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Original poster

Is this inappropriate?

63 replies

LuxuryMilk · 21/02/2018 16:53

I got taken to one side at school pick up today to talk about an inappropriate conversation my child had had today.
Apparently they were sticking a picture of a skeleton in their book as part of the schoolwork, DC pointed to the pubic area and said something along the lines of “that’s where the willy is. Girls have a private too but theirs has a cut down it”. I assume he means the labia.

I didn’t have time to talk for long and she also spoke about another incident so didn’t have time to take it in, but now I’m back home I’m struggling to see what the big deal is. Aibu?

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thewhitechapelfatberg · 21/02/2018 16:54

No, he’s talking fact.
How old is your child.

AnathemaPulsifer · 21/02/2018 16:55

Sounds like a child's version of a simple factual statement.

WishingOnABar · 21/02/2018 16:55

Did he misgender the skeleton? Grin

PositivelyPERF · 21/02/2018 16:55

Tell her you were thinking about it and you totally agree with her. It was inappropriate for your child to use those terms so you will teach him to say penis and labia next time. Then just stand back and watch the prat fluster. 😁

Adoodoobydoo · 21/02/2018 16:56

It sounds like the teacher has hang ups about genitals. He's stating facts in a child like manner, I don't see an issue with it.

Duckeggloo · 21/02/2018 16:56

What age is he...?

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LuxuryMilk · 21/02/2018 16:56

sorry I should have said he’s 7. I have spoken with him and said I don’t think what he said was bad but that maybe it wasn’t the right time to be speaking about it.

I do sometimes have an issue with the school where I feel they are too quick to jump on him so often need a different perspective.

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CuriousaboutSamphire · 21/02/2018 16:57

So, he has had some sex education, he was factual, he was as right as they get under say 8 years old, how old is he? What was her specific issue, did you find out?

If I were you I'd go in and talk to her again tomorrow, not apologetically, just asking her what she thought was inappropriate. From what you say he wasn't having a sexualised conversation, just an anatomically correct one, which was surely the aim of the skeleton picture anyway!

CuriousaboutSamphire · 21/02/2018 16:58

Ooh! I like PERFs idea Grin

MummaGiles · 21/02/2018 17:00

I realise I am probably making a MASSIVE leap here but given he used the word ‘cut’ is the school in an area where FGM may be an issue? I know that’s not what your DS meant by it at all but that’s the ONLY way I could construe what he said as being anything close to inappropriate. Please feel free to shout me down/flame me.

LaundryMountain · 21/02/2018 17:01

Ha! How ridiculous!!!

DannyLaRuesBestFrock · 21/02/2018 17:02

Did he misgender the skeleton?

😂

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LuxuryMilk · 21/02/2018 17:03

Not that I know of mumma!
They’ve not had sex education that I know of but I have always spoken factually about body parts.

I’m definitely going to go back in tomorrow and ask her to cross it out. She wrote it down in a special book!

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5plusMeAndHim · 21/02/2018 17:05

Oh come on a 7 year old knows that bums, willies and foofoos along with toilet humour are not an appropriate subject of chat in lesson time (unless sex ed)

5plusMeAndHim · 21/02/2018 17:05

..and I'll bet they were laughing and being really silly about it.

GoGoKelly · 21/02/2018 17:08

Just a thought, did the school think he said ‘cunt’ as that would be inappropriate.

PositivelyPERF · 21/02/2018 17:09

thought, did the school think he said ‘cunt’ as that would be inappropriate. 🤣

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LuxuryMilk · 21/02/2018 17:09

Of course it’s not an appropriate time, I’ve told him that. I just wanted opinions on if the content was inappropriate.

I would have expected any other child would have been told not to be silly and then the subject would move on. I didn’t expect it to be written down as a record and me having to be told about it after school.

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whiskyowl · 21/02/2018 17:10

What was the other incident?

As a one-off this would be totally unremarkable - as a repeated pattern, it might look a little different.

RollTopBath · 21/02/2018 17:12

I think the content is appropriate. The delivery may not have been. If he was being silly, giggling and ‘being rude’ the night it was inappropriate. The simple statement of fact is fine and teacher should be able to handle it. Unless they heard ‘cunt’ instead of cut.

Ironmanrocks · 21/02/2018 17:12

I mis read it as cunt too!!

Clawdy · 21/02/2018 17:14

I wondered too if the use of the word "cut" sounded a bit odd. To be fair to the teacher, it's not a great conversation to overhear, but I guess you needed to be there to pick up on the other kids' reactions.

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 21/02/2018 17:17

I don’t think it’s inappropriate. Discussing body parts while sticking a skeleton into a book Confused

Do what PERF said!

Birdsgottafly · 21/02/2018 17:21

As asked by a pp, what other instances have there been that you think have "been jumped on too quickly"?

Pearlsaringer · 21/02/2018 17:27

The teacher hasn’t recorded it as a safeguarding issue by any chance? I think you need to have a word with them to see what their issue is. There is nothing inappropriate about what he said IMO.

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