To be so depressed at how fat I am?

[depressedlardarse]

Have started to lose weight but I’m disgusting and it’s gojng to take ages to lose.

I know it’s stupid to be depressed about but I’m so down.

You’re not disgusting. You’re overweight, which many people are. You’ve decided to get healthier which is great. It’ll take a while, yes, but as I’ve read on here many times, the time will pass anyway so you may as well be losing weight as it passes.

You've started losing so you'll get there. When you look back on it afterwards the time will seem like nothing.

Celebrate the small goals too. Like if your skin improves, you can see a rib, those trousers that cut into your waist now feel quite comfortable, your mood is more stable, you sleep better, water tastes nice. Take every little win you can find.

Google some success stories for inspiration. Well.done for making a start. What treat so you have planned when you've lost the first stone?

Oh yes, after the first week you'll start to see and feel weight loss... As spankhurst said, the time will either pass with you feeling yuck, or that same time can pass with you feeling thinner and better and more confident day by day! I did it myself, finally

You have made the choice to lose weight, good on you.
Have you got a plan? Are you doing slimming world etc?
Any weight off is an achievement. Really, it’s hard and takes willpower.

It's not going to happen overnight but you've started losing weight! You should be damn proud of yourself for making a start.

Please don't get depressed because you will get there if you can stay focused. And if you fall off the wagon every now and then, get back up and carry on. Don't give up!

You've started, and that's a BIG step.

I've stalled after losing 1.5 stone and am hovering between overweight and obese - keep going up and down a few pounds, it's frustrating. I am actually more critical of my size/shape now than before, probably because I was trying to pretend it didn't matter before and now I'm accepting it's an issue.

But like pp I try to remind myself of how far I've come, and to not give up. I want to be healthy and trim, and it's worth the effort for me. I have discovered a lot about my mental health as well and have come to accept I have a mild eating disorder. That's ok. I'm ok.

It's a work in progress. I was convinced I have been gaining weight recently and finally braved the scales. No change. I clearly can't trust my own perception of my body. This is all really deep, hard work. It's not just the simple eat less move more formula.

You'd be amazed at how quickly it comes off OP.
Stick with it. It's so so worth it

Me too! I will lose weight with you. I saw myself in several mirrors this weekend (normally avoid) and i am actually round like a ball (am v short too). Anyway i feel the same x

Stick with it! The only time I have been overweight was when I was on BC. Never again. Time will pass regardless - you might as well stick with it. And if you fall of the wagon its ok - just get back on it!

You are not disgusting at all, you just have some extra weight to lose - lots of people do! It's natural to feel down if you are unhappy about your appearance, but you have already started doing something about - you've put the steps in place. Losing weight is really hard, so you should feel proud you're doing something about it.

And just think, if you stick with it, you'll never have this much weight to lose again - this is the heaviest you will ever be. So it can only get better!

I’ve gone from a size 16 to a 10 in 6 months. I remember looking in the gym mirror and wanting to cry but I carried on and now I actually like my body ... not love but it’s getting to that point.

You can do it honestly I did it whilst actually having a life and eating the odd dominos.

Saying and thinking negative things about yourself will make you less likely to succeed!

Every time you hear the negative voice in your head criticising you, reframe the criticism into something positive. So instead of "I am disgusting", say " I am going to work really hard to be more healthy". Good luck and do not despair.

I feel like crying too. In 2011, I was 18st 12lb and a size 24. By July 2013, I was down to 10st 2lb and a size 12. Guess what? I'm back up to 18 stone again

You're not disgusting! That's a horrible thing to say about yourself. I think you need to be nicer to yourself and celebrate what you've already achieved.

You are absolutely not disgusting! What a hurtful thing to say to yourself 😢 But I do understand...

No matter what your size, try to think about being healthy and getting fitter. Not your size.

You've taken an enormously positive step in deciding to be a healthier version of you. Please focus on that and allow positivity to flood your brain.

Btw, there are some great threads on here to do with low carbing, cutting sugar etc which could be very helpful to you. It's certainly helped me.

Be kind to yourself and give yourself a chance. You need patience, weight loss won't be overnight so be in it for the long haul 😊

1. you aren't disgusting. Your body is an amazing vessel which has carried and served you. Your body is the home you grew up in, don't try to burn it to the ground.

2. don't think about how long weight loss will take. The time will pass anyway. In a month you will feel better and see a difference. And in the meantime, you're valuable and wonderful and worthy of love and respect.

Me too.

Snap OP

Please don't feel depressed, and well done for making changes. It will not take any longer than a season to see a huge difference. Think of the pace of nature.

Try to something very nice for yourself, that feels special, everyday too.

You're not disgusting. You're overweight. So am I. How can we help you to keep the moment going?

Please be kind to yourself, you wouldn’t talk about your best friend that way - so be nicer to yourself!

If it helps - think this is the heaviest you’ll be, and you’re only going to get slimmer from now on! You can do it!

I always think of what Caitlin Moran said about how you should think of yourself as your own child (paraphrasing it horrifically badly). You'd never say to a DD/DS that s/he was disgustingly fat. You'd love them and help them and keep them going. Why would you undermine yourself that way? Your body is amazing and you're going to make it healthier because you love yourself and you want to be the best version of you you can be.

Set yourself small goals so you can achieve them and feel you're getting somewhere instead of looking at the whole amount you want to lose and getting disheartened. Once you start to see an improvement, you'll feel so much better and more motivated. You can do it!

You're not disgusting. Being overweight is nothing to do with you as a person, it's a state that your body is currently in and it can change. You're changing it.

I think of a quote that always makes sense to me:
"Being overweight is hard, losing weight is hard... choose your 'hard'".

There's so much support here, it's a tremendous resource.

You are worthy of love just how you are. Choose healthy habits because it will make you feel better, not for an arbitrary number on a clothes label or a scale.