To not use concert tickets that were a present?

[Paintbox]

More of a wwyd question. Someone close to me has bought me and dh tickets for a concert which is completely the kind of music that we really don't like. It's strange really as the person who bought them for us knows our taste. Is it very bad manners to not go? Should we not go but pretend we went? Or should we go and make the best of it?

If it's numbered seats for someone your friend likes don't lie and say you went because chances are she's bought the seats next to yours for herself!

Best to be honest and offer them back to her so she can find someone else to give them to or resell, just say the artists aren't your cup of tea and you don't want to see them go to waste.

Notkbownatthisaddress. The tickets were for me and dh, she doesn't have a ticket unless I just don't know about it. Maybe she thinks he won't want to go and then I will take her with me. All weird though, why didn't she just get herself a ticket without involving us anyway if she wanted to go. So bloody confusing. But yes I also do think that it was off of her to buy a gift she knew I wouldn't like. Genuinely confused.

Yes, I also think if you are not going to go then come clean and tell her else it is going to be very awkward later on. If she likes the band then they shouldn't go to waste, whens her birthday .

Cool thanks for explaining @Paintbox

Is the concert far from where you live?

It's a bit odd as a present. I think I would be inclined to go anyway out of politeness. You can always leave early and go for some food / drink. Shows how my mind works

'Thank you so much for the concert tickets, but we actually have something on that weekend with family that can't be rearranged. Is there any way you could make use of the tickets?'

Could she be trying, in her own way, to 'broaden your musical horizons'? I have a dear friend who is into 'death metal' and she's constantly trying to get me (classics, jazz, and 'easy listening') into it. Ain't gonna happen, anymore than I'd try to get her to an opera.

I'd probably go if it didn't involve extra costs like a hotel, new clothes, or expensive transport.

But I'd give myself permission to leave after 1/2 hour if I really couldn't stand it.

WHO. IS. THE. BAND??

I'm a huge rock fan, the louder and faster the better. DD wanted to go and see One Direction (odd I thought as she was also a huge metal fan but I humoured her). With much disgust I pulled on my Metallica shirt to make a statement and went.
It was bloody brilliant.
An excellent night was had by both of us.

Go. You never know

I think it depends on whether it would be just the two of you, or with others, and what the music is. For me there is a difference between not to my taste (such as Opera) and rubbish (Little Mix or Steps barely qualify as music and probably mime).

She's bought you a present she would like. My mum does this all the time. I think lots of people do. Or she bought herself tickets and now can't go so used them as your gift.

It's not your fault she's done it and no reason for you to go and waste several hours of your time doing something you don't want to do. Don't feel bad, she clearly didn't think much about what you would like.

Is the venue close to where you live? Was it ah anniversary present or something? All very odd.

I think I'd contract an illness and thank her profusely but say you couldn't possibly go and did she want them so they wouldn't be wasted!

I would mysteriously 'catch' a nasty bug on the day rendering me too ill to attend the concert.

Nah - I bet she's also got tickets and is planning to turn up and sit in the seats next to you as a 'surprise'

Have you actually got the tickets (You mentioned that it's for next year)? Are they a big band if they are selling tickets a year in advance? I only ask because if she's just mentioned that's what she's got you or has presented you with "makeshit" tickets "for now", maybe she's pulling your leg?

MakeSHIFT not makeshit! Lol though maybe the latter word is better in this situation

I like steps.

Just saying 😍

Is it a popular band? I bet they weren't cheap. Bit of a gamble of her to take if she's hoping you'll take her instead of your DH.

Put them on Stubhub for a tenner just to spite the silly cow