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To think this was inappropriate?

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Twatsatwork · 30/04/2017 18:13

Went out for work lunch the other day. The head honcho was there and in a silly mood. Basically knows he can do whatever he wants. There was a sharing dessert on the table (some chocolates) and he started giggling and insist that the other boss distribute them to myself and another man: "use fingers! Put it on top of her dessert! Do it do it!" The other boss relented and did it but placed it next to my dessert rather than on top, I assume so as not to make it really awkward. I then ate it - is that weird? I feel like I should have left it

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KinkyAfro · 30/04/2017 18:14

I don't understand Confused

Asmoto · 30/04/2017 18:17

I would have left it, but I don't think you should overthink the matter - I doubt anyone would have paid attention to you eating it once the "hilarity" of its being placed there was over. Head honcho was being a dick - that's what people will have noticed, not what you did with your pudding.

SheSaidHeSaid · 30/04/2017 18:17

I don't understand either. Someone picked up a chocolate with their hands and put it next to your dessert, then you ate it?

HelenaWay · 30/04/2017 18:19
Confused

What was wrong with what he did?

Bluntness100 · 30/04/2017 18:19

I'm struggling to see the issue also, someone put s chOcolate next to your dessert, why should you not have eaten it? Becayse he touched it?

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Twatsatwork · 30/04/2017 18:21

Yeah because he touched it. I feel like others would have left it.

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Twatsatwork · 30/04/2017 18:21

The issue was with the way the big boss was deliberately trying to make everyone feel uncomfortable

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AlternativeTentacle · 30/04/2017 18:25

Huh???

Pettywoman · 30/04/2017 18:26

I'd have eaten it. Why waste good chocolate?

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 30/04/2017 18:28

You have an annoying boss. I don't think anything inappropriate happened over dessert though!

Asmoto · 30/04/2017 18:31

I see the issue - he was trying to embarrass the owners of the sharing platter by 'stealing' something, embarrass the other manager by making him drop it on your plate, and embarrass you by making you the recipient of the stolen food - it's a classic 'I'm the boss and I'll do what I like' scenario - but he's the one who would have looked an idiot, OP, not you - so rise above it and forget it.

sooperdooper · 30/04/2017 18:31

I think you're massively over thinking this Confused

Your boss encouraged another member of staff to give you a chocolate with your desert, and you ate it.

And? Hmm

sooperdooper · 30/04/2017 18:32

The chocolates were for everyone though, so how's that stealing?

Meh I don't get what the fuss is

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Twatsatwork · 30/04/2017 18:35

It was the way he insisted that it was put on top of our food and that the other guy used his fingers to do it.

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GivenupontheGarden · 30/04/2017 18:41

Was there some sort of innuendo to this 'Use fingers!, put it on top of her dessert'? is that what we're missing?

ArseholesOnToast · 30/04/2017 18:44

Had he been scratching his arse or something? Is that why there was all the giggling about using his fingers?

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 30/04/2017 18:46

I can't see anything sexual in what he said? Or were you worried about germs?
Your boss does sound like a bit of a prat.

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Twatsatwork · 30/04/2017 18:46

No i just thought it was odd to specify? It was designed to embarrass as I said

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Elphaba99 · 30/04/2017 18:53

Erm....used his fingers as opposed to what? I'm not sure how else you'd pick up a chocolate?

SheSaidHeSaid · 30/04/2017 18:54

I'm sorry, I still don't understand.

You're probably over thinking the situation

StillDrivingMeBonkers · 30/04/2017 18:55

This is one of those 'you had to be there ' sort of scenario threads. Much like when the comet hit earth and the dinosaurs went extinct

SoupDragon · 30/04/2017 18:56

You think it was designed to embarrassed,

I'm struggling to see what the big deal is really. I mean, he sounds like an annoying twat but beyond that... I've got nothing.

AgentProvocateur · 30/04/2017 18:56

Hmm No idea what's inappropriate about this. How would you lift a chocolate if not with your fingers - chocolate tongs?

Serialweightwatcher · 30/04/2017 19:11

It doesn't matter now because it's done, but if you thought all this what did you eat it for?

Ginslinger · 30/04/2017 19:16

i really believe you're overthinking this

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