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Parking thread with diagram - think IABU

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Mehfruittea · 02/04/2017 17:06

Have attached a diagram.

I live on a street that bends a bit and I am on the bend. One of the neighbours parks their car LEGALLY but right next to the entrance to our drive.

They are not blocking the dropped kerb. But the angle I need to enter the driveway to get my car on means they are in my bloody way.
My hedge stops with a much wider opening to the drive than the actual dropped kerb. It is only one car width and we both use it to get 2 cars on the drive. DH directly straight on. I have to drive in and park sideways as I have been given a ridiculously long rental car while mine is in the garage.

I can't get in, even if DH comes off the drive, I can't swing the stupid long car round without hitting the neighbours car.

I hate him with all my might. I have had to park my stupid long car on the side of the road. So as not to drip feed, I'm disabled and have stupid car as it's the only one I could loan with a hoist to get my wheelchair in. By parking on the side of the road, I can't get my wheelchair out of the car either, and have to walk really far from the road to my front door. So it's a tiny bit more than annoying. But to want to actually kill him is a bit extreme, isn't it?

Parking thread with diagram - think IABU
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Original poster
Mehfruittea · 02/04/2017 17:08

Should have said, blue line is the dropped curb. Green is my hedge 😁

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lokisglowstickofdestiny1 · 02/04/2017 17:11

Bit extreme to want to kill him, however could you ask him to move back a couple of feet to give you a bit more room. If it was me I'd be happy to do this.

GoodyGoodyGumdrops · 02/04/2017 17:12

I don't see the problem. If you're approaching from the left, you can drive forward in an S curve, or drive past and reverse in from the right. If you're coming from the right, you drive forward in a tight curve (which could obviously be impossible if too tight) or drive past and reverse in in an S curve.

TheMaddHugger · 02/04/2017 17:13

can you get a disabled parking line painted outside your driveway ? Through the council... maybe ?

(((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))

GoodyGoodyGumdrops · 02/04/2017 17:14

Could dh park on the other side of your drive, and you approach from the right?

Or you could just explain the problem to your neighbour and ask him to park a few feet back?

bigredboat · 02/04/2017 17:14

Can't your dh park elsewhere until you get your car back?

TheMaddHugger · 02/04/2017 17:15

ohh I re read, its a rental and you arent used to the longness of it

MurielsBottom · 02/04/2017 17:18

Op - Have you actually talked to your neighbour. From your post it doesn't sound like it. Perhaps your neighbour would only to pleased to move his car up a little for you. Especially as it is only a temporary/rental car.

ijustwannadance · 02/04/2017 17:18

Why the fuck is your DH using the driveway if you are disabled and need the space?!

Helloooomeee · 02/04/2017 17:21

Try talking to your neighbour in the hope that they're reasonable people. However, you ANBU to want to kill him if not.
I suffered a parking dispute with neighbours myself and ended up moving to get away. I am certain if I had stayed I would have wound up dead or in prison!

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Mehfruittea · 02/04/2017 17:22

My stupid long car is too long to park straight on, where DH is parked. The angle is too tight to get on the drive to then position sideways.

Sorry I didn't draw the other side of the road. It's difficult to approach from the right because of the cars on other side. The only way I have ever been able to get any car on the drive (sideways in the yellow box) is to approach from the left.

Neighbour is actually from across the road and further up, houses on that side don't have drives at all so lots of cars on both sides.

Council will not paint a disabled space as we have adequate driveway space for parking and do not have regular visits from carers/medical staff.

I don't actually know the neighbour to speak to, as it's only ever there at weekends I'm not sure if they even live there.

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GoodyGoodyGumdrops · 02/04/2017 17:24

Tricky.

Can your dh park on the road until you get your regular car back?

Can MN help you to compose a non-PA letter to leave on the neighbour's car?

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Mehfruittea · 02/04/2017 17:26

No I haven't spoken to him, prefer passive aggressive seething with the occasional outburst of 'fucking twat' whilst attempting to manoeuvre the car, until giving up.

Really want to hurl abuse at rental company for giving me such a twatish long car. It's black as well and looks like a hearse. 7 seats inside ffs.

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Mehfruittea · 02/04/2017 17:28

Sorry, my car would hang off the end of the driveway if I parked where DH is and block pavement for prams and wheelchairs.

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knackeredinyorkshire · 02/04/2017 17:29

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GoodyGoodyGumdrops · 02/04/2017 17:29

Grin(sympathetically)

And I fume in frustration when my 7-seater is in the garage and I get a tiny Fiesta to lug my family of 5 (including booster seat, teenager, school bags, musical instruments and swim kit) around in!

RainbowPastel · 02/04/2017 17:31

Ask the council to widen your dropped kerb. You will have to pay but it will make your life easier. Your neighbour isn't doing anything wrong.

RainbowPastel · 02/04/2017 17:35

Have you tried approaching from the right and reversing in? You aren't supposed to drive in reverse out you are supposed to reverse in drive out.

callmeadoctor · 02/04/2017 17:43

I would ask garage for a shorter car. Alternatively swop with your dHs car!

Northernlurker · 02/04/2017 17:43

You should've reversed the car op.

I think it honestly would be easier

callmeadoctor · 02/04/2017 17:44

Surely both yours and your Dh car both have ability to use a hoist (sensible)

happypoobum · 02/04/2017 17:49

I agree you need to ask garage for a smaller car.

Casschops · 02/04/2017 17:52

You are being a little unreasonable as he may not understand the difficulty you have, he has to park his car some where and not parked illegally. Having said this I can't imagine how hard it is to have to drive a long car that your not used to and have the fall with the difficulty of transfers in and out. Try talking to him instead of seething from afar. Although a good seethe is mighty satisfyingSmile

manicinsomniac · 02/04/2017 17:54

I sympathise; I'm a terrible, terrible parker and maneuverer (sure that's not a word!)

Definitely worth talking or writing to him though; he's likely not aware of the difficulties he's causing.

I once had a holiday rental where we had two cars (I and my children came separately to my mum and sister). We'd been there two days when an irate man came racing out of his house shouting at us to stop repeatedly parking both cars at the top of the hill as he had had to push his wife's wheelchair up the hill twice that week. I was mortified. There were no signs about lack of parking space (road looked quite roomy but apparently lots of spaces were restricted) and nothing in the rental information. I apologised and assured him I would park at the bottom but really, he could have just asked nicely - I wasn't causing him a problem knowingly!

Shamoo · 02/04/2017 18:01

If you have never told the neighbour that is is causing you a problem, and he is parking legally, how is what he is doing unreasonable? I assume he also doesn't know that you have a longer car that is causing you difficulties. If you don't want to talk to him, leave a polite note on the windscreen telling him the difficulties you are having and asking him to shift forward. If there is room for him to park further forward and he then refuses, it is fair enough for you to be pissed off. But it seems unreasonable for you to be pissed off at the moment. Although I totally sympathise, because it sounds very annoying!

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