To be horrified by the dating world...

[Thefourmuskateers]

Ive just come out of a 9 year marriage. On Friday at a club my friend asked a guy for a pic of his dick to prove his size and he said ‘what would you like, a still or a video?’ I saw the video. When I questioned it everyone was like ‘it’s 2018, that’s dating now.’
I was fucking horrified. I don’t want to see someones cock before I even know them. What happened to mystery & romance?!

You need new friends.

You do need new friends! BUT that is fucking depressing that there are people out there putting up with this shit.

Like monkeys in a zoo..get better friends

Eh? It's your friend who's the problem!

Sorry I wrote my friend by accident, she’s my friend’s friend and it was the first time we met. Even the guy said to me ‘what time are you from?’ because he viewed it as the norm too

Nothing wrong with that unless it was unsolicited, he seemed happy to show your friend and your friend asked.

I get you though ... I like sex to have a little bit of old fashioned romance and mystery sometimes I'm happily married but if I was dating I think I'd say no to dick pics.

I wouldn't drop your friend over this. It seems petty and silly if I'm honest, unless she's pressuring you to partake in similar behaviour.

Oh she's a friend's friend? So I don't suppose you're close enough to "drop" her - but I wouldn't try and avoid her just over this! Lots of people do have different attitudes to this sort of thing now, and like I said nothing wrong unless it's mutual.

A single friend of mine recently got sent a dick picture by some bloke she had just met (and brushed off). She was what a weirdo perv. So yanbu op, and I doubt it's really going to catch on fully.

• if it's mutual.

Dearie me That sounded awful!

I’m only 29 but they made me feel ancient 😂

She is married too and uninterested in him which was even stranger 🤦🏻‍♀️

Classy bird. I don't give a flying fuck what year it is, am happily married but if I was dating again no way would I be standing for this kind of nonsense and I suspect it's rare for any kind of meaningful relationship to develop from this.
Date on your own terms and stay classy, keep your head held high. Plenty of time for things to develop and exchange nudey pix in due course, should you wish, or not!

Exactly PencilTroll. I really hope it’s not the norm like they say or I’m screwed.

She has no class, at all.

Hopefully, not every man behaves like that, nor every woman!

I think it is a lot more common unfortunately... but there are still normal men out there.

I haven’t had to resort to online or apps, and I didn’t need to send or receive photos thankfully!

I ventured into the world of old very briefly before I met my boyfriend. But talking to friends who have done it for longer, it seems I'm very lucky to avoided dick picks so far... No idea why the guys that do it think it's appealing but I think, from what I've gathered in my city at least, a fairly commonplace practice...

It is very common in dating. Unsolicited cock shots are common. The men with more manners ask before they send cock shots. But the vast majority of men will send them. Not all of course, but the sheer numbers of men that do this is shocking.

Ugh this makes me feel older than Methuselah and so happy I no longer date.

As if it wasn't bad enough that FofF asked, I'm beyond shocked that he happened to have a photograph let alone a video. Is it the done thing these days? Do the women carry a selection of boob and vulvula shots/videos?

The world has gone mad.

Dick pics are one of the reasons I agreed to meet my now DP after we 'met' OLD.
Not only did he NOT send me a dick pic, but he said he wouldn't even if I asked for one.

I’ve never received one but my friends are all experts now at photoshopping and sending them back with little outfits on or different hairstyles etc. Those guys tend to block them quickly after that

I know what you mean, OP. I got out of a 17 year relationship a couple of years back and I am mystified and horrified by the modern dating world!

I'm staying single unless someone very compelling changes my mind. And will never live with anyone ever again. And I certainly don't want a photo of anyone's dick, not like they are attractive to look at so why the hell would I wish to see a strangers (or worse, someone I've known a long time who decides to make their move now I'm free... Urgh)?

He sounds a good'un NewtScamandersNaughtyNiffler.

Love that idea Sexykitten If I was ever unfortunate enough to receive one I would probably say something like 'Oh dear, how unfortunate' or 'have you seen the doctor about that?' and then block them. Should cool their ardour for a while

But surely women reply to these -unsolicited- saddos with appropriately withering comments? Can u imagine taking it further? How did u two meet? Ooh I fell for the picture of his cock that he sent before we met, it was really romantic.

The modern version of 'flashing'...

Is it the done thing these days? Do the women carry a selection of boob and vulvula shots/videos?

I said to the guy 'why would you have that on your phone- I don't go around sending pictures of mine to people?' and he said 'I bet no one has ever asked you.'

This was a charmer that was trying to take me home later on.