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Partner sent old work colleague a candy crush request

84 replies

Sharimara · 10/05/2017 19:39

I've got a feeling my partner is attracted to his old work colleague.

We've been together a year and he has known her two years. They've not spoken for two years.

He has lots of female colleagues on Facebook as he works in a female dominated environment but he's never asked them on dates or cheated. I genuinely believe that.

Anyway there's a work colleague he seems to want the attention of. Periodically every four months or so he will message her pretending to need some information. Today he's just sent her a candy crush invite. I don't even know what that is. Just saw it on his Facebook (we use each other's Facebook regularly).

He obviously knows I will see it so maybe there's nothing in it.

I don't know really. Part of me thinks I'm being absurd. He's not asked her to meet up or spend time with friends. But he's not seen her in two years. It's odd she's even entered his head. AIBU? And does that make sense?

I've never seen her as a threat as for whatever reason he's never going to pursue her and meet her in person again. But for some reason, every four months or so, he does something to get her attention.

What is a candy crush invite and would he have sent them to a few people? I don't even know how it works.

OP posts:
StillHungryy · 10/05/2017 20:53

I get candy crush invites all the time everyone must think I'm such a slut!ShockBlush

DontTouchTheMoustache · 10/05/2017 20:54

Don't those invites go out automatically?

StillHungryy · 10/05/2017 20:57

Well tonpeople who play it's just a press of send to everyone you can also Do it for everyone on your friends list

SparklyMagpie · 10/05/2017 22:10

Please tell me you're the OP who's friend was blatantly flirting over height!?

Holowiwi · 10/05/2017 22:15

Are you serious???!?!?!!

QueenMortificado · 10/05/2017 22:18

I couldn't think of a better way of putting off someone who had a crush on me than sending them Candy Crush invites. Maybe I'll throw in a FarmVille one at the same time. Ooooh, and post a minion meme with the crying eyes emoji and tag them in.

Great idea OP. I'm nicking that for myself.

gamerchick · 10/05/2017 22:20

You've posted about this before haven't you? Do you obsess about a lot of stuff?

LedaP · 10/05/2017 22:21

Are looking for a way to justify being wuitr controlling?

Why do you need to use eachothers facebook?

Andylion · 10/05/2017 22:22

He's mentioned in passing that this colleague fancies him and he has no interest and wants to make that clear to her.

Then why is he sending her messages every four months? Is there no-one else who can provide the information he is asking her for?

msgrinch · 10/05/2017 22:23

Bloody hell chill out. How controlling, ridiculous and paranoid. Poor bloke can't even play a game.

Fruitcorner123 · 10/05/2017 22:26

If he hasn't seen her for two years it's likely that she has moved on and doesn't fancy him anymore. He has obviously told you he texted her unless you are checking his phone. Why would he tell you if there was something going on?

SmilingButClueless · 10/05/2017 22:27

How can you not know what Candy Crush is? Confused

Even MPs have managed to figure it out...

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-30375609

KarmaNoMore · 10/05/2017 22:30

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DearMrDilkington · 10/05/2017 22:31

A candy crush invite Grin.

Basically he wants more lives on a game so he can complete a level that's been pissing him off for days.

Smeaton · 10/05/2017 22:31

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msgrinch · 10/05/2017 22:36

Who even plays candy crush any more though? Well apart from my mum and her friends.

toldmywrath · 10/05/2017 22:36

I blocked candy crush invites, so I get none at all. It's just an annoyance.

I wouldn't worry about the invite, but I might be asking why he's contacting someone who he professes to have no interest in. And has told you she fancies him.

mumeeee · 10/05/2017 22:40

YABU. Candy crush is just a game. I know invites often just get sent automatically so he might not even realise he sent one

SemiNormal · 10/05/2017 22:57

Candy Crush invites? Means he must like her? by old work colleague do you mean the girl he sat next to in Maths last year because you sound like your still at school?

Candy Crush indeed. Heard it all now. Hmm

JaneEyre70 · 10/05/2017 22:58

I didn't realise that you had to fancy someone to send them a Candy Crush request. All these years I've been pissed off with them when really it was a secret code. Shit, hope Tom Hardy didn't send me one and I missed it Hmm

user1493759849 · 10/05/2017 23:00

It's not like she is an ex is it? Don't worry OP.

And wtf? What kind of MAN plays candycrush LOL Grin

TheRealPooTroll · 10/05/2017 23:34

It depends on the previous messages imo. If the information he wanted was bra size I'd be concerned.

mygorgeousmilo · 10/05/2017 23:40

Using each other's Facebook accounts is weird and you sound very intense.

NC1nightstand · 11/05/2017 00:06

Aww, I wish the op would come back, I was enjoying the most ridiculous thread ever. Bloody Candy Crush, just when you think you're out.....

chipmonkey · 11/05/2017 00:17

i used to inadvertently send candy crush requests to ALL my friends, including my boss and some work colleagues. I didn't realise that's what I was doing till my brother expressed his annoyance. I mended my ways and stopped playing the game. I did not fancy any of the people I sent the requests to .

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