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Work Christmas night and boyfriend

39 replies

Pickledonion24 · 07/12/2017 20:27

We are having a works Christmas night it’s also open to the public. Boyfriend said he was coming and not going to his work party drinks at the office. I told him to go and not come to mine as I figured it’s was no big deal and his work drinks are a nice thing to go to. All day he’s said he would be coming to mine at 8 and only staying at his for one drink as he couldn’t leave his car at work over night. His phones off or died he’s not turned up I’m hungry don’t no if he’s eaten at or not I haven’t as we where going to have dinner together. I don’t no if he’s staying out all night aibu for
Just wanting a text saying I’m staying out sorry or will be home later. We live together been going out 2.5 years

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Pickledonion24 · 07/12/2017 20:29

I’ve texted asked him what he’s doing tonight and told him I’m happy for him to stay at his work drinks. After I rang him

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just5morepeas · 07/12/2017 20:31

What's your aibu?

Kentnurse2015 · 07/12/2017 20:32

Just do whatever you want to do. Don't try and make plans around him. What's the point? He's not thinkingabout you

AnaWinter · 07/12/2017 20:34

Go to your night out and eat if you are hungry.

Eltonjohnssyrup · 07/12/2017 20:35

Yep, just go ahead with your night as planned on your own. If there is a genuine reason he will understand.

Dozyoldtwonk · 07/12/2017 20:35

Sounds a bit weird. Why would he not want to go to his works party drinks but come to yours instead? Am I missing something?

ThunderboltsLightning · 07/12/2017 20:37

Assume he isn't coming and eat. If he comes later it's tough.

Splinterz · 07/12/2017 20:39

Lost this one from the off.

Frankly it sounds like you don't want him to come to your public works do.

I appreciate I am extremely tetchy today but for the love of God just get on with your do and stop faffing about what he's doing.

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Pickledonion24 · 07/12/2017 20:41

Because he’s the youngest at work there having drinks in the office he didn’t want to have to pay for a taxi home and have to pick his car up tomorrow by getting the bus. He also working on a huge project a didn’t want a hangover at work. I also work 5 mins walk away from work

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Pickledonion24 · 07/12/2017 20:42

Also mine had live stuff happening and some friends of ours where here pluss family

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Dozyoldtwonk · 07/12/2017 20:42

What is your AIBU?

ReanimatedSGB · 07/12/2017 20:43

Just go ahead with your night and do whatever suits you. Especially if this knob's intention in coming to your party instead of his own is to piss in a circle round you and ensure that you don't have sex with all your colleagues in the toilets.

ShirleyPhallus · 07/12/2017 20:44

Just do your own thing then catch up with him later

Honestly this stuff just isn’t worth worrying about

PurpleMinionMummy · 07/12/2017 20:47

Yanbu. It's rude to not turn up and not let you know why/if plans have changed.

SparklyMagpie · 07/12/2017 20:47

Just send a text telling him youve gone to your party, and just leave.

He can always come meet you. I'm also not understanding this? Just crack on, hope you're not planning on moping at home until he gets intouch?

ComedyBoobs · 07/12/2017 20:49

Im not sure I understand, but hope you've had something to eat by now.

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Pickledonion24 · 07/12/2017 20:49

I’ve been here all day haven’t left work at all I’ve enjoyed it with out him dw

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Booboobooboo84 · 07/12/2017 20:51

Just eat if you want food, something has obv come up for him. Chill out and enjoy your night Sharon.

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Pickledonion24 · 07/12/2017 20:51

Well we only have mince pies at work and Christmas Chocolat so I’m ok plan was he was going to take me home from work to eat but now I’m going home with parents so won’t be leaving untill they do and there doing all the clearing up I could walk but it’s down a pitch Black Road

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ComedyBoobs · 07/12/2017 20:53

Sharon?

Dozyoldtwonk · 07/12/2017 20:56
Confused
SparklyMagpie · 07/12/2017 20:57

Definitely Sharon

SparklyMagpie · 07/12/2017 20:59

You've already changed your plans to go home with parents so why does it matter?

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 07/12/2017 20:59

Your parents are there?

Booboobooboo84 · 07/12/2017 20:59

Sharon is homage to a previous poster of almost understandable but mainly nonsense posts