Does anyone look forward to their partner going away?

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DP is away overnight tonight, works Xmas do and then back tomorrow. Leaves again Sunday morning for two weeks. This is not a regular occurrence, we haven't been apart much in the 6 years we have been together except when either of us have been in hospital.

I have 12 books unread. I have Baileys. I have chocolate. I have the sofa. I have sole charge of the TV. DD2 and I can gorge on broccoli without him whining about the smell :o I can have whatever I want for dinner without worrying about cooking a proper meal for him. It's easy to cook for DD2 and she doesn't insist on 'proper' meals so will be happy with risotto, soup, something on toast etc.

I will have the whole bed to myself. I won't have someone insisting on reading random crap off the internet to me while I'm trying to read.

I will miss him, he's a good guy. But, it's also going to be quite nice at the same time!!

My DH was supposed to be going away tonight. I’ve been looking forward to having the house to myself all week.
Now he’s cancelled and I’m having to act pleased that he’s not going away.

I love it. Nights In watching rubbish on the telly, reading a book, eating whatever I fancy and having a bath are so rare these days. I can do all those things when OH is around of course but it’s nice to have some alone time now and again

DH goes away with work regularly and I love the peace that it brings. The DCs miss him and struggled when they were small but now they get on with it and we potter about quite calmly.

I love DH but being together too much of the time isn't good for us; I need a break from his constant need to talk.

Mine used to be away for 2 months at a time without any contact (HM Forces), so was used to it. Now it tends to be a week away for work, and if he's going somewhere I want to go, like Vienna again (more cakegasms), I'll go, otherwise, I stay home with the cats. A friend's husband is away the same week as mine in late January, so she is coming to stay for three nights, and we will eat out, drink wine, stitch, giggle and watch NCIS. It'll be fun.

I look forward to DH going away, like kids look forward to Christmas

Don't. Dh never goes away. I would kill for a weekend on my own. He occasionally does 90 min bike rides when I am home and it is bloody amazing but usually does them when I'm at work.

I adore him and would be devastated if he weren't here most of the time but time at home alone is something I fantasise about.

Me

We work together so are with each other A LOT.

He goes away overnight about 4 times a month. I bloody love it.
Not because it means I can do what I like, I do that all the time. I just agree with “absence makes the heart grow fonder”

Yes, if it's less than a week. Then I miss him!

I love having the house to myself (and toddler) for a bit. No fancy cooking, no packed lunches to prep, no trying to keep the noise down when we're up at 5am! Evenings to myself. Things stay tidier, just doing minimal housework. We settle into our own routine without criticism. In the evenings I get lots of organising jobs done!

And our DC have left Home now so it’s just me and the dog.

It’s heaven

I' m glad others get it. I was a single parent for 6 years before living with dp and I am very aware of how much I struggle living with someone.

Dp normally takes DD2 to lifeguard training on Sundays so they are going about 3 hours and that is normally my time. Although they are both out during the week I feel guilty if I sit and wallow in the peace and quiet so tend to just crack on doing house stuff. I am determined to make a couple of days just about me in the next two weeks - guilt free!

It's sounds like bliss Lizzie
Once, the DC were away with grandparents and DH got called to an emergency with work 300 miles away. The bliss was unimaginable...

DH travels for work a lot and I love it. Means you can be selfish and make all your plans without having to check with someone.
However THE best bit is stripping the bed once he leaves for the airport so I have a whole bed covered in freshly laundered bed linen! Bliss

Up until late last year DH was working long shifts at all sorts of times over the day and night, so I always had loads of time on my own for about 10 years! I moaned about being on my own all the time of course

Now he works normal hours (sometimes even less than normal hours!) and I crave that alone time. I get so excited when there’s alone time on the cards.

I’ve got 1 hour 13 minutes left today

DH used to work away 3 nights a week at least 2-3 weeks a month, and we both HATED it. Now we both cherish the odd night apart! Last week he said "oh I've got to stay overnight in London for work next week" (he goes to London a lot about usually day trips), and my reply was "oh good, its been ages since i had a night to myself!!" But if its more than 1-2 nights i do miss him something fierce.

It's great, it's like being a teenager again ahah!
When I started living alone after years of cohabiting I had this feeling too, I felt like I was a teenager during school summer holidays where my parents have gone away and left me free reign of the house and I could do whatever I wanted
Such a lovely feeling of freedom 😊

Yes I like DH being away too. He often is away overnight during the week, and once or twice a year he will be away for a week or two.

I don't really notice the odd day, but do like up to a week. I won't turn the TV on, don't have to cook meals, the house stays tidy - best bit, and I get the bed to myself.

Yep, I love it. DH isn’t often away, but he works silly hours at the weekend. I love a Saturday night to myself. Get the kids in bed and relax.

He is going away for a few days with friends soon and I can’t wait. It’s my birthday while he is away and a few friends have asked why I’m not furious with him about this! I really don’t mind, I’ve a nail appointment booked that day, bottle of Moët ready to go in the fridge, going to buy myself some new pyjamas, just got to decide on what yummy food to get in.

I would love it if dh took ds away for a night or two.
But dh going away and me dealing 100% of ds’s chatter and needs is not exactly relaxing!

I love my husband very much indeed but I enjoy it when he goes away for three nights every seven weeks. I indulge in the same way as previous posters- reading, my own TV, silence, tidier house etc.

I even have a special candle I have just for me. It’s wasted on a man’s nose!

Oh and I’m very glad when he gets back however. By Thurs I’m tired and wanting help with the boys!