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Original poster

Partner sent old work colleague a candy crush request

84 replies

Sharimara · 10/05/2017 19:39

I've got a feeling my partner is attracted to his old work colleague.

We've been together a year and he has known her two years. They've not spoken for two years.

He has lots of female colleagues on Facebook as he works in a female dominated environment but he's never asked them on dates or cheated. I genuinely believe that.

Anyway there's a work colleague he seems to want the attention of. Periodically every four months or so he will message her pretending to need some information. Today he's just sent her a candy crush invite. I don't even know what that is. Just saw it on his Facebook (we use each other's Facebook regularly).

He obviously knows I will see it so maybe there's nothing in it.

I don't know really. Part of me thinks I'm being absurd. He's not asked her to meet up or spend time with friends. But he's not seen her in two years. It's odd she's even entered his head. AIBU? And does that make sense?

I've never seen her as a threat as for whatever reason he's never going to pursue her and meet her in person again. But for some reason, every four months or so, he does something to get her attention.

What is a candy crush invite and would he have sent them to a few people? I don't even know how it works.

OP posts:
McTufty · 10/05/2017 19:41

A candy crush invite is about he least romantic (and in fact most annoying) thing you can send on FB.

19lottie82 · 10/05/2017 19:42

You sound a bit paranoid, and dare I say it..... controlling. Sorry.

Has he ever given you reason not to trust him?
If no I think you need to relax and stop analysing insignificant actions like this.

ShowOfHands · 10/05/2017 19:43

See here

MetalMidget · 10/05/2017 19:43

Rest easy, it's nowt sinister! Candy Crush is a puzzle game. You can connect to Facebook friends, but all it means is that you can send them extra lives - you can't communicate through the game, and he could have even sent it accidentally (the game often prompts you to send invites/lives to your entire FB friends list!)

GruffaloPants · 10/05/2017 19:43

I'm always getting candy crush invite. I don't think it means anything other than that the person is annoying. They get credit or something.

SheSaidHeSaid · 10/05/2017 19:44

Are you for real? Seriously?

Maybe he actually did need the info and maybe it was an actual candy crush invite becauae the game automatically sends invites? If he was up to no good I'm sure he would go about it in a much better way.

acornsandnuts · 10/05/2017 19:45

I think that if this was reversed and he was saying you couldn't send a work colleague a candy crush request I would be saying your DP was very controlling and would seriously reconsider your relationship.

JustMumNowNotMe · 10/05/2017 19:46

Wow, im sorry to say you come across a bit intense/controlling OP. Maybe you should stop looking athis Facebook as it clearly does you no good if simple games requests get you so paranoid Confused

GplanAddict · 10/05/2017 19:47

He's known her for two years and they haven't spoken in two years??

retpally · 10/05/2017 19:48

Every four months or so he messages her? Chill out.

TheNaze73 · 10/05/2017 19:59

Smoke the peace pipe OP. A candy crush invite is more likely to get him unfriended than anything else

Iloveanimals · 10/05/2017 20:00

You sound a little paranoid Hmm...
Candy crush is a game. Not crush as in i fancy you. Wink

harderandharder2breathe · 10/05/2017 20:02

You sound paranoid

Candy crush invite is annoying not romantic

I suggest you get a grip

Original poster
Sharimara · 10/05/2017 20:03

He's mentioned in passing that this colleague fancies him and he has no interest and wants to make that clear to her.

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CheersMedea · 10/05/2017 20:09

He's mentioned in passing that this colleague fancies him and he has no interest and wants to make that clear to her.

Mentioned once? Or more than once? Mentionitis?

Dishevelled09 · 10/05/2017 20:14

I think you might be getting your knickers in a twist over nowt. I get candy crush requests all the time on Facebook and ignore them . Just because she fancies him doesn't mean vice versa, highly unlikely he'd tell you she fancied him if he felt the same way. He's probably inadvertently sent a request thanks to bloody fb.

NotACleverName · 10/05/2017 20:15
Hmm

He's been unreasonable for sending the request. Candy Crush requests are annoying as fuck.

Other than that, I think you sound a bit paranoid really.

OnionKnight · 10/05/2017 20:19

I get Candy Crush requests all the time, does that mean those people sending the requests fancy me?

ButtMuncher · 10/05/2017 20:20

Candy Crush requests are akin to someone knocking on your door to sell you something just as you've put a baby down to sleep/run a bath/sat down for dinner/etc etc - and I play the sodding game.

I think you probably know full well what a game invite is but want to pretend you don't in order not to sound completely controlling. And why on earth do you use each other's FB? I've never used nor logged into my DPs cos, you know, it's his. I'm not buying the casual 'we check each others' - you check his because you're paranoid, yeah?

SparklyMagpie · 10/05/2017 20:26

This has to be a joke ? ....right?!

IloveBanff · 10/05/2017 20:29

"he has known her two years. They've not spoken for two years."

Let me guess! Are they mimes?

AShowerOfBastardsTed · 10/05/2017 20:30

You don't know what Candy Crush is? Hmm

AShowerOfBastardsTed · 10/05/2017 20:30

IloveBanff Grin

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 10/05/2017 20:31

maybe it was an actual candy crush invite becauae the game automatically sends invites?

The game does not send automatic invites.

OP, this is a non-issue.

watchoutformybutt · 10/05/2017 20:33

Wtf

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