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AIBU?

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To think DH must hate me

39 replies

Zhan · 30/04/2017 20:33

I'm was having a wee after waiting a long time and DH told me to turn the tap off. Yesterday he called me period peach because I period all over the mattress.
He's decided to get out on a stag night on my birthday and tonight he put a film on for us and then snapped at me when I tried to make conversation. I feel like he hates talking to me.

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PaperdollCartoon · 30/04/2017 20:36

Has he always been like this? Has anything happened recently in your relationship?

Trb17 · 30/04/2017 20:41

Wow. He's horrid. Is this a normal state for you as if it is maybe you'd be best to reconsider things.

John4703 · 30/04/2017 20:42

Sometimes hearing my DW having a wee can be really sexy, did he mean that? (sorry if TMI).
As a man I know that periods happen, ok not now we are old and past that stuff so I think he was BU to make sarcastic comments about it. A cuddle and help would have been a better response in my opinion.
I admit my reply is a bit useless but I have to place mark this so I can see other replies

missyB1 · 30/04/2017 20:45

Did you call him out on each of these things? Ask the grumpy git what his problem is.

Allthebestnamesareused · 30/04/2017 20:46

The only thing YABU about is talking once you put the film on! Why put the film on then to chat. The other things - he is being a twat!

BooFuckingHoo · 30/04/2017 20:47

What a thundercunt.

You can do better OP Flowers

PhyllisNights · 30/04/2017 20:47

I'd be on the look out for a good solicitor if I was you.

steff13 · 30/04/2017 20:48

I'm not sure about the first two comments; was he being mean, or teasing you? I've never heard the term "period peach."

It was rude to go out on your birthday, unless you'd agreed beforehand.

Talking during movies is really annoying, so I kind of get why he snapped at you for that.

Violetcharlotte · 30/04/2017 20:52

He sounds horrid. Are these things typical or has his behaviour recently changed?

Original poster
Zhan · 30/04/2017 20:57

He told me he had a stag night to go to on the 13th. I said "that's my birthday" and he said "oh? Shit. That's me in the bad books then ... " as in that's me upset, not his mates as he has no intention of cancelling that.

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PhyllisNights · 30/04/2017 21:05

Has he always behaved like this or is this sort of behaviour a new thing? To me, those personal comments are misogynistic, and "that's me in the bad books then" comment is not taking responsibility and shifting the blame back onto you.

PrettyGoodLife · 30/04/2017 21:10

It sounds a little thoughtless but not hate to me.

hippoherostandinghere · 30/04/2017 21:14

This guy again. You're just going to get the same answers you got when he sneezed all over your back.

SheSaidHeSaid · 30/04/2017 21:15

Wtf. This is horrible behaviour on his part! I feel upset for you that this is what you put up with.

wheresthel1ght · 30/04/2017 21:17

Firstly period leaking on the mattress is gross so maybe he was trying to make light of it rather than trying to upset you?

Stag night - well he doesn't get to pick the night unless it is his. He could have been more apologetic and maybe say I'd he would make it up to you but otherwise I think you are being over sensitive

Taking over the film - sorry but yabu here too

You seem to be deliberately picking fault in little things - is there more to this?

LedaP · 30/04/2017 21:17

You have posted a few times about him.

He is a dick

Whatthefudger · 30/04/2017 21:18

Period peach?

Evelight · 30/04/2017 21:21

If these are literally the only negative comments, then I feel YABU. Sorry but bleeding over the mattress is gross- DS sometimes gets nosebleeds over pillows and bedclothes and amidst the sympathy and cuddles I am pretty much grossed out and I eventually had to change a mattress because of the bloodstains. Talking while you are watching a film can be really really annoying. "Turn off the tap"- eh, can be said jokingly- doesn't really come across as a hateful comment.

The birthday thing- yeah- maybe have a chat about that- again it doesn't come across as "hateful", rather more so thoughtless.

ThreeFish · 30/04/2017 21:22

Start challenging him then every time he says something.

John4703 · 30/04/2017 21:22

I commented on the first half of the OP.
The second half is yuck. Going out on your birthday is not on. There are three days in every year I will do nothing without my DW,
Her birthday
My birthday
Our anniversary.
That is not really true, if either of us had something very special that clashed with one of the above we might agree to celebrate on a different day I know that as we have agreed that I can be away on our wedding anniversary in May 2018 but I will make sure we celebrate a day or two later
A stag night would not be a good enough reason to miss her birthday.
Your DH is BU

DameSquashalot · 30/04/2017 21:25

It was a bit U for home not to mention the birthday/stab clash. It wouldn't bother me in the slightest, bit of you usually do something then he should have mentioned it.

I bleed very heavily during my period and even with extra absorbent pads I still need to sleep in a towel with a mattress protector underneath, so that comment would piss me off.

The talking during the film would be a bit irritating.

DameSquashalot · 30/04/2017 21:26

Stag stag stag

DameSquashalot · 30/04/2017 21:27

Sorry for my terrible typing...I hope you get the gist.

knackeredinyorkshire · 30/04/2017 21:32

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WankingMonkey · 30/04/2017 21:33

He sounds awful. Though I would probably snap at DH if I put a film on for us both and he kept talking. I hate that so much

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