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FUMING at the neighbour

35 replies

UpAtDusk · 11/02/2019 20:42

Today I went to work earlier than usual.

I walked outside to my car, and caught my neighbour leaning is door on my car. It took all I had not to say something. He has a huge 4x4 whereas I have a small Peugeot. He always parks close to me and I take care not to touch his car, yet he doesn't give a shit.

I know I sound petty but I am so angry at the arrogance of it. What would you do?

OP posts:
JonSlow · 11/02/2019 20:45

Did it do any damage?

MustShowDH · 11/02/2019 20:45

What would I do? If that bothered me I'd take anger management classes!
I'd probably go over and join them for a chat.

Is there background?

Is this a reverse?

Boyskeepswinging · 11/02/2019 20:46

It took all I had not to say something
Why didn't you say something?

caughtinanet · 11/02/2019 20:46

His car door or was he moving another door and leant it on your car?

If it was his car door I probably would have asked him not to do it. If it was some other door I definitely would have said please don't leave that door on my car.

Original poster
UpAtDusk · 11/02/2019 20:47

No background, just so annoyed he thought that was an okay thing to do, while parking too close to my car. He parks over near mine to give the 4x4 the other side a lot of space (maybe he's worried about that car door opening on his)

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recrudescence · 11/02/2019 20:48

Not worth getting het up about.

BettaSplenden · 11/02/2019 20:48

Don't think this is a reverse. I would also be fuming. It's rude, inconsiderate and unnecessary. I know some people don't care about thier cars but I love mine and if someone did that to me I would kick up a stink.

PlainSpeakingStraightTalking · 11/02/2019 20:49

This why things become issues. Because one person cannot, will not communicate effectively.

"Morning Jim, up early, Cold isn't it! oi oi! mind my little Bertha with your hulking Chelsea tractor, she's my pride and joy !"

^^ the above is called 'humour', before a literalist comes along to tell me that naming inanimate objects is wrong and I shall burn in hell for doing so.

JonSlow · 11/02/2019 20:52

So was there damage, or did he open it and rest against some metal?

SoupDragon · 11/02/2019 21:10

🤔

adaline · 11/02/2019 21:12

If there wasn't any damage I have to say it wouldn't bother me.

Wolfiefan · 11/02/2019 21:13

Did he touch your car or hit it and damage it? The first is a non issue but the second is unacceptable.
In future? Use your words.

1Redacted1 · 11/02/2019 21:15

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EffYouSeeKaye · 11/02/2019 21:15

I like PlainSpeaking’s suggestion. I might use it myself one day. I’m not great at confrontation but it’s very annoying when you stew over stuff for ages instead.

BoomBoomsCousin · 11/02/2019 21:17

Door touching my car - I would not be at all bothered. Door opened sharply into mine so there is risk of damage - I'd be a bit annoyed but hide it and ask him nicely to park further away next time. Door actually caused damage - I'd ask whether he wants to go through the insurance or just pay when I get the bill from the garage.

WorraLiberty · 11/02/2019 21:19

It took all I had not to say something.

I just can't fathom why you wouldn't say something? Confused

ReanimatedSGB · 11/02/2019 21:25

Car owners are just weird. I can't imagine why people would get their undies in a bundle about something like this.

CoffeeRunner · 11/02/2019 21:29

No damage to my car = no problem IMO.

I’m quite a laid back soul really!

StoneofDestiny · 11/02/2019 21:33

Another car owner has got his car door in mine? Too right I'd say something - I'd check to see if there was damage. If no damage I'd tell him not to do it again as I don't want damage. If there was damage I'd expect him to pay for it.
I'm staggered people think it reasonable to put your car door into another persons car!

1Redacted1 · 11/02/2019 21:40

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Loulzze · 11/02/2019 21:41

No this is would absolutely piss me off. I didn't get a car until 4 years after my test then I scraped and saved to buy one and I love it. Its inconsiderate and rude and you should say something next time. Don't buy a big car if you're incapable of parking it appropriately or have no spacial awareness!

Racecardriver · 11/02/2019 21:44

I don’t understand what the problem is exactly. That wouldn’t do any harm. Do you just not like that he is touching your stuff?

PCohle · 11/02/2019 21:48

I might find it mildly irritating but I really don't think you can mention it - you'll sound mad. You need to let it go

TigerQuoll · 11/02/2019 21:48

If damage - talk to your insurance company, give them his details and let them sort it out
If no damage - maybe consider covering your car with a cover each night to give it some protection from scratches

I don't think there's a lot of point speaking to the neighbour - if someone can't work out that hitting another car with yours is wrong, then telling them is only going to result in bad feelings or worse. It's not like someone could not know and then are happy to have it explained to them that it's wrong, and then they stop doing it...

Pinkyyy · 11/02/2019 21:56

Why would you stand by and watch someone damage your car? What could you possibly gain by saying nothing in this situation? How stupid