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to dislike dp's tattoos

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noddyholder · 03/07/2007 18:44

My dp had a couple of tattoos when we met Not my favourite things unless very well done which they weren't.Recently he has had a few new ones and I hate them and he is planning more.Not sure what has started this mid life crisis and I know its his business but I really don't like them and am quite surprised how much

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MamaGroundskeeperWillie · 03/07/2007 18:49

Have you talked to him about it? If he's determined to get them, I suppose its his body, his choice, but would he be willing to let you be involved in choosing htem?

My DH has one that I'm not hugely keen on, he would like it covering up and values m y input into what I like too

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noddyholder · 03/07/2007 18:50

He has just come back with a new one and I said I don't like it as it has no relation to the others but he says he is getting more

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MamaGroundskeeperWillie · 03/07/2007 18:52

Its difficult isn't it, as you've got to look at it all the time! Any chance of a cover up...?

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noddyholder · 03/07/2007 18:54

I don't think so.I just don't like them and am quite upset as I do have to look at them and they are hideous.Mid life crisis I think as he is far too old imo but he is a good bloke so I can't really complain but this has thrown me tbh.

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TroyMcClure · 03/07/2007 18:54

ew ew ew
andits common

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noddyholder · 03/07/2007 18:58

He's not common at all and I think people would be quite surprised if they saw them.A left over from his days in a rock band that he can't quite let go of.Haven't spoken to him since he got back I know i'm being childish but I have to make my point as I feel sick at the sight of them so am thinking this is a real problem

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jofeb04 · 03/07/2007 19:49

I've got a few tattoos, and so has my dh. We always make sure that both of us see the tattoo, as our view on them is that even though it is our (or dh's) body, I (or dh) still has to live seeing them.

You need to let your dp know how you feel.

lou33 · 03/07/2007 19:51

what style of tatt are they noddy?

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noddyholder · 03/07/2007 22:04

Hi Lou! I have a tiny tattoo aswell but very old and dp likes it.His are gothic things on both upper arms.

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noddyholder · 03/07/2007 22:05

actually if you could all be flys on my wall tonight you would get a lesson in being unreasonable Still pissed off though Definite mid life crisis

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agnesnitt · 03/07/2007 22:07

Mmm, I like good ink but cannot stand bad tattoos.

Maybe you could say to your partner that you respect that he is determined to modify his body, and ask if you can maybe be involved? After all, if there's even just one piece on him that you feel happier about you can concentrate on that and ignore the other pieces?

Agnes

duchesse · 03/07/2007 22:08

YANBU to hate them. shudder

However: you knew he had a tattoo penchant when you got together, and it seems to be an integral part of his personality or he wouldn't keep having them done, so IMO you're just going to have to accept them.

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noddyholder · 03/07/2007 22:13

I didn't know that after 16 yrs he would suddenly start adding to his tattoos when he agreed with me before that we weren't over keen on them.I was ok with the ones he had but was not keen on more I don't want to have anything to do with choosing them

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noddyholder · 03/07/2007 22:14

I didn't know that after 16 yrs he would suddenly start adding to his tattoos when he agreed with me before that we weren't over keen on them.I was ok with the ones he had but was not keen on more I don't want to have anything to do with choosing them

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eemie · 03/07/2007 22:42

Well I've been telling my dh for years that if he won't wear a wedding ring the least he can do is get a whacking great tattoo saying 'eemie forever', possibly with a heart.

He has only two problems with the idea:-

  1. he'd have to go through the pain of getting a tattoo

  2. afterwards, he'd have a tattoo.

Maybe we could get the two of them to discuss this?

Or how would you feel about a tattoo saying 'noddyholder forever'?

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noddyholder · 03/07/2007 22:44

No I don't think so! I think he looks ridiculous and he thinks its great We are at a standstill haven't spoken to each other all night!Not like us at all.

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lou33 · 03/07/2007 23:09

do you know what it is exactly about them you dont like?

(how are you btw)

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noddyholder · 04/07/2007 08:42

Just the whole look of someone with a lot of tattoos doesn't appeal to me on any level.One beautiful artistic tattoo maybe but not any more.I think he is just having one last hurrah before he's 50 but its tragic from where I'm standing but what can I do?they are permanent

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lou33 · 04/07/2007 08:50

did he go and have them done without telling you?

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noddyholder · 04/07/2007 08:52

No I knew and said i didn't think he needed more.But he came back and said he is even planning more!

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lou33 · 04/07/2007 08:53

how many does he have now?

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noddyholder · 04/07/2007 08:54

He has a new friend at work younger blah blah and they play guitar together think he has been feeling old next to him!Sports car and affair next

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noddyholder · 04/07/2007 08:55

about 10 but they all blend into each other although imo don't relate

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MarshaBrady · 04/07/2007 08:57

yanbu
Its important you dont go off him,l for both of you. Can you just say please no to more?
or at least chose ones you like

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noddyholder · 04/07/2007 08:58

There wouldn't be any that I like as it is the number and over all look of them I don't like Have to accept it though as they are here now Really hate him today

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