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To feel like a mum already?

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Manorbier · 30/04/2017 17:56

Ever since me and my partner moved in together in Jan, I 've looked after his 4 yr old stepdaughter, felt more and more broody by the day and recently found out I was nearly 3 months pregnant! Today I spent in soft play with LO, suffering from bellyache, sore feet and needing to pee the whole time I was there and now I'm organising LO and running her bath but I can't wait to get to sleep!! Truth is, it feels like hard work, pregnancy 's uncomfortable but I'm loving every minute of family life.
I even love my 'tum' and boobs!! Me and OH have decided we want our babies close together so any advice on the chaotic years to follow would be appreciated!!

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Oysterbabe · 30/04/2017 17:59

I'd wait and see how you get on with the first one before you get carried away :)

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Manorbier · 30/04/2017 18:02

Thank you !

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Manorbier · 30/04/2017 18:03

I'm probably not realising the work involved!!

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Yukbuck · 30/04/2017 18:03

I'd also wait to see how you get on 😊 so he still has parental rights to his step daughter? How long have him and his ex been separated?

HomityBabbityPie · 30/04/2017 18:04

Before I had a baby I wanted 5 kids.

Now I'm sticking at one Grin

SmileEachDay · 30/04/2017 18:05

I'd be a bit careful with the being a mum to her thing, assuming she has an actual mum. Apologies if she doesn't. Why isn't her stepdad looking after her, as it's him she is there to have contact with?

SmokeCloak · 30/04/2017 18:06

I'd wait until you were about 8months pregnant before you decide you want to get pregnant again.

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Manorbier · 30/04/2017 18:07

Yes he has parental rights it's just that I have more time I suppose and I'm broody I admit I love looking after her - it's all a novelty to me!!

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Manorbier · 30/04/2017 18:08

He and his ex been separated 2 yrs

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Lj8893 · 30/04/2017 18:08

This is a strange post.

SmokeCloak · 30/04/2017 18:09

You don't usually have a 'tum' with your first at 3months.

SheSaidHeSaid · 30/04/2017 18:10

What Lj said

Oysterbabe · 30/04/2017 18:10

I am a bit confused, so the little girl is not his but he was married to her mum until she was 2?

RandomDent · 30/04/2017 18:10

It's nice you're enjoying it. I liked being pregnant.

IAmTheWorwax · 30/04/2017 18:12

Ahh it's all so exciting at the beginning isn't it. It's like starting a new chapter in life.

No advice really, just sleep while you can!

Shakirasma · 30/04/2017 18:13

I'm glad you're happy OP and you love looking after your partner's child (stepchild?). But please don't get carried away, you are not her mum and never will be so be careful not to tread on her actual mum's toes.

Floggingmolly · 30/04/2017 18:14

Why does he have parental rights to his 4 year old step daughter? Very strange tale indeed... Hmm

SmokeCloak · 30/04/2017 18:15

Does your DPs DD still see her mum?

SmokeCloak · 30/04/2017 18:15

Yes it is strange. Doesn't sit right really.

StealthPolarBear · 30/04/2017 18:16

Hmm that is a bit odd. Why does he still have her to stay?

Oysterbabe · 30/04/2017 18:18

I saw in another post you refer to her as your step daughter, is that what you mean?

SmokeCloak · 30/04/2017 18:20

Oh just saw you referred to her as your DPs stepdaughter?

SaorAlbaGuBrath · 30/04/2017 18:21

Not so weird tbf, DP has two DSDs from his marriage (separated 2 years before we met), he's the only dad they've ever known.

StealthPolarBear · 30/04/2017 18:24

Yes saor but the op spends all her time looking after the girl, not her stepdaughter.

StealthPolarBear · 30/04/2017 18:24

Stupid autocorrect. I typed "stepdad" and it corrected it to "stepdaugher" as I pressed post