To think a couple shouldn't count as one share?

[Mimicat44]

I recently spent a weekend with two friends who are a couple. I'm single with a small baby. I paid half of the accommodation cost and when we went shopping for food I paid half. Now that I think about it though, I think everything should have been divided by three, so a share for each adult rather than them counting as one. AIBU?

That's a weekend in a rented cottage by the way!

Yes amongst our friends we would have split it between 3

Yes, I agree with you. YANBU.

Whenever I've been away with friends, it's divided by adults, not by couple.

Definitely agree with you. Too late now though

Who suggested half each? I would think it's obvious to go thirds on food but maybe 60/40 on accommodation (guessing you had one bedroom each, that is).

I'd expect to split food 3 ways but if you had a room with baby and they had one together then a 50:50 accommodation split sounds fair to me.

Ooh I like these ones.

I think you should have paid half for the accommodation since you had one bedroom and (I presume) they had one bedroom. But yes, I think the food should have Been a three way split - unless your baby eats loads, in which case, a four way split.

Half for accommodation, a third for food.

Maybe splitting the cottage cost in half as I presume you had two rooms ?

But food and everything else should br split by persons.

I had a couple friends who did this. The wife prided herself on 'never taking her bag/purse out anywhere', so we always ended up in two rounds rather than three... It wasn't until we were going on holiday as a five that one of the people bought up the subject of the couple not being a 'one'...they had wanted to split the taxi and other costs as four

Accommodation should be split by room
Food split per person (unless you included nappies and milk and baby food etc in which case baby should count too)

I'd have expected to pay Accommodation 50/50, but food split between three.

I'd agree, half for accommodation, a third for food, although were you buying baby stuff in there too?

To be honest though if they were good friends I wouldn't stress about it.

Most people are saying half for accommodation and a third for food (my baby's on milk that I bring) which sounds right to me. I'd never argue though if they expected half for food as it's not worth any awkwardness, they're very good friends. Thanks!

I remember going to something similar as with a larger groups as a single person with no kids and someone tried tried to split by families which meant they wanted me to pay the same as a family of four! The family of of 4 spoke up and said it was ridiculous and we split it more fairly. I don't think it is always deliberate but I am surprised that one of the couple didn't twig that one person would eat less than two and insist they pay more.

Half for accommodation, third for food.

50/50 accommodation; thirds on food. They were taking the mick on that.

I can understand paying half for the accommodation (assuming one double bedroom each) but the food and everything else should obviously be split 3 ways (baby obviously doesn't eat much).

Accomdation I'd say between 2, but food 3

This comes up time and again, with couples acting as one unit in a round, in taxis etc. I don't understand how anyone can think that if three people go for a drink, the two who are sleeping together should buy one round then the other person buy the next and so on. It doesn't make any sense at all. And the taxi, too. Just because they get out at the same address doesn't mean they only pay for one person - what if they were flatmates or neighbours? Surely nobody would think that applied then.

Definitely food should have been divided by three.

RE the accommodation, I guess it could be argued both ways. If I was part of the couple though, and especially assuming we as a pair were better off than a single person with a baby, I'd think have suggested either thirds or 60/40.

Assuming the rooms were fairly equal and the cost to start with was 1 set price for the place and not per person (with babies usually free) then I'd split the accommodation 50:50.
If the accommodation was per person though then obviously they got a cheaper deal for having you come along and pay half... so it sort of depends on the situation.

As for meals, if you all ordered similar things then yeah it really should've been 1/3s. Otherwise that's really not fair. In future I'd suggest just putting the cash down that you intend to pay, so say your meal was £12 + £1.50 for a drink, then put down £15 so an okay tip included.
I personally don't like splitting meals out like this, as if I order something expensive I feel guilty and if I'm trying to eat cheap to save money then it's not fair having to pay towards someone elses. I think paying for what you got + a fair tip is better all around (because I'm usually skint).

Hmm on fence. If couple shared a room then 50/50 split. They should have put in more for food

Re food and drink - Do they have one plate and 2 lots of cutlery or one glass and 2 straws?
If not then it's ridiculous to split it 50/50.
Accommodation yes as long as you're able to use shared facilities equally or don't get consigned to a small box room while they get a master bedroom with an en suite etc.

I'd say assuming you had a room each (and your baby wasn't in a separate room) then accommodation should have 50/50. The grocery bill should have been split three ways unless you were buying formula / nappies / baby food jars in the shop, in which case I would have gone 50/50 on that too.

Not very good friends if they are happy for you to subsidise their food.