To not use concert tickets that were a present?

[Paintbox]

More of a wwyd question. Someone close to me has bought me and dh tickets for a concert which is completely the kind of music that we really don't like. It's strange really as the person who bought them for us knows our taste. Is it very bad manners to not go? Should we not go but pretend we went? Or should we go and make the best of it?

The latter you may well enjoy it.

I would go if it was a good friend. My best mate is always persuading me into weird plays and playing me music I've never heard of. If she bought me tickets for something I'd definitely go and make the best of it.

Go! what is it?

If it's not a major problem for you to go (travel or whatever) why not just go? It seems a big shame to waste a free pair of concert tickets. Even if it's not your kind of music, they might be a band that's really good live or it might end up being something you like.

It's pretty ungrateful to not go as long as you're not really putting yourself out there to go. It's one night.

Could you advertise to swop them?

Thanks for the replies. Thing is though I pretty much know we wouldn't enjoy it. It's not a friend trying to introduce me to some new music, its stuff we actually don't like. It's a bit like a heavy metal fan being given tickets to see Steps. That's why it's weird. I'm a bit confused by it!

eBay? :) or is she likely to grill you/find out?

Give them away or sell them. Or offer them back to the person who gave them to you.

I just don't know. I don't want to be rude or ungrateful but at the same time I don't feel inclined to spend a night listening to music I really don't like. I just don't know why they were chosen!! Concert isn't until next year anyway so I've got some time to think about it.

Tricky one! I'd maybe see if you can exchange them for something you actually want to go to! X

This has happened to us on a couple of occasions, and on the one we left at the interval, the other we stuck it out, although it really wasn't our taste.

I suppose it depends how much of an effort it is. I was pretty grumpy about one of ours that was on a beautiful Spring weekend afternoon, when I could think of lots of better things to do - and it was an hour travelling each way.

Maybe an Mner would buy them?? Who is it??

Just give them away on here in return for a review so you can pretend you went

Depends on the friend, if they are messing with you, then I would say I regifted them to someone who would actually enjoy it. If they are being controlling I would give them back and say, sorry, we are not going to use these, not our thing, thought you should use them yourself. If they genuinely think they are doing a nice thing, that is a bit more tricky.

Don't just let them go to waste!

Fine if you don't want to go but at least pass them on either for free or try and sale them, so they get used

I would put them on a resale site.

That's so tricky. I am very fussy about music - adore certain things detest others so can totally understand your reluctance to put yourself through a concert you're not interested in. If I felt particularly devious I would resell the tickets and then after the event has passed tell the friend that you were both sick with d and v on the day so couldn't possibly have made it.

Friend likes the band and is hoping you ask her/him to go with you instead of taking your husband, who definitely won't want to go

I find tickets a weird present. Unless you live near the venue you'll be racking up travel and food costs so if it's a band you don't like, why would you want to spend that money? I wouldn't go.

Yanbu.

Taste in music is a very personal thing. There's no way I could sit through music I hated.

Sell them. The person was foolish to waste money on them.

Thing is when the concert takes place your friend will ask you how it went.

Be honest and give it back to them

I wouldn't. If you don't like the style of music you'll just have a miserable evening.

I had some restaurant vouchers given to me recently for a place I know I'll never eat in. They'll probably end up in the bin unless I can find someone who wants them

Friend does like the band, maybe that's it, she thinks I'll take her. Still weird though as she knows I wouldn't like it. Oh well. Maybe we will have to be unavailable to go for some reason.

@Paintbox
Friend does like the band, maybe that's it, she thinks I'll take her. Still weird though as she knows I wouldn't like it. Oh well. Maybe we will have to be unavailable to go for some reason.

She thinks you will take her?

Has she got a ticket as well?

@Paintbox
Friend does like the band, maybe that's it, she thinks I'll take her. Still weird though as she knows I wouldn't like it. Oh well. Maybe we will have to be unavailable to go for some reason.

She thinks you will take her?

Has she got a ticket as well?

I would go (probably) if it was a short bus ride from my house, and I wouldn't have to spend more than a tenner in total with travel and drinks/food etc.

But most concerts I have been to have been 40 miles away, cost £15 return on the train, and sometimes involved an overnight stay. Minimum £40-£50 for a room. And that's not including food and drink.

So yeah if it wasn't someone I wanted to see, I'm afraid I wouldn't go.

There is no way to 'give the tickets back' to the giver, without causing offence. That said, it is bizarre to buy concert tickets for someone unless you know they love the band or singer.

I would think about selling them and saying you went. Just say 'yeah it was great.'

Tricky one.