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Are you a feminist? Just a yes or no.

999 replies

RedHareWithBlondeHair · 09/02/2018 17:16

No need to go further into your reasoning if you don't want to but this has always a been curious issue to me and came up today with one of my colleagues. She is a feminist by how she described her beliefs but doesn't actually adopt the term.

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AssassinatedBeauty · 09/02/2018 19:44

@DreamyMcDreamy one or two posters in 350 or so messages. That's clearly not representative of all "MN feminists", or feminists generally.

Lovelylovelyladies · 09/02/2018 19:44

Sorry should have said "ugly"

CaptainHammer · 09/02/2018 19:46

Yes.
Hopefully the no’s are just people who think feminism means man hater (though it’s not exactly difficult to skim this thread or google what it really means)

DorotheaHomeAlone · 09/02/2018 19:49

Yes.

Truthstar · 09/02/2018 19:51

Yes - me
Yes - dh
Yes - ds
Yes - dd 1
Yes - dd2

PoppyCherry · 09/02/2018 19:51

Yes.

I believe men and women should be equal

I say thank you to whoever holds a door open for me. And I hold doors open for others. And I say ‘you first’ if I approach a door at the same time as anyone else, male or female.

I am bringing DS and DD up in the same mould.

I am genuinely interested to understand why people would say no to this question.

MarthaArthur · 09/02/2018 19:52

Yes. Possibly a radical one.

AlexD72 · 09/02/2018 19:52

I know what it means. I know it is not just about hating men. I am not a feminist.

upsideup · 09/02/2018 19:52

Im not sure. If its yes or no then yes but theres an awful lot of the feminist movement thats not for me and I dont want to be involved in, the idea behind feminism I agree with 100% but personally the words just lost its meaning, I guess I would describe myself as a Sex-positive feminist.

RoryAndLogan · 09/02/2018 19:54

@AlexD72 do you not believe men and women should be equal???

EmpressOfJurisfiction · 09/02/2018 19:54

Yes.

jamaisjedors · 09/02/2018 19:54

Yes

AwkwardSquad · 09/02/2018 19:54

YES.

OVienna · 09/02/2018 19:55

Yes

RoryAndLogan · 09/02/2018 19:55

I know it is not just about hating men.

@AlexD72 It's not at all about hating men.

OCSockOrphanage · 09/02/2018 19:55

Yes.

BestIsWest · 09/02/2018 19:57

Yes

tuttifritti · 09/02/2018 19:57

Yes of course

IfNot · 09/02/2018 19:59

What about a #metoo movement where ugly women stand up and say I didn't get the job because I was ugly.
Surely that's the other side of the same coin?? Valuing women (or not) based on their looks?

FionaJT · 09/02/2018 20:00

Yes

NathanTheProphet · 09/02/2018 20:00

Not really.

emptyshelves · 09/02/2018 20:00

Yes

Luisa77 · 09/02/2018 20:01

Yes

Stmoritz · 09/02/2018 20:01

Yes

StarsAndWater · 09/02/2018 20:02

Yes with bells on.