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Bastard bastard bastard bastard bastard! !!!

37 replies

mylittlephoney · 21/06/2017 23:53

Ok bet that got your attention. This isnt about me. But my dsis she is 22 months older than me. We don't always get along. We have our fights and have widely different views on the world. But we do have a lot in common. For example we both met our dh's within a week of each other 22 years ago. And have spent 22 years loving our partners. But this week it came to light that her Fuck bag wanker of a dh has had an affair. Not only that but he Loves the skankey cunt. So dear readers in a huge AIBU should I fill his underpants with chilli oil? Take out an advertisment for stud services in his name? Rub his precious bike saddles (Sad wanker is an avid cyclist ) in ground up glass. Piss in his car. Sign up his mobile number to the EDL appreciation society.
Or sadly not say anything as my dsis has asked and just ignore the cunt for the sake of my beautiful neices.
(This is of course lighthearted) I could and would never do this irl . But my deepest sadist self wants too.
I hope the wanker is unhappy for the rest of his life and the skankey cunt he's now with has syphilis.

OP posts:
KC225 · 21/06/2017 23:56

We are sensing your disappointment but how is your sister doing?

Jakeyboy1 · 22/06/2017 00:00

Find her the best solicitor you can and send some unpleasant health information leaflets to new girlf.

Thekitten · 22/06/2017 00:00

Chili powder in the underwear is a good one...! XD
Seriously, I would respect her wishes for your neices sake. But in my head I'd be imagining all the things... Keying his car, smashing out the headlights. Listen to a song called Crazy Women by Brandy Clark, it's about what women with cheating husbands do to them. If you look on YouTube, someone did a fan video to go along with it with actual examples, including burnt out cars, adverts to humiliate the bastard, etc.
I'm sorry for your sister :'(

ErrolTheDragon · 22/06/2017 00:01

Chili oil on the bike saddle?

But nah. Try to divert your righteous indignation into positively supporting your DSis and her girls, rather than wasting energy on him. He's not worth your effort.

Storminateapot · 22/06/2017 00:06

Oh what a bastard. Save your energy for going with her to CAB and a Rottweiler lawyer. Keep the torture ideas for the nights when she's wavering and missing the fucker, she'll appreciate the humour. Poor love, just be there for her, hope she's ok xx

IFartGlitter · 22/06/2017 00:15

You could make a small slit in the cheating bastards bike seat, it only needs to be big enough to insert a few well placed dried chickpeas... failing that you could do what someone did near where I live and flypost your local area.

Bastard bastard bastard bastard bastard! !!!
mylittlephoney · 22/06/2017 00:17

Thanks for replying. She's angry and more than a little upset. Her dd's are just 8 and 12. So devastated. He's sleeping on the "couch" as she's letting him stay untill he can find somewhere to rent. She is dignified and amazing in my eyes. She had seen a divorce specialist and he had advised her to keep it neutral for the kids. She'll live in the family home till the youngest is 18. I love her and admire her calmness. If this has happened to you I admire you all. It has affected me in that I want to be her big sister not her baby one. But all I can offer is someone to scream and cry at. It feels so insignificant in comparison. .

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highinthesky · 22/06/2017 00:18

Why is revenge your business on this occasion? Confused

applesareredandgreen · 22/06/2017 00:22

highinthesky because she is so angry on her sisters behalf

PunjanaTea · 22/06/2017 00:24

highinthesky the OP is ranting and letting off steam on MN. What is it with this trend for obtuse responses?

C0RAL · 22/06/2017 00:28

Why until the youngest child is 18? Do you inagine that the child will be fully supporting themselve and living independently by then ? If not, where will he / she love if not with their mother ?

What if they decide to go to university ? Where will they live in the university holidays ?

The best thing you can do for your sister is help her work out answers to questions like this and get the best possible settlement for her and the children.

Hit the bastard where it hurts - his wallet.

ShakingAndShocked · 22/06/2017 00:30

Honestly honestly the single best advice I can offer is that your DSis absolutely gets the best SHL she can find (so not ness the first one she's seen ikwim).

Clearly the pastoral needs of the girls come first but beyond that the single best thing/s she can do is/are:

1: SHL, just vital;

2: To remember he is no longer her friend - she can trust nothing he says or does, nothing. She is no longer his priority and nor is it likely that even DDs are (horrific but often true, ESP when someone is so in lurve doncha know hun?'

3: I know so many people (of both genders) who have been screwed over as they sought an 'amicable' solution divorce wise but the other person (ironically almost always the fucker that blew his/her family apart) having a completely different agenda. Divorce is essentially a contract renegotiation so even in what must be her raw shock, she has to get her business head on and not her emotional head (easier said than done I know).

