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Male work colleague has asked me what size top I want and then told me he'd be ordering the size up from what I asked for because he fits in a large and he "wants me to be comfortable".
Not sure he realises he's just insulted me but aibu to be annoyed by this?
Feel free to tell me if I am because I'm already in a bad mood and my weight it a bit of a sore spot for me. Fwiw I'm a size 8 in tops.

Is he small build? Do the sizes come up small usually?

But a size 8 is small!

Why is a man asking your size and commenting on it? That's a bit inappropriate, isn't it?

Why aren't you ordering your own uniform?

Maybe he was asking what size you normally are but advising to go up a size because the uniform comes up small but in a clumsy manner.

I suspect he was saying he was usually a medium but had to have a large so if you are normally an 8 you might need a 10.

I think not being insulting just saying you need to order a size bigger as they come up small.

If it's anything like the work tops that we have just got at work then he is just saying that they come up small. People at our place who would normally wear 8-10 have had to have 12-14.

I wouldn't say he's small at all but about average build for a bloke. I don't know about the sizes. I haven't seen or heard of them before today.

Presumably you've asked for a small and he's said they come up small so suggests a medium may be more comfortable. Size 8 is small but it might be more like extra small. I think that is fine.

I think you are being over sensitive too. If he's average size then he probably takes a medium but needed a large.

Don't define yourself by your weight. You are worth so much more than what you weigh.

I'd also think he was simoly saying the uniforms come up small and you need to be able to move around and be comfortable in it. I would not assume he was trying to be offensive.

Why is your weight a sore point for you? Do you wish to be bigger and he has hit that sore spot by mistake?

I would assume he meant he's usually a medium but wears a large because the uniform comes up a bit small? Because you're petit he probably wasn't being careful as he assumed weight wasn't a sore point for you.

I also think he was saying the sizes are small so he's order one size bigger for you.

I have to hand out overalls to visitors by guessing their size from looking at them, it's bloody awkward at times, especially when there's a group and I have to give them different sizes.

I don't think he has necessarily insulted you. My work uniforms are smaller than usual sizes. I had to get an order together for my whole team, I explained to them all that they'd need to go up a size but no one believed me!

As they were being embroidered with their name they had to be right so I had some samples for them to try and ever single one had to come back and ask for a bigger size as they'd not taken the sizing advice.

Cheap uniform manufacturers probably want to use less cloth.

The way he told you he fits a large but you see him as average (medium) means it doesn't sound like it was insulting so yes, you're BU.

I occasionally have to order promotional clothing for events and I hate asking people for their sizes. I try and word the emails about it as disinterestedly as I can (if that is even possible). I also include size charts and mention if things run small or large.

I never ever send out a mass confirmation with everyone's size listed, and I will pay a fee for the clothing co to pack and label them individually for me, so people just pick up the bag with their name on when they're delivered to the offices.

I think I am being too sensitive. Better to let it out here than let rip at the bloke when he's trying to order uniform. I think he should have shown us the measurements but I'll leave him to it and send it back if it's too big.
I'm sensitive because growing up I was 5stone (5foot 2 teenager). Whilst I realise that was unhealthy i still miss that size. I don't know why but I've always been petite. Now I'm older that's gone to pot quite a bit and I don't feel like I'm me any more.

Do you have an eating disorder, op? It's not normal to hark back to the days when you weighed five stone, and feel depressed that you're no longer that size.

5 stone is not something for an adult to aspire to, and you're being silly.

If he was saying that he is usually a Medium but for work uniform he's a Large, I think that's OK for him to explain that you'll need one size larger than usual

In my experience work clobber always comes up small. And people do have a habit of saying they are smaller than they are (not saying you are of course!)

You miss the days of being 5 stone and have taken offence to having a bigger size ordered when you are a size 8? You have an issue I'm afraid. Size 8 is very small as it is. I am a 10 and I certainly wouldn't want to be any smaller and am aware I am slim. You seem to think you are not small at an 8.

OP, if you are looking back on that weight with longing, I would gently suggest that you might benefit from some counselling.

Whenever I've been involved in ordering uniforms I always order a size up from what people ask for because sadly, in my experience, women almost always delude themselves about their sizes.

I'm sensitive because growing up I was 5stone (5foot 2 teenager)

5 ft 2 does not make being 5 stone OK!!
My 8yr old weighs more than that