sounds awful and if she can't respect you, she doesn't get to taint your big day. This is a partnership and your partner has to have your back.

woodwaj · 16/02/2019 18:05

Nope. Not even a night invite!

Mummyoflittledragon · 16/02/2019 18:06

Just no. She sounds horrible. Your dp is struggling to understand the reality that some women can be total bitches to other women and soooo charming to men.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 16/02/2019 18:08

Since "she's never met you ", don't invite her!

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RZNW · 16/02/2019 18:08

Thanks ladies Thanks

I should point out that DP isn't pushing really hard for her invite. But he's forever the optimist so when I explain what she's like with me he seems to believe I truly caught her on a bad day - 😂 I laugh because he says it like he really believes it's true.

You know how sometimes you just come across a bad seed. That's what I think she is 🤷🏻‍♀️

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GottenGottenGotten · 16/02/2019 18:10

It's one thing your oh inviting a colleague you've never met, that's ok.

Is another thing inviting someone who is downright rude to you.

Yanbu.

Yougotdis · 16/02/2019 18:10

Tell your dp she’s your veto and he gets one too if there’s any of your friends on the list he doesn’t want there

CFerdotcom · 16/02/2019 18:15

Don't invite her. She'll just blank you at your wedding too! Life's too short for that kind of drama.

Limensoda · 16/02/2019 18:23

If your DP considers her a friend then invite her but you've said he isn't pushing it too hard so just tell him you don't like her so no invite.
Do people invite work colleagues to their wedding? I had some people I worked with at mine but they had become close friends who I socialised with. I wouldn't have invited colleagues.

buckeejit · 16/02/2019 18:25

No thank you to her

Wauden · 16/02/2019 18:28

No way should she be allowed to go to the wedding. She is trouble

Aridane · 16/02/2019 18:29

YANBU!

KingIrving · 16/02/2019 18:31

A weeding is about people who care for you and makes you feel good. Go for a drink with her after work at some point before or after the wedding, but is about celebrating a life together, a commitment, and why ruin the atmosphere with someone who makes you feel like shit.

user1493413286 · 16/02/2019 18:34

Nope I wouldn’t have her there

LazyLizzy · 16/02/2019 18:34

Would I fuck invite her.

Whatsnewpussyhat · 16/02/2019 18:34

Why would you even consider inviting someone who clearly hates you to your wedding?Confused

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RZNW · 16/02/2019 18:35

Thanks guys.

@BreakfastAtSquiffanys your comment made me laugh! X

Somebody asked about inviting work colleagues...DP and I are emergency services and work horrendous shifts so the majority of our clique are colleagues - aside from family and small group of friends.

I really appreciate the general consensus of veto-ing her. She's got an outstanding resting bitch face and it'd darken my day seeing it in photos.

Such a shame because he says she can be so funny and I'd appreciate some hilarity in my life. Her loss.

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GreyGardens88 · 16/02/2019 18:39

Maybe she secretly has a big crush on you? And is acting so distant because she knows you're unattainable

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RZNW · 16/02/2019 18:39

@Whatsnewpussyhat DP has a very small family in comparison to mine and so the list of people he wants to invite is significantly smaller. I didn't want to piss on his parade buy refusing to invite this girl x

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RZNW · 16/02/2019 18:41

@GreyGardens88 that seriously never occurred to me! I feel bad now 😂 Seen as I can't figure out why she doesn't like me, I'm taking your theory as gospel - it's far better for my self esteem lol x

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Gruzinkerbell1 · 16/02/2019 18:44

Nope. No invite for cunty chops.

dustarr73 · 16/02/2019 18:48

Nope. No invite for cunty chops.
That made me laugh

AlwaysSomethingThere · 16/02/2019 18:49

Nope. Off she fucks.

Whatsnewpussyhat · 16/02/2019 18:50

He should understand what a dick she is to you and why she shouldn't be at your bloody wedding!

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