  1. Is a superb book by a lawyer called Marian (gah, cannot recall surname) which spells out the above and a whole heap more; all vital given process of divorce is alien before you go through it and if you have no clue what you're doing you will get screwed over.


Lastly, I think you're being generous with 'bastard', utter utter cunt is probably a more accurate description. I never cease to be amazed at what some people are prepared to inflict upon those they purported to love Angry
ShakingAndShocked · 22/06/2017 00:33

Name is Marian Stowe - found book, link below. Cannot over-emphasise enough how important this is. Good luck and I'm glad she has you Flowers

<a class="break-all" href="//www.amazon.co.uk/Divorce-Splitting-Up-Advice-Lawyer-ebook/dp/B00RM0ZU6A/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1498087889&sr=1-1&keywords=divorce&tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21" rel="nofollow noindex" target="_blank">Book, 99p on Kindle

WhereYouLeftIt · 22/06/2017 00:45

"all I can offer is someone to scream and cry at. It feels so insignificant in comparison."
It really isn't. Having someone you can trust enough to scream and cry at is massive. (((hug)))

And I second everything ShakingAndShocked said. Pay particular attention to point 2 - HE IS NO LONGER HER FRIEND. He will be rewriting history in his head, and pretty soon he'll have convinced himself that your sister drove him to it, and she deserves nothing from him and he never wanted the kids anyway (they'll cramp his style as a newly-single man). Sounds unbelievable I know, but I have read too many threads on here, of wives wondering who the hell this total stranger is who looks just like their ex but behaves like an evil twin Sad.

Personally I like the idea of pissing in his car. Both driver and passenger seats.

notangelinajolie · 22/06/2017 00:54

Absolutely. Yes to all.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 22/06/2017 01:01

Actually, being the one person she can rant and scream at is highly therapeutic for her. She's having to keep it in for the girls, she's trying to keep calm with the cheating twat - she NEEDS somewhere to vent, and if you give her that, then you are doing her a great service.

Totally get your need for revenge - I've been in your position, and your sister's position, but in the end revenge only reflects badly on you so try and hold it in. Best revenge is to live life BETTER after the cheating scumsuckers have left.

pringlecat · 22/06/2017 01:18

Don't blame the OW. Blame BIL. Whether or not she knew she was the OW, she wasn't the one in a long-term committed relationship with two kids, BIL is the one who should (quite rightly) be the subject of your fury.

Concentrate on being awesome. Help your sister be awesome. Don't tell your DNs what a douchebag their DF is, be amazing and let them work it out for themselves. He'll lose out in the end.

mathanxiety · 22/06/2017 01:19

You are a good sister, and my heart goes out to you all.

I have the great joy of a sister like you in my life. If we had been on the same continent I think she would have torn exH to shreds.

She had to make do with being the person I had 3-hour international phone calls with.

Please print out ShakingAndShocked's fantastic post and share it with your sister.

Leilaniii · 22/06/2017 01:39

Your sister needs a new lawyer. She needs to fight to keep the house forever. She is the one bringing up the children, she deserves it.

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WellThatSucks · 22/06/2017 01:49

I'm with you, OP. Where do you want me to sign him up for the endless pizza deliveries? Wink

Seriously, you're a brilliant sister, you obviously can't do to him all the stuff you'd like to but you are just the kind of support your sis is going to need - yy the middle of the night phone calls. Everyone should have a sister like you. My heart really goes out to her, it's not going to be easy but tell her there is light at the end of the tunnel, she will come through this and she will be a gazillion times better off without the cuntwaffle.

user1476869312 · 22/06/2017 02:03

Rant and vent all you like on here. Be willing to let your sister rant and vent to you. BUT don't badger her to call him names/play spiteful childish tricks on him if she doesn't instigate any such conversation. Support your sister in getting a good lawyer BUT be guided by her as to how hostile proceedings need to get.
Sometimes, people just stop wanting to be a couple. Sometimes they can have a sufficiently amicable separation to be happy co-parents and, later, part of an extended family. There are many worse things to do than end a relationship. Don't leap in with all four feet because of the mainstream view that a breach of monogamy means you have to immediately turn what could have been a civilised negotiation into a war zone.

ladybird69 · 22/06/2017 02:56

I know someone who definitely didn't collect all of her urine in a container for a week then pour it onto his pussy wagons carpet in the height of summer once upon a time. Bet it smelt lovely..........fucking knob.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 22/06/2017 03:43

idontseeit - your comment is unhelpful, rude and unnecessary and would lead one to believe that you are also an "other woman", given your comments.

Justdontgetitatall · 22/06/2017 04:17

I agree Thumbwitches!

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