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To ask for your biggest regret?

52 replies

2boysandus · 17/10/2017 12:06

Mine is not going to university.

Kind of for the education, though I have an amazing job that I love now, but mostly the experience.

Anything you wish you had done but didn't or anything you did do and wish you didn't?!

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Tumilnaughts · 17/10/2017 12:09

I wish I had broken up with my dickhead ex sooner. He was such a waste of my time. Angry

ParodyPicasso · 17/10/2017 12:13

There are some things I wish I had/hadn't done but I made choices that were right for me at the time - I can't undo or change what is past.

Try not to regret it - you may not have been in that amazing job if you had gone. Plus, it's never too late!

Worriedobsessive · 17/10/2017 12:17

Only one regret : that one New Year when my ex was being a complete arse, I didn't just leave him at Keele services and go home to my mates. I think I was too stubborn somehow, to call time. It is the one occasion I run through in my head where I wish I'd done something different.

It wouldn't have made any real difference to anything but would have given me some of my power back.

brasty · 17/10/2017 12:18

Wish I had had sex with more people and behaved badly more when young.

fedupoflivinglikethis · 17/10/2017 12:25

I have two. One sensible that I really do regret and one not so sensible, that isn't a huge regret. Just a missed out chance.

  1. My sensible regret - i got a big sum of inheritance at 18, and I wasted it. So by the time I had children and wanted to get married - it was gone. I wish I had put it down on a house.
I don't regret how I did my wedding, but it would've been nice to at least have the option of a bigger one.. even though I don't think I'd have had a big one.
  1. My not so sensible regret - I wish I had experienced sex with a female before settling down, having children and getting married. It's something I have always wanted to try. I had the offer once, but I was out with my then ex and he told me not to. Shouldn't have listened to him!
Sarahh2014 · 17/10/2017 12:37

Getting married to my ex husband

MessyBun247 · 17/10/2017 12:41

Letting fear hold me back from making choices that were best for me

humanGnomeProject · 17/10/2017 13:09

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User36367292 · 17/10/2017 13:11

Not following my heart once.

working in a industry that is full of sharks and greedy people.

Orangebutterfly · 17/10/2017 13:24

Not calling out my sister-in-law, brother and mum for their bad treatment of me and my family sooner.

Not having sex with another man other than my husband.

Not having a 3rd child.

Not stopping my in-laws from coming over whenever they wanted too. (My husband gave them a key!). Often found them sitting in my house when I got back from work. We have a new house now and I have made sure that they don't have the spare set.

Letting some friends go over others.

stevie69 · 17/10/2017 13:31

Too few to mention ........

ObvsNC · 17/10/2017 13:33

Told my dad about my rape. He couldn’t change it, he couldn’t undo it, and the thought that he wasn’t there to protect his little girl when she needed him most (in his eyes) broke his heart.

He didn’t really need to know tbh. Sad

Worriedobsessive · 17/10/2017 13:35

Stevie69, you did it your way.

Iamblossom · 17/10/2017 14:16

not leaving my job for one that I get paid less for, work more hours at, experience more stress with, but enjoy far more, earlier.

DaisyRaine90 · 17/10/2017 14:20

Not travelling before I had kids x

hayli · 17/10/2017 14:21

ObvsNC SadFlowers

biscuiteater · 17/10/2017 14:22

Allowing the new dentist to give me the four fillings he said I needed when I was a teenager. He was very insistent and wanted me to have them immediately. I should have been more assertive as I thought it was very odd as I had never needed work before. He left shortly afterwards and not long after the scam was on the news of dentists drilling for cash. Not had any other fillings than those redone periodically. 😢

PlumpkinArse · 17/10/2017 14:24

Spending the years when I was 16-19 in a serious relationship.

I should have been out, flirting, dancing, sexing, taking drugs, getting drunk, travelling, taking up new hobbies, reading, watching films, hanging out with friends.

Instead I wasted those years in a toxic relationship with a horrible boy who used to eat his own bogies.

CoraPirbright · 17/10/2017 14:24

Not having the guts to try and have a go at being an actress. The rate of unemployment in the industry scared me.

treaclesoda · 17/10/2017 14:24

Going to university.

I didn't particularly enjoy it, it wasn't a life changing experience, and it didn't help in any way in securing employment. It was three years of eating toast because I couldn't afford real food, and not being able to afford to make use of the facilities that were all around me (eg sports facilities or joining a society or taking up a hobby). It was thoroughly depressing, sitting watching the world go by when it would have been so much more enjoyable to be earning money.

TuttiFruttiCutie · 17/10/2017 14:24

Oh Obvs x

BarryTheKestrel · 17/10/2017 14:26

Being too much of a chicken to date the guy I liked when I was 16/17. Turns out we both liked each other and were too riddled with anxiety to say anything. I'm more than happy with my life now, but he will always be a massive what if in my life. However we probably wouldn't have the close friendship we have now if we'd been intimate.

Mishappening · 17/10/2017 14:28

Not having piano lessons. As a child, because of finances, I had to choose between piano and singing. I chose the latter, and it has been wonderful and central to my life. But how I wish I could have really learned the piano rather being self-taught. A big gap in my life.

3teenageboys · 17/10/2017 14:36

Not studying medicine at Uni. Did Law instead.
Not challenging my husband hard enough for baby number 4.

Otherwise all ok 😁

mygorgeousmilo · 17/10/2017 14:39

I have no regrets at all.