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I just miss her so much

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willthisyeareverbeover · 03/12/2017 20:46

Lost my little sister in June. She was 33. It wasn’t sudden, she’d been poorly for some time. I helped our Mum sort thorough her clothes last night and it’s finally hit me she’s gone, I work full time and have 4 dd’s, I have been keeping myself busy so i don’t have fl deal With it. I’ve never felt so down ever. Really don’t feel like myself anymore 😟

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QOD · 03/12/2017 20:50

Must be surreal. I’m so sorry

kaytee87 · 03/12/2017 20:53

I'm so sorry for your loss Thanks

WentworthMillerMad · 03/12/2017 20:54

SO sorry op, what an awful thing to go through. I am not surprised you are feeling so low.
I am sending you hugs xx

helpmum2003 · 03/12/2017 20:55

I'm so sorry to hear this @willthisyeareverbeover. It will take a long time to come to terms with what has happened. Be kind to yourself. Do you havery someone you can talk to?

formerbabe · 03/12/2017 21:02

That's just awful....I'm so sorry Flowers

PhyllisWig · 03/12/2017 21:06

So sorry for your loss. I had a similar bereavement a couple of years ago so really feel for you.

Loss of a sibling is devastating and the impact can be so overlooked. Look after yourself and take all the love and support you can

mollyt · 03/12/2017 21:06

So sorry....grief is a terrible thing.knowing that other people on MN are going through similar has helped me through some awful times.xxxlots of love to you.x

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willthisyeareverbeover · 03/12/2017 21:09

I have my DP to talk to. She had a son, he’s 10 and comes to stay with us every other weekend or so, I feel more sad when I see him.

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Grumpyoldwoman007 · 03/12/2017 21:14

So sorry for your loss. I think Christmas approaching and the first one without her is just so hard. All I can offer is be kind to yourself and take one day at a time. Grief has no timetable. X

tass1960 · 03/12/2017 21:15

My sister died 8 years ago - 6 months after my mum - I don't think I grieved properly for her at all - I've been having talking therapy recently and it's really helped - I actually miss her more and more as time goes on.

mollyt · 03/12/2017 21:16

You're bound to feel so sad when you see him.really feel for you .look after yourself would grief counselling help?im starting some this week in an attempt to stop going round in circles.not sure if it will help but felt I just had to do something....might be worth a go?

MartysHere · 03/12/2017 21:18

I would say it's natural to feel how you do.
Im so sorry about your sister.
If you'd like to tell us about her, I'm happy to hear.

Raver84 · 03/12/2017 21:26

I just wanted to say I'm so very sorry. Be kind to yourself. When I lost my dad I kept busy but you will have to face up to your grief when you are ready. Even looking at photos was so hard and still is years on but I can now and you will be able to in time. I'm so sorry

MsHarry · 03/12/2017 21:27

Oh how very sad, I am sorry. I lost my DM 2 years ago and although the rawness has faded it still whacks me right between the eyes at times. it's still very early days and everything you are feeling is normal. Be kind to yourself. I found this helpful and comforting.
www.atchuup.com/advice-on-how-to-deal-with-grief/

TatianaLarina · 03/12/2017 21:29

So much love to you. If I lost my sister I don’t know what I’d do. Sad

rainbowruthie · 03/12/2017 21:31

Sending you some kind thoughts Flowers

MsHarry · 03/12/2017 21:32

Also wanted to say that it might be good to make some time for some grief counselling. As you have a busy life it can be easy to not allow yourself that time just to talk about your sister and your loss. Flowers

nannybeach · 03/12/2017 21:33

How horrible for all your family, especially for her son,never had any siblings lost my DM suddenly, and young, June isnt very long away, you never forget, but it doesn get a bit less nasty, and you can hopefully remember the good times.

PoppyFleur · 03/12/2017 21:36

I'm so sorry, 33 years is no age at all. Be kind to yourself OP, you are not only dealing with your own grief but also helping your mum and nephew process theirs. It all takes its toll. Flowers

GabriellaMontez · 03/12/2017 21:48

You know t there is a bereavement section on here under body and soul. Im not telling you to go away... but they may have some words of comfort over there. Not everyone comes on aibu.

33 is so young. No wonder you don't feel yourself. Xxxx

cakedup · 03/12/2017 21:55

Oh that is so incredibly sad. I have a 'little' sister and life would not be the same without her. Of course you don't feel yourself. I'm sorry you lost her. I'm so sorry for your poor nephew as well. I hope you can find some comfort in some happy memories you shared together.
Flowers

Eltonjohnssyrup · 03/12/2017 21:57

I'm so sorry. Reading this though makes me feel that however short her life was, she was lucky to be so loved.

Ilovechocolatetoomuch · 03/12/2017 22:24

I'm so sorry you lost your little sister. I lost both my mum and dad in the last two years and I know too well that feeling off not being yourself anymore. Best piece of advice my mum ever gave me was 'take each day at a time'.
The grief is still there and so real but just focus on getting through each day , especially now you truly know the meaning of life is short.

RoseRuby26 · 03/12/2017 22:28

So sorry for your loss! Sisters are special. Xx

ErinSophia · 03/12/2017 22:35

I'm so sorry for your loss, I lost my brother when he was 6 & 1/2 months and my sister when she was 18. It does get better I promise xxxx

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