To Be A Bit Hurt By This?

[zukiecat]

I should start by saying I don't make a fuss about my birthday and don't expect presents or cards, but I was 50 very recently and no-one even wished me a Happy Birthday at work, but hey ho

However it is a colleague's Birthday today ( not a special one) and I've come in today and there's cards, presents, cakes and the staff canteen has been decorated for her

AIBU in being a bit hurt or am I just being daft?

No you are not that's hurtful and mean

Awww that's not fair at all.
Hope you had a lovely birthday anyway!
Unfortunately some work places are very clicky clicky.

YANBU.
but is there any chance that the other colleague talked a lot about her birthday so everybody knew?

Happy Belated Birthday 🍾🎉🎂

Did they know it was a big Birthday for you?

Yes, I would be extremely hurt. Is the colleague whose birthday it was, high maintanence about their birthday. Everyone knows 2 months before, she keep talking about it etc

That's shocking! Do it for all or for none. Tossers!!

YADNBU that is plain rude!

YANBU I'd be hurt too. That's very thoughtless of them.

That is possible that she talked a lot more about her birthday while I didn't, but even the ones that knew didn't say anything

It is very clicky clicky here though

Thanks for the Belated Wishes!

I think we work at the same place.

Possible atheist

There a probably a few places like this though

Did you not mention it? I wouldn't have been able to resist. Hope you had a happy birthday!

Got to go back now

Tea break is over!

YANBU, Happy Birthday

zukie I meant that my work place was just like yours.

My workplace is like this, some people get collections every time they break wind, other people could have their 50th birthday, have a baby, get married and lose both their parents on the same day and no fucker would bother to comment or do a collection. It's bullshit.

Happy Belated Birthday

My workplace is like this, too. Some colleagues get fawned over and others are forgotten or not acknowledged.

that is so shit. happy birthday!

whenever things like this happen to me i make a point of making sure that the same thing doesn't happen to the next couple of people. eg. if you realise someone's about to be looked over, make sure they aren't. even though it didn't happen for you, you can make sure it happens for someone else and that's really positive.

OP, did your colleagues actually know it was your Birthday?

That's awful I hate this kind of thing. Happy belated birthday!! I hope you had a wonderful day!

I think that's crap, too. Happy birthday!

Just in from work

There were four of us in tonight (local shop) and when I had my tea break at 7pm the table was covered in cakes

When I went to collect my things at 10pm they were nearly all gone, these three women are very friendly together and obviously had their teabreaks all together

So I never even got offered a bit of any of the cakes, I know I'm an adult and shouldn't let things like this bother me, but I also have mental health issues, and massive self esteem and confidence issues, and this has left me feeling like I'm nothing, not even worth a piece of cake

Do I need to just get a grip?

But Thankyou everyone for the lovely birthday wishes

Much appreciated

no, you don't need to get a grip. you need to find some nice people. then it becomes easier to ignore this shit. is there another kind person at work?