To think this was inappropriate?

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Went out for work lunch the other day. The head honcho was there and in a silly mood. Basically knows he can do whatever he wants. There was a sharing dessert on the table (some chocolates) and he started giggling and insist that the other boss distribute them to myself and another man: "use fingers! Put it on top of her dessert! Do it do it!" The other boss relented and did it but placed it next to my dessert rather than on top, I assume so as not to make it really awkward. I then ate it - is that weird? I feel like I should have left it

Yanbu, he should be hung! For, uh, giving you chocolate??

Isn't the issue that he was telling others what to do at lunch?

Was it because you didn't want the chocolate? Was it a control thing?

I barely drink. I've had several bosses order alcohol for me I've specifically declined. I never drink it but I used to find it horribly humiliating when younger.

chocolate tongs

Don't over think it op. The other manager was also clearly uncomfortable or he would have put it on top. The boss made himself look like a prat. That is what people remember, wouldn't make any difference if you hadn't eaten it.

And you got chocolate. So that was a win!

Perhaps he was enjoying seeing you cringe by creating a rather awkward situation?

The best approach would be to not show any sort of awkwardness or embarrassment if he behaves like this socially. Just try and shut it down and change the subject.

Eg, Boss "hilariously" insisting Steve gives you a chocolate with his fingers,
You; Thanks Steve. Have you got any plans for the weekend?

Id have said "you'd better pass me the boss's chocolate as well, he's clearly had too much sugar already, he's gone a bit giddy!"

And the polite thing to do in the absence of tongs or serving utensils is to pass the plate and let her take her own - for those asking what else he was supposed to do.

Agent - Chocolate tongs

No idea what you're talking about.

And there was me thinking we were getting "Did something very silly, please advice" part 2.

I get it...and yes, it would creep me out too. Sounds like a dominance thing.

Ha, same here Phyllis

I obviously have a very dirty mind because as soon as I read OP I assumed she had some sort of mound-shaped dessert- eg a dish of vanilla ice cream/ pudding etc, and so the addition of the chocolate on the top of the dessert would have made it look like breasts. Hence the giggling.

In my defence, we were once served ridiculously breast-like desserts at a lunch (I think the "nipples" were raspberries)- luckily I was with ppl we were comfortable with and we just giggled madly.

If I had been with a "head honcho" though it would have been horribly embarrassing.

Also, is your boss' name Michael Scott by any chance? :)