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Biscuit police -AIBU?

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Supermagicsmile · 20/01/2017 07:16

There is no rule on buying biscuits, if the team are gifted any we put them out in the staff room and all enjoy them.

One woman at work had taken it upon herself to monitor and ration the biscuits/sweets as she sees fit.

Yesterday we were given a box of chocolates. I was looking forward to having one but they were not in the staffroom. I was told X had put them away because we already had some biscuits out (they were the dregs of a Christmas box that no-one wanted to eat.)

She will often appear at random times with a new box of sweets/chocolates that were donated and she was keeping 'safe.'

I also noticed that at the end of our break last week she took the whole box of biscuits with her to stop anyone eating them when it wasn't our collective break time (we don't all have breaks together everyday so feel this is unfair as when we are in the staffroom there is often nothing to eat at all.) she has not bought any of these herself so has no more 'claim' on them than anyone else.

Aibu to think it should not be up to her what we eat and when?

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Ilovecaindingle · 20/01/2017 07:17

Maybe everyone should take to calling her 'mother'?

QuiltedAloeVera · 20/01/2017 07:18

Yeah, that is some weirdo controlling behaviour. It's probably her life's dream to be in charge of the stationery cupboard.

thesourceofLoveandLight · 20/01/2017 07:18

yanbu! what a weirdo.

dylsmimi · 20/01/2017 07:20

Next time you see her leaving with them just ask her to leave them as you assume they are for everyone to enjoy.
Yanbu - unless one group of staff members are eating all the biscuits and others aren't gettjng a share but from your op that doesn't seem the case?

Original poster
Supermagicsmile · 20/01/2017 07:21

If any specific group were eating them it would be x and her group as they are often not there when we have our lunch break (an hour before them!)

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clumsyduck · 20/01/2017 07:25

I'm tired and read the first couple of lines as if the team are gifted ( like really clever ) you get bought biscuits 😂😂

Anyway Grin. There not hers to decide what to do with and when you can eat them how annoying .

KC225 · 20/01/2017 07:39

Maybe there are team members who scoff all the biscuits. A thifty colleague would do this instead of going to the vending machine for a snack. And then would say 'If they are on rations, don't put them out for everyone.' whilst walking off with half the packet and NEVER BUYING THE BISCUITS. I bet she has worked with him

FurryLittleTwerp · 20/01/2017 07:49

Perhaps she is creaming off the best ones for herself...

Is she overweight? Or really skinny?

I'd bring it up at a staff meeting. Suggest a Biscuit Monitor Rota so everyone gets a go at Biscuit Controlling.

WhatchaMaCalllit · 20/01/2017 07:55

That would drive me nuts. If I were in your position, I'd have to have a word with her and ask her 1. why she thinks it is part of her role to ration biscuits/sweets in the area when they are out and available 2. why she thinks it is part of her role to restrict access to the biscuits/sweets when they were given to the entire team to consume?
She is on one serious power trip and I'd have to do/say something to her to put a stop to this, quickly.

hmcAsWas · 20/01/2017 07:55

She sounds intensely irritating

FurryLittleTwerp · 20/01/2017 07:58

Throw out the dregs. No-one is going to eat them apart from the birds then the new ones will appear.

EastMidsMummy · 20/01/2017 07:59

I know someone who works in a school office. If they were given a tin of biscuits at Christmas, she would split them up into individual allocations, taking part-time hours into account, wrap them in cling film and hand them out.

Buddahbelly · 20/01/2017 07:59

I'd have to make her a special biscuit Monitor sash she has to wear during work hours, along with a hard hat and a whistle and give it to her as a package hoping she would take the hint that she was being a dick.

But then im petty and this would irritate me massively. Is there anyway somebody else can get to the biscuits before she does, or could you just ask her why she feels the need to monitor a bunch of adults.

FurryLittleTwerp · 20/01/2017 08:01

East that's really bonkers! Fair though, I suppose Grin

WhoKn0wsWhereTheTimeG0es · 20/01/2017 08:07

If you've hot a guzzler she might think it's the only way. I used to work somewhere that did a lot of business lunches, the leftovers would be put in the tearoom for people to pick at but one woman would come and take for example all the cheese off the cheeseboard, wrap it up and take it home.

ChasedByBees · 20/01/2017 08:10

I think having a serious word about how you're all adults is needed.

WhoKn0wsWhereTheTimeG0es · 20/01/2017 08:10

Sorrry, pressed post too soon. We resorted to all appearing en masse to to say "oh, where's the cheese gone, there was lots a minute ago" to nip this habit in the bud, not someone else taking control and rationing.

I would do similar, just say "where are the biscuits please, they were here earlier" and not take no for an answer.

Sassypants82 · 20/01/2017 08:11

I work with someone like this.. She hides the kitchen roll so no more than one roll will be in use at one time... Hmm

tarantulesque · 20/01/2017 08:15

Ditch the biscuits and they're full of crap anyway.

Colleague is weird and OTT...

expatinscotland · 20/01/2017 08:17

What Chased said.

Topseyt · 20/01/2017 08:21

Tell her straight. Ask directly where the biscuits are. Say that they should be left out because they are for everyone. Say too that everyone polices themselves and nobody appreciates her treating them like children.

You need to be direct within reason to people like her. They often don't pick up on subtle hints.

Retweet · 20/01/2017 08:21

I would throw out the dregs, get a new biscuit jar and start my own collection where everyone can help themselves.

This woman sounds mad!

StealthPolarBear · 20/01/2017 08:25

Love this thread

GeekyWombat · 20/01/2017 08:27

I know someone who works in a school office. If they were given a tin of biscuits at Christmas, she would split them up into individual allocations, taking part-time hours into account, wrap them in cling film and hand them out.

Mind = Blown

Although I work in an office where there are 'best' cups and saucers for meetings. Fair enough. Chief secretary (who also keeps the 'special' foil wrapped chocolate biscuit selection in a mini fridge she bought in from home for the sole purpose of that and a pint of milk) recently sent out an company wide email with a photo of a teaspoon on it. It was missing from the set of six. Her exact words were (punctuation included) If this spoon has come into your possession, by accident or deliberate design, please put it on my desk at lunchtime and no further action will be taken.

She has also made a laminated poster with a picture of a Forever Friends hedgehog on it which she's put in the ladies loo with a reminder to change the toilet roll on the holder if you finish the last piece.

Footle · 20/01/2017 08:28

She sounds like the most gifted biscuit in the box.