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Loud garden party

29 replies

Littlepleasures · 24/06/2017 17:19

Last year, neighbours 10 doors down had a garden party for their nine year old's birthday from midday to 11 pm. They had music blaring out at nightclub volume during all that time so that, unless you enjoyed that relentless bass beat and the screeching of the overexcited dj, at least 30 neighbours' gardens would have been a no relax zone for for the whole of that day. I remember thinking that I was glad I hadn't organised a party myself for that day as it would have been totally ruined. Same thing has happened today but we've got friends due at 7 for a barbecue and it's going to ruin our night.
My Aibu is this. I know it's during the day and only once a year ( so far this year at least) but surely when houses are so close together it's the height of selfishness to impose that level of noise for such a long time without at least letting your neighbours know in advance so they can be prepared. Aibu to expect some warning from neighbours if they are planning such a loud, long event so that I can adjust my plans accordingly. It's during the day, so I know reporting it will be a waste of time. Wwyd

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insancerre · 24/06/2017 17:21

Move
Or go out for the day
Or just ignore it

Namechange2837 · 24/06/2017 17:21

YANBU OP. I have a massive issue with inconsiderate neighbours - but then me and DH are just quiet people who never make much noise. We also live in an area where there are ALOT of loud people so I totally empathise :( I wish there was something I could suggest, but as you said because it's before 11pm and once a year, there won't be much you can do.

Boredwithmyname · 24/06/2017 17:23

Where I live the council would respond to this type of complaint but I don't know if ours is typical. It is really rude to expect neighbours to put up with this and even more so without warning them.

Namechange2837 · 24/06/2017 17:26

When I've had issues before with a group of students who lived opposite and used to play music from an industrial type speaker all night (till 10am the next morning!!!) it took is over a year to have any impact - police did nothing, claiming it wasn't there business, council sent out noise complain diaries and forms - that was it. It's awful when you don't feel listened to, especially when you're a considerate neighbour yourself. Could you ask them to turn it down?

brasty · 24/06/2017 17:28

It is one day a year so yes I think YABU. And 11pm is not that late. Contact your friends and arrange something else

BLACKTUESDAY1 · 24/06/2017 17:34

Why should she contact friends and rearrange?? It's only polite to let people know that you will be ruining a whole day of their weekend with that sort of noise so they can at least prepare in some way. Selfish!

brasty · 24/06/2017 17:37

Okay don't contact friends and sit in the garden with the music.
Most people tell immediate neighbours about a party, buy not 10 doors down.

Bluntness100 · 24/06/2017 17:37

Meh, we are lucky here, we tend to be very tolerant of each other, about once a year one of us will be noisy, as we are all generally good neighbours, all we really hope is the culprits are having a great time. So for me, for an annual one off, no I wouldn't care and I'd think uou were unreasonable.

Namechange2837 · 24/06/2017 17:38

Most people tell immediate neighbours about a party, buy not 10 doors down - all the more reason if it can be heard that far away!!

brasty · 24/06/2017 17:44

If I was the neighbour and you complained to me, I would ignore you.

I have had 3 parties in 16 years. One neighbour complained the second time, I ignored her. She was not a single woman, but someone with kids and I put up with their screaming in the garden

Heratnumber7 · 24/06/2017 17:56

I hardly think once a year is grounds for complaint.
Why don't you ask them to give you a few days warning next time do you can arrange to go out for the day? Simples.

mtpaektu · 24/06/2017 18:17

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hazeyjane · 24/06/2017 18:21

I am going to say YANBU, but only because the house next door but one to us is having a fucking massive party, from last experience I know it will go on until late. We have to have all the windows closed because of the music and smoke (they have some sort of outside oven and it reeks, pumping out oily smelling smoke).
I don't think it is quite is bad when there is a warning, but we have had bubkiss.

AntiHop · 24/06/2017 18:27

I don't think it's every acceptable to have party that's the same level of noise as nightclub in a residential area. Even if it is just once a year.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 24/06/2017 18:35

An 11 hour party for a 9 year old? Shock

I can't imagine what the invitations said when she handed them out at school? Please come to my 11 hour birthday bash. The longest party in the world.

YANBU for being annoyed although I save most of my sympathy for the next door neighbours.

greendale17 · 24/06/2017 19:00

YANBU

Constant music blaring out for 11hrs is ridiculous and selfish

RhubardGin · 24/06/2017 19:06

Wow! It must be loud if you can hear it 10 doors down!

And it's weird music to play at a young girls birthday party, maybe I'm not down with the kids Wink

You have a few options. Go over and tell them to turn it town. Call the police. Ignore it.

Groupie123 · 24/06/2017 19:19

You need to learn to live with certain things when you're in high density housing. If you don't want to live with it then move somewhere you don't have neighbours.

Groupie123 · 24/06/2017 19:21

You need to learn to live with certain things when you're in high density housing. If you don't want to live with it then move somewhere you don't have neighbours.

hazeyjane · 24/06/2017 19:23

Well yes, you do have to live with certain things, but you also have to have a bit of consideration for each other.

Questioningeverything · 24/06/2017 19:36

I had this with a house 30 houses down (yes I counted, I saw all the crap outside their house from the party for days after too the sloppy buggers). I wanted to cry, from 2pm to 7am it went on.
They purpose built a 'party house' in the garden. Huge it was, size of a 2bed house, had two floors the works. knew it'd be trouble. Must have cost a fortune. Well, so pissed off were the neighbors that they reported it to the council and they had to pull it down πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ no planning permission πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

Piss off your neighbors and it'll cost you more than one sleepless night πŸ˜‚

LaurieFairyCake · 24/06/2017 19:42

You might find if you play your own music at normal volume you won't hear theirs as sound can be funny that way.

Have your own party.

PhyllisNights · 24/06/2017 19:59

They need to be more considerate. Neighbours should be informing you of matters that impact on you in advance - whether that be a loud party running into the night, a private firework display, a bon fire, etc. If I was you, I'd lodge a noise complaint and see how they like that.

crazykitten20 · 24/06/2017 20:26

Screaming kids and barking dogs EVERY day are worse than an inconsiderate loud party once a year (imo)

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 24/06/2017 20:35

I agree, kitten it is only once a year. It might actually be a good time to have a party yourself as it will drown out the noise and distract you. and the music is provided by the house 10 doors down Wink

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