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Original poster

To expect A level son to have weekend job

153 replies

Gomango · 09/04/2017 17:39

My argument us that he does nothing college work wise over the weekend. Hanging out, being hungover, on gadgets. Refuses to get job til exams done. I eouldn't mind if he was revising or handing assignments in on time.

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araiwa · 09/04/2017 17:40

hes a ft student. why does he need to get a job?

Out2pasture · 09/04/2017 17:42

Are student jobs available in your community?

Original poster
Gomango · 09/04/2017 17:43

A weekend job! To save money for uni, possible holiday with friends after a levels done. It just frustrates me that he's so lazy!

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Kr1stina · 09/04/2017 17:44

Cut back his allowance and it will soon motivate him.

How old is he and how does he get enough money to be hungover every weekend and buy gadgets ?

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Gomango · 09/04/2017 17:45

Touristy area so jobs tend to pick up around now for the season. Know a few younger than him that are applying at local attractions etc

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Crispsheets · 09/04/2017 17:45

Lazy fucker.
Stop funding him.

Itstimetoduel · 09/04/2017 17:45

I don't do anything work-wise at the weekend either, because I work during the week, is that not the same thing?

AnyFucker · 09/04/2017 17:46

Mine hasn't

Babyroobs · 09/04/2017 17:46

My 17 yr old ds does a job after school for 2 hours every weekday. he earns nearly £8 an hour so not bad at all.
It all gets spent on following his football team around the country to away matches though and meals out.
I don't see a lot being saved for Uni !!

CleanHonestGoals · 09/04/2017 17:47

My Daughter is 18 and in her final year of A levels and has had a part time job since she was 16. Most of her friends in similar positions also work.

She works weekends and 1 or two shifts after school through the week. It pays for her phone bill, driving lessons and anything else she wants to.
It doesn't impact her studies and finds plenty of time to revise etc. She does have a great boss though who is allowing her to cut back around exam time though

sillypussy · 09/04/2017 17:47

I got a Saturday job as soon as I turned 16. No reason why he can't do it. Tell him no more Wi-Fi until he's earning.

PNGirl · 09/04/2017 17:47

YANBU. I was in college around 4hrs a day Mon-Fri and worked Saturdays.

Floisme · 09/04/2017 17:48

Don't blame your son - Saturday jobs have all but disappeared. Employers don't seem interested in offering them any more, I imagine because they prefer zero hours contracts. There was even a report about it a couple of years ago.

user1491565842 · 09/04/2017 17:48

just don't give him any money

araiwa · 09/04/2017 17:48

maybe OP should ask at the place where you work weekends if they have jobs for him too

MollyHuaCha · 09/04/2017 17:50

DS aged 16 has a morning paper round. I hour's walk for £3. IMO he's being exploited, but I don't interfere because I think it's good discipline and he does it willingly.

Babyroobs · 09/04/2017 17:50

My ds cleans at his school, he does the changing rooms/ toilets/ mops the floor etc. Most of the other cleaners seem to be students too.

Meekonsandwich · 09/04/2017 17:51

No you're right op, that is lazy, I was a full time student doing my a levels and I would work Saturday, Sunday and Thursday nights. I had time between classes to piss about with my friends and that was at 6th form where you go in from 8.30-4 every day and don't get to go home if you've finished classes.
In my second year I went to a "college" and that was even easier because I could go in late and leave early because I just had to be there for my classes.
And I did plenty of studying and came out with an A* B B.
Even if you need straight A grades for uni, you can do 4 hours of work on a Saturday. It's good practice of prioritizing and organising your time.
It's going to be so much more tempting at uni to not work because you have the student union and student loans. Which could mean no work experience which could really hold them back.

blueskyinmarch · 09/04/2017 17:52

Mine never had weekend jobs in 6th form as they were busy with school work but they did have summer jobs and saved money to use throughout the year. Make sure he gets a summer job and that he knows he needs to use the money from that to fund his social life for the following academic year?

Meekonsandwich · 09/04/2017 17:54

How have Saturday jobs disappeared?!?! Full time jobs may have decreased, but weekend work is well alive where I am, employers jump at the chance to pay a lower wage for an under 18, or 21or 25 year old, for weekends that full time employees hate doing. Retail, primark, McDonald's, clothes shops all require weekend workers and often seek out students.

TinfoilHattie · 09/04/2017 17:54

My 14 year old has just started volunteering 4 hours a week in hte local charity shop on a Saturday morning. I strongly encouraged him to do so, I always worked Saturday and holiday jobs while I was at school and it's more about developing different skills and becoming a more rounded person than it is about earning money.

Summerisdone · 09/04/2017 17:55

YANBU, if he is doing A levels then I'm guessing he's at the very least 16? This means he is at a fine age to have a part time job.
When I was younger DM always said that once we finish GCSE's then we had to get a part time job to fund our social life. Because I had a job whilst in college she would still give me money for clothes and makeup and all sorts of other things, my sister however who is 6 years younger than me, refused to get a job when she was doing her A Levels and would then go mad at DM for not giving her money for anything (obviously all DSIS's necessities were provided by DM) in the end DM had enough and made DSIS go and live with her dad where she got even less, she soon realised her mistake and got a part time job Grin

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Gomango · 09/04/2017 17:55

He has £30 ema and that's it. Refuse to give him beer money. Not sure how he does it to be honest, must have very kind friends. Which i then feel guilty about, but he needs to fund his own lifestyle. Not sure if in laws or father helping him out cash wise.

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DevelopingDetritus · 09/04/2017 17:56

Lazy fucker. FGS, calm down.

SpreadYourHappiness · 09/04/2017 17:57

YABU. No need to force him into work just yet; he's got plenty of time for that. Let him enjoy being young.