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Original poster

To be cross and upset about this?

42 replies

teahouserose · 02/03/2017 16:11

Had a terrible day, so probably taking this personally (nearly cried as someone parked in my space!)

My washing machine broke last week, and I asked my brother if I could use his until I can get someone out to fix mine. I do loads for brother, including waking him up every morning to get to work.

He is fine with this but keeps forgetting to leave the key for me. For six consecutive days now he hasn't done so, despite me pleading with him every morning.

AIBU? I feel so pissed off.

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andontothenext · 02/03/2017 16:12

Your brother is an arsehole.

Go to a laundrette and make it clear that you're done doing him favours.

You don't "forget" 6 days in a row. Is he normally controlling/a dick?

Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 · 02/03/2017 16:13

You are bu for having to wake him every day.
No washing machine is the worst household disaster ever!!
I would be pd off too.

andontothenext · 02/03/2017 16:13

And he's clearly not "fine with it" Confused

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teahouserose · 02/03/2017 16:14

He doesn't mind me doing it, it's just he's disorganised as hell and forgets but I'm upset that I'm having to buy knickers from Asda!!

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Iflyaway · 02/03/2017 16:14

Is there a launderette nearby that you could use, or have a service wash?

Why are you phoning a grown man up every morning to make sure he gets to work?

I'd be stopping that right now!

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teahouserose · 02/03/2017 16:16

Yeah, it costs a fortune though and to be honest I don't feel laundrettes really clean your clothes!

Oh, he's really bad at getting up and he's just end up being dismissed! Then needing money!

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IamFriedSpam · 02/03/2017 16:17

YANBU it sounds incredibly frustrating, I'm disorganised too but I'd just set myself a million reminders and get it done.

WhereYouLeftIt · 02/03/2017 16:24

"He is fine with this but keeps forgetting to leave the key for me. For six consecutive days now he hasn't done so, despite me pleading with him every morning."
What is stopping him from coming round to your house after work and giving you the fucking key Angry?

humblesims · 02/03/2017 16:26

He's being a dick. Maybe 'forget'' to wake him up tomorrow.

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teahouserose · 02/03/2017 16:27

He does 12 hour shifts, and has a commute so gets home at 9. So a bit late to put a wash on. I however finish at 4 so could nip in, use the washing machine and then go back and pick up clean washing all before he gets back.

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SaoirseLikeInertia · 02/03/2017 16:32

Why don't you nip over at 9, get a spare key, and then come and go as you need to?

Bluntness100 · 02/03/2017 16:34

I also don't understand why you don't just pick up a spare, surely he has more than one key?

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teahouserose · 02/03/2017 16:36

No no spare.

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Megatherium · 02/03/2017 16:36

If he doesn't have more than one key, get a copy anyway.

Original poster
teahouserose · 02/03/2017 16:37

Yes but I have to have the key to do that!

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WhereYouLeftIt · 02/03/2017 16:37

Ultimatum. Leave the key, or get yourself up in the morning. Seriously, who needs someone from outside their house to wake them?

Previously1488218868 · 02/03/2017 16:44

It doesn't take long to handwash a few pairs of knickers...

But I would 'forget' to wake him and see if he remembers the key.

WorraLiberty · 02/03/2017 16:44

You buy more knickers rather than hand washing a few pairs? Confused

melj1213 · 02/03/2017 16:45

Yes he is being a dick but instead of waiting for him to drop off the key, why can't you go and collect it?

Or, with his permission, get the key, make a spare and then there's no problems. That way you can either keep hold of it or he can have it back to keep as a spare for future occasions when he needs to give someone access to the house/

I have a spare key for my parents' house because I look after their pets while they're on holiday (I'm actually at their house now spending time with the cats) but I also have one for my brothers house too. I have never used the key but he gave it to me in case of emergency (whether that is them losing their keys and needing a spare to get in or so I can get in if they're away or some other reason)

WimbledonMum1 · 02/03/2017 16:45

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AyeAmarok · 02/03/2017 16:47

Oh, he's really bad at getting up and he's just end up being dismissed! Then needing money!

Not. Your. Problem!

Seriously, don't be such a sap. Stop being his personal alarm clock. You're doing him no favours, contrary to what you might think.

PointlessUsername · 02/03/2017 16:47

The cost of buying new knickers must cost more than a quick wash in the laundrette?

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teahouserose · 02/03/2017 16:48

Not really. Laundrette is £10. Cheap pair of pants £2.

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WorraLiberty · 02/03/2017 16:51

Ten quid for one wash??

KayVerinder · 02/03/2017 16:51

Don't call him tomorrow and when he asks why tell him you were busy at the laundrette.

Sorted. And stop babying him, he is completely taking you for granted.