I might BU here am not sure..NOT a third world issue but irritates me.
I am messy in the bedroom but tidy in the rest of the house. We have 3 kids living here who also have messy rooms but I am of the thinking your space it's up to you.
The "communal areas" are always clean and tidy, I work full time and do all the cooking but we split the household stuff fairly evenly.
OH is only here on weekends and is in military (relevant).
Our bedroom isn't horrendous and is clean but when I take off my clothes I put the dirty ones in the wash (I do most of washing as OH does his on base mainly) and tend to dump the clean ones in a pile by my side of the bed (in no ones way) which OH nags about (his bag will sit in the middle of the room all weekend unpacked).
Despite me asking him numerous times not to OH keeps going through the pile of "clean" clothes and smelling each item (which is really fucking odd - obvs no underwear 
) and then washing everything he deems smelling unclean (IE of my perfume) in the wash.
Today have come home to the jeans I was going to wear on a day out tomorrow hanging out sopping wet which is really fucking annoying - and also clothes that were clean waiting to be put away have been washed again - and I have certain items that need washing a certain way, shouldn't be over washed or need treating with stain remover.
I am in my 40s shouldn't I be allowed a) a small area where I can be messy and b)to want to be in charge of when my own clothes are being washed?
AIBU?!