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Fiancé looking at naked woman

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Girlnotknown · 29/08/2018 16:06

Is it acceptable for your other half to look at naked pics of women online im talking like pages on Facebook

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Djnoun · 29/08/2018 16:12

You can't see pictures of naked women on FB. You can see pictures of women in their bra and knickers on FB. Is that what you mean?

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Girlnotknown · 29/08/2018 16:13

Dj woman with there tops off boobs out seen the photos my self !

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Llanali · 29/08/2018 16:15

Have you ever looked at topless male celebs? You know, ogled Daniel Craig as he comes out the sea in James Bond?

StylishMummy · 29/08/2018 16:16

Has he been seeking them out to look at boobs or does he like the DJ? The distinction is important

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Girlnotknown · 29/08/2018 16:20

Seeked the photos out

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Girlnotknown · 29/08/2018 16:20

Llanali Hardly the same !!

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Walkingdeadfangirl · 29/08/2018 16:23

Looking at sexy pictures of women on Facebook is pretty harmless fantasy. Unless of course he is planning on having an affair with one of them in real life. Its no different than looking at a topless Daniel Craig or the diet coke man.

Djnoun · 29/08/2018 16:23

I spend quite a bit of my time looking at pictures of girls on FB and I never see nipples on there.

In answer to your question, no I wouldn't be arsed. The kind of pictures you get on FB aren't even porn. It's just nice shapely figures in attractive underwear.

DannyWallace · 29/08/2018 16:23

Tbh I don't have a massive issue if DH looked at something like that, but everyone is different.
Have you spoken to him?

HoleyCoMoley · 29/08/2018 16:24

Are they women you know or just random people, how does he know who to look for? Have you asked him why he does it.

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Girlnotknown · 29/08/2018 16:29

Yes I have spoken with him
He’s actually even denied he’s looked and liked the page in question he blamed our 21 month old child

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HoleyCoMoley · 29/08/2018 16:30

How do you know what he looked at, did he show you or did you see the pics too and click on like then his name came up.

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Girlnotknown · 29/08/2018 16:32

HoleyCoMoley I have access to the phone and clearly states he’s been on there !!!!

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ShatnersBassoon · 29/08/2018 16:32

I think it's human nature to be interested in naked bodies.

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Girlnotknown · 29/08/2018 16:32

The Facebook page was liked by him on a certain date clearly shows this

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MrsMolehillMountain · 29/08/2018 16:33

Not a big deal. It's hardly the same as cheating

WhatWouldCoachBombayDo · 29/08/2018 16:34

Personally I wouldn't be bothered about DH looking at half nude images/ topless women. But that's my opinion.

If you are offended or upset by it, you will have to tell him you are.

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Girlnotknown · 29/08/2018 16:36

MrsMolehillMountain Good for you

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Aquamarine1029 · 29/08/2018 16:36

Are you really so surprised and upset that a straight man enjoys looking at pics of naked women? Seems 100% normal to me.

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Girlnotknown · 29/08/2018 16:36

WhatWouldCoachBombayDo I don’t like it no personally I’m pregnant aswell and he won’t admit it so how can I

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humanfemale · 29/08/2018 16:40

I'd be really pissed off.

MrsMolehillMountain · 29/08/2018 16:40

Good for you
What?
All I said was that it's not the same as cheating
You are on AIBU, you know. You asked.

NinetySixer · 29/08/2018 16:53

No it doesn’t bother me just as it doesn’t bother him that I look at shirtless photos of a celeb I fancy the pants off unfortunately there are no naked pics of him but if their were I would make it my mission to look at every single one of them

WhatWouldCoachBombayDo · 29/08/2018 16:56

@Girlnotknown well you are a bit stuck in they he's denying it and you can't 100% prove it.

So I would just go down the route of saying you don't want to argue about possible a and hypotheticaly, but at the end of the day it offends you and upsets you so you would like it of he didn't do it in future.

queenworkerbee · 29/08/2018 17:22

I would hate it.
It's objectifying women - same reason I hate porn.
If you have never sought out pics of topless men either then YABU.
Speak to him
(although my toddler DD has been on my Facebook and messaged people I haven't spoken to in years with random letters and emojis so his explanation is entirely plausible!)