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To be very sad I don't get anything on Mother's Day

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user1489943514 · 25/03/2017 11:24

I'm a single mum to a 4 year old boy. Obviously he's too young to know what Mother's Day is.

I've no family so no one to buy me a gift from jinx

I don't feel down about spending Christmas or Birthday without a present but I admit Mother's Day gets to me. I feel sad and lonely on the day and dread it each year.

Is anyone else the same.

AIBU?

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Original poster
user1489943514 · 25/03/2017 11:24

Him not jinx

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grannytomine · 25/03/2017 11:25

A hug can be the best gift of all. Will he have made a card at school/nursery maybe?

originalbiglymavis · 25/03/2017 11:28

Aw - why not make a cake together if make tissue paper flowers? Go for a walk in the park and take a picnic? Make it a day for just you guys to have a nice day together.

I don't have my mum anymore so it's a bit weird for me. I'm sure someone will have reminded ds though...

EweAreHere · 25/03/2017 11:29

Go out to a coffee shop and have tea and cake with him and tell him why! Tell him it's Mummy's Day, and that mums everywhere are having little celebrations with their children. Take him to the store and ask him to pick out some flowers that he knows you will love. Give him the money so he can pick them out and purchase them himself.

I know it's not ideal, but it will start letting him know that it's nice to think about other people for a change, and he'll be probably be really excited to pick out pretty flowers all by himelf that he knows you will love.

And hopefully, his nursery has had him make a card; most of them do.

Reow · 25/03/2017 11:30

I resent having to acknowledge it. It's a capitalist hallmark day. Why should a day dictate how you feel or how you should be treated?

It's business as usual for me.

originalbiglymavis · 25/03/2017 11:32

Thrrrrrp misery guts. Not helpful so why bother commenting?

Fauxgina · 25/03/2017 11:34

Teach him how to make it special for you.

"Its Mother's Day today, a day when we let our Mummies know how special they are. Shall we plan something fun? What do you think Mummy would like to do?"

He'll obviously say something he thinks is fun, not for you but go along with it. Suggest he also makes you a cake, then you can get baking together.

Show him how to be a decent young man and a good son Flowers

Original poster
user1489943514 · 25/03/2017 11:35

I don't have enough money to do anything. So we will have to stay in. I can make a cake though or something simple.

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haveacupoftea · 25/03/2017 11:35

Agree with ewrarehere. As with most things in life sadly you have to make it happen yourself!

I have a DP who is not very thoughtful, I am pregnant and would love a little card or bunch of flowers from him for mothers day to show he is excited about the baby coming and appreciates me basically creating it but there is literally zero chance of that happening. But never mind i will get lots of lovely little mother's day kicks Smile

Justanothernameonthepage · 25/03/2017 11:37

I love Ewe's suggestion. This is the time to start a tradition for just the two of you. Next year he'll probably have made a card at school, but for now, just some special thing for the two of you

Funnyonion17 · 25/03/2017 11:37

Aww i can see why u feel sad, but you can plan a special day together and even let him pick you a card.

Spudlet · 25/03/2017 11:37
Flowers

The weather forecast is nice here, how is it for you? Little picnic in the park, maybe?

originalbiglymavis · 25/03/2017 11:38

Living room picnic on the floor? We used to do that on long rainy days with the teddy bears.

mowglik · 25/03/2017 11:38

Why do you have to stay in OP? It's a beautiful weekend, sun will be out. Bake a cake then take it to the park for a picnic with bits from home.

Look out for free things to do in your area?

When your DS gets older he will want to do things for you for Mother's Day but until then make it a special day for both of you

Justanothernameonthepage · 25/03/2017 11:39

What about a picnic/adventure at a local park? My friend has a mother's day beach walk and chips tradition. Every year they pick a nice stone/shell together and it goes into a big bowl. Oh and a photo they take on the day stands next to it :)

Spudlet · 25/03/2017 11:40

Just What a lovely tradition! I may pinch that. Smile

floraeasy · 25/03/2017 11:43

Your boy will be old enough soon enough to get you something.

In the meanwhile, have a fun day out together, and thank your lucky stars you ARE a mother.

(Hope that doesn't sound too preachy, but you know what I mean, I hope).

In the meantime, please have these flowers Flowers.

It's only one day and will flash past if you keep busy and have fun Smile

ButtercupChain · 25/03/2017 11:48

I agree that helping him make a card, and a little cake will be fun. And going for a picnic. Smile This will all teach him about Mother's day for the future.

Wait til your child(ren) are teenagers/uni age, and they are totally capable of getting mother's day card, but just won't be arsed! Little shits... Grin

Seriously, YANBU, and happy mother's day to you! Smile

WildBelle · 25/03/2017 11:55

I understand OP, I'm a single parent too and for years I found it really hard. It's somehow got easier over time though (eldest is 13 now). I sometimes get a card made at school, this year dd2 gave me a plant she'd potted at Rainbows with a decorated pot.

My advice is stay off of Facebook for the day - it's when you see other women being spoilt rotten by thoughtful partners that you feel hard done by!

LilQueenie · 25/03/2017 11:56

I feel the same because her idiot father thinks its waste of money (though bigger tvs and consoles are a must - twat) This year DD noticed mothers day cards in the shop and she wanted to buy one so I said choose one and gave her the money to hand over herself. She was so happy to do it too. She also made a mothers day gift at school and rainbows. Give it time OP it will happen eventually.

GlitterGlue · 25/03/2017 11:56

Does he not go to school or nursery? Or did they not do anything?

There are lots of things you can do out of the house for free. Have a bit of a google for activities in your area.

LilQueenie · 25/03/2017 11:59

Do you have any points on any cards? We like sainsburys. can get a little snack for £5 quite often off the nectar card. If you are staying in perhaps do some pictures then he can make a special one for you. Or a craft of some kind.

LilQueenie · 25/03/2017 12:00

Yep what glitter said. Check local areas. A shopping centre close to us are doing free mothers day pics.

Mermaidinthesea · 25/03/2017 12:01

I think it's really important for children to learn to enjoy giving. can you involve a friend or one of his teachers that can help him make you a card or gift. I think he would be so thriled to give you something.

chickenjalfrezi · 25/03/2017 12:01

Mothering Sunday is not a hallmark capitalist day - it traditionally represents the day that miners and house staff were allowed the day off to go home and have Sunday lunch with their mothers.