Bastard bastard bastard bastard bastard! !!!

[mylittlephoney]

Ok bet that got your attention. This isnt about me. But my dsis she is 22 months older than me. We don't always get along. We have our fights and have widely different views on the world. But we do have a lot in common. For example we both met our dh's within a week of each other 22 years ago. And have spent 22 years loving our partners. But this week it came to light that her Fuck bag wanker of a dh has had an affair. Not only that but he Loves the skankey cunt. So dear readers in a huge AIBU should I fill his underpants with chilli oil? Take out an advertisment for stud services in his name? Rub his precious bike saddles (Sad wanker is an avid cyclist ) in ground up glass. Piss in his car. Sign up his mobile number to the EDL appreciation society.
Or sadly not say anything as my dsis has asked and just ignore the cunt for the sake of my beautiful neices.
(This is of course lighthearted) I could and would never do this irl . But my deepest sadist self wants too.
I hope the wanker is unhappy for the rest of his life and the skankey cunt he's now with has syphilis.

Some great advice here, and @mylitle my way of thinking would be same as you!

@thumbs I actually thought it was the OW for a moment until I read last line of idontseeit post. Surprised wasn't a mention that OW is probably really nice and should make effort to meet her for sake of children bollocks.

You ought to not be so bitter, or you'll find yourself in a like situation with a temper like that! Take a word of advice, it is not worth it to get involved in her or his lovelife.

I feel your pain - it happened to my sister and I felt just like you do. Unfortunately hitmen cost too much so I wouldn't try looking .

You know what used to drive my ex BIL mad was we just ignored him and his family. No acknowledgment what so ever - drove him and his family nuts.

Take comfort in the fact that once a cheater always a cheater and karma is a bitch with PMS

I found out last year that my husband that I'd been with for 20 years had been cheating on me, including with a woman I thought was one of my oldest friends.

Get your sister to see a solicitor asap and do not let her believe a word that her ex says. Mine was very keen for us to agree a financial settlement ourselves - it turns out that was because he'd "gifted" his mother a huge amount of money to hide it from me and had lied about the amount of money he'd received from some shares he'd sold, about £400k of money he was hiding or lied about! That's £200k more for me by involving solicitors rather than believing my ex.

Let her talk to you as much as she wants. I had a lovely friend who unfortunately lives miles away, that called me every week to check that I was ok. I can never explain to her, although I've tried, what that meant to me. It genuinely was a life saver. I would also agree with a pp, ignore him as much as is humanly possible. It will drive him mad that she is no longer interested in anything that he says or does. Don't forget that if you damage one of the marital assets the value would be reduced and would affect your sister too - tempting as it is to take a sledgehammer to their car.

It will be really shit and unless you've been there I don't think you can truly appreciate how awful it is but with your support she will get through it.

The OW that my ex is still with also cheated on her husband - what a pair. I can't imagine there being much trust or future in that relationship. Once a cheat, always a cheat.

Keep the revenge fantasies in your head or watch them on YouTube.

Don't sink to the level of this cheating piece of shit.

I would agree with other posters for your sister to be very, very careful re agreements. Keep calm and polite but don't let him shit on her. Also, I would sort out finances now, not have any of this until eighteen business. Get it sorted cleanly and fairly.

Revenge will be when the idiot wakes up from his fuckfest with this naive OW and realises that he's chucked away someone he was with for twenty two years, whilst deceiving himself that he never loved her or some such bullshit. And not living full time with his kids.

Oh and part of the "script" should include the financial stuff afterwards.

Immediately on discovery "you can have x, y, z, I will pay for a,b,c" turns out to mean that I will fuck you over as much as I can. Don't take any verbal promises. Even if sister believes him, he might even believe himself, it will turn into a fuckover.

Agreed - any "willingness" to play fair with money either turns out to be complete lies, or runs out very quickly indeed (as in they change their mind very quickly).
So make sure your sister sees a solicitor and knows where all the money is ASAP before he hides it.
A friend has just had this happen - her ex gave money to a friend of his to hide, just so my friend didn't know it was there and couldn't add it in to what she was owed. Disgusting!
Also - pension. She's entitled to go after his pension as part of her settlement too - make sure she does that.

I want to add to all the great advice that your sister has every right not to agree verbally or in writing to anything the H suggests or wants her to agree on at this stage even if he insists there is a time limit to any offer.

She can say 'I will get back to you after I have consulted my solicitor'. Or even 'I can't give you a response at this time' without any further explanation.

She should also ask that any communication on finances or custody that he wishes to undertake be done by e-mail. If she is not willing to respond to an e-mail she can also say 'Thank you for your e-mail. I am not able to respond at the moment.' She herself should not commit to anything except via solicitor.

Once she has a solicitor, she can tell H to only communicate with her via solicitor.

If she is ok with general communication, she can ask that he contact her only via e-mail and set up a specific e-mail address for him.

She should try to stay in the family home and have child support until the children finish full time education. That made a big difference to me as there are huge costs when your child goes to university.

Keep her calm when she need to be
Keep her angry when she needs to be
Let her cry when she needs to
Help her smile when she needs to

If anyone did this to my sister I wouldn't be responsible for my actions - I get it but she needs someone solid, so squash it as much as you can!

Agree, Imperial, but maybe stipulate until end of full time education or training in case they do something vocational, and no quibbling if they have a gap year.

My parents split up when I was little, so that was my normal, but 2 of my friends' parents had obviously been holding it together until they left home, and split up within a few weeks of them going to university. They had gone through all the changes of living away from home for the first time and were looking forward to going home for The holidays but both sets of parents ended up having to sell the family home and it was quite traumatic for my friends as their stability was sort of pulled out from under them. Many students live in halls of residence and have to leave at the end of term, so need a home to go back to.

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