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Does anyone look forward to their partner going away?

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MycatsaPirate · 12/01/2018 10:47

DP is away overnight tonight, works Xmas do and then back tomorrow. Leaves again Sunday morning for two weeks. This is not a regular occurrence, we haven't been apart much in the 6 years we have been together except when either of us have been in hospital.

I have 12 books unread. I have Baileys. I have chocolate. I have the sofa. I have sole charge of the TV. DD2 and I can gorge on broccoli without him whining about the smell :o I can have whatever I want for dinner without worrying about cooking a proper meal for him. It's easy to cook for DD2 and she doesn't insist on 'proper' meals so will be happy with risotto, soup, something on toast etc.

I will have the whole bed to myself. I won't have someone insisting on reading random crap off the internet to me while I'm trying to read.

I will miss him, he's a good guy. But, it's also going to be quite nice at the same time!!

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BarbaraofSevillle · 12/01/2018 11:01

Why can't you eat what you want when he is there? If he wants a 'proper meal' and you don't, he can cook it himself.

You just say 'I'm having egg on toast for dinner, do you want some, and he either says yes or no.

DancesWithOtters · 12/01/2018 11:09

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MelloDee · 12/01/2018 11:20

Yes. I wish he worked away more often.

I live him, he's also a good guy. Thinks the world of me. But as a quiet introverted person who needs regular time alone, I love it when he works away.

The bed to myself, no snoring, duvet/mattress hogging and excessive body heat keeping me awake all night. Eating rubbish food. Binge watching the programmes I love but he hates. The bliss of just sitting in silence. Reading a book without interruptions.

Yep. Love it. Wish it was more of a frequent thing.

juddyrockingcloggs · 12/01/2018 11:23

I love the idea of it! However, when it comes to him not actually being away I sit there all mardy!

juddyrockingcloggs · 12/01/2018 11:25

Not 'not actually being away'! I'm mardy when he is!

Oldraver · 12/01/2018 11:25

Although I dont say it out loud... one thing I love about OH being on nights is a whole bed to myself

FakePlantsOnly · 12/01/2018 11:26

Yes! My DB and DP work for the same company and have their Christmas do at the beginning of next month. DB's girlfriend and I have been planning our girly night in together with no boys for weeks

letsdolunch321 · 12/01/2018 11:26

Love, love, love it.

Can do my own thing as and ehen I please.

Enjoy Grin

BilliesBollocks · 12/01/2018 11:28

I love DH being away for a couple of days.

I have soup for my tea (I love soup, DH hates it), watch shit TV and spend the evening MNing.

DH was away a lot last year which was great. He hates being away and has said he'll avoid it as much as possible in 2018. Bastard Sad

SeaToSki · 12/01/2018 11:29

I love it too, the kids and I have dinner on our laps and watch tv, no one else to have to plan around etc. Then its also nice to miss him and welcome him home, absence does make the heart grow fonder.

Blizy · 12/01/2018 11:32

Yes! My dh used to work away from home and unwound only see him at the weekend, however, he gave up that job when our ds was born and now works a mon-fri job 10 mins away from home.
So after 12 years of me being used to him working away it was a struggle to "learn" to live with him again!
I love when he has the odd boys weekend away, I get the house to myself!

Blizy · 12/01/2018 11:32

Oops, sorry for the typos. I had surgery yesterday and I'm a bit out of it on pain
Relief!

TheGirlWithAllTheFeathers · 12/01/2018 11:36

I enjoy having me time as well. Used to be better when the kids were at uni but they're back now so at least I get the bed to myself!

Ragwort · 12/01/2018 11:36

Love it Grin - my DM still loves time alone, she is 85 and is delighted when my Dad goes away for a few days.

I asked my DH if he liked being home alone when I am away and he said 'not really'.

Like Blizy my DH travelled away a lot when we first got together and I am just very, very used to being on my own for 2-3 weeks at a time so it is strange now that he is home so much (works from home as well most of the time).

We don't even share a bedroom when he is here so I don't know why I find it so hard to have him around !

Sheeeesh · 12/01/2018 11:36

I love it even more when I have to work away.

Hotel, no cleaning/tidying/washing/kids to corral, bed to myself, slower morning including coffee in bed.

I come back refreshed.

Sheeeesh · 12/01/2018 11:37

Yeah soup/eggs for tea

Mycarsmellsoflavender · 12/01/2018 11:38

Yes! The bathroom stays clean. Grin

QueenofmyPrinces · 12/01/2018 11:38

My husband goes away frequently, sometimes two weeks at a time and although I miss him I do love it too Grin

Trinity66 · 12/01/2018 11:39

I look forward to everyone going away so i have the whole house to myself but not just my husband going away on his own, I get really cold in bed if he isn't there Grin

Oblomov18 · 12/01/2018 11:39

Love it. Dh only goes once or twice a year, for only one night. Say works Christmas do, plus one other work thing mid year. But I totally love it. Isn't that normal?

RandomUsernameHere · 12/01/2018 11:45

Me! I get to watch TV programs that DH doesn't like, bed to myself with no snoring, wear an old holey T shirt to bed, no one disturbing my sleep.

RavenLG · 12/01/2018 11:47

I absolutely love my alone time, I will say I'm a massive introvert so moving in with DP was a challenge in itself. Luckily he understands that often I just need some alone time (I don't have many friends so I don't often go out).

If it's a weekend I'll slob about, not shower i'm disgusting i know play video games, watch youtube videos, not clean up after myself. It's great, it's like being a teenager again ahah!

Paddington68 · 12/01/2018 11:56

Yes

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MycatsaPirate · 13/01/2018 10:07

If I said to DP that I was just doing egg on toast for tea he would eat it. But he is out doing a hard job (not sat in an office) and is bloody starving when he comes home. He also cooks at least once night during the week and at weekends. I am not going to get into a discussion about our cooking/eating habits.

I am going away with DD2 to France on a school trip for a week. So dp will have the house to himself and then later on in July he is going with her on another residential for a week (lots of physical stuff I can't do) so I will be home alone for a week too.

I would love to say that it was bliss last night but DD was chattering away non stop and then I had a cat man-spreading all over the bed and the kitten was hunting a spider which she killed and then fiercely guarded at the top of the stairs to stop another cat coming up. I had to intervene in the end!

He's back tonight and then away tomorrow. It was actually quite nice to get up and not have to watch overhauling and shed and fucking buried this morning, I must admit!

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Notreallyarsed · 13/01/2018 10:09

DP sometimes goes away with work for an overnight and I love it, because it’s one night for just me. I don’t know if I’d like two weeks though, I miss him after 2 nights!!

And don’t worry OP I get it, my DP isn’t demanding or anything but it’s nice to just flub out and not think of anyone else for dinner/in bed for one night. I don’t think you meant your DP was demanding, just that a bit of alone time is nice.