To take toddler to NY party?

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There's a party tonight and I wasn't going to go, then I thought I might show my face for a couple of hours. I used to see this friend a lot. But DH is going out.

I could still go if I took my 2 yo, my friend wouldn't mind but is it fair on her? I wouldn't stay long, until maybe ten o clock?

I am being UR aren't I? :)

NO YANBU if your friend doesn't mind.

Depends on the party. Family party, lots of kids, you're not being unreasonable at all. Adults, alcohol and no other children? Don't even think about it.

Ask your friend. Make it clear your kid won't be there all night and that you'd like some company for a few hours. I wouldn't just turn up with child in arms without checking first.

I think it's more of the latter but friend does have a DS. She'll probably go to sleep upstairs.

Sorry OP is it correct your DH is going out?

We've had adult parties where there is a child or two asleep in a spare room. If your child won't mind and your friend won't mind then I can't see a problem.

It depends:
-Will there be other kids there or just yours? If it's the latter then YA probably BU
-Will the host truly not mind? Or is she saying she won't because she feels forced into saying it's ok?
-What is your 2yo like at staying up? Mine would have been (and was) fine at that age, some REALLY need their beds at 7.30 on the dot and are horrors if kept up

Wouldn't your friend have mentioned already that it was ok to bring your child, if it was?

Well, I know my friend wouldn't mind. I would definitely check first to be polite but I know she wouldn't be bothered at all. I thought I could just plonk her in friends bed for a bit.

Dont you mind your DH going out and leaving the childcare up to you though?

It's my own fault because I said I was t going to go and now I want to!

Could you go out in shifts, so if you don't mind an early one then you go out first and return at 10 ish when your dh can then go on to his plans?

Otherwise, I'd ask your friend. Even if it's an adults only party, if you are only staying till 10 then I can't see the harm as that's V.early for an adult Nye party.

Will you really be able to have a good time/an uninterrupted conversation/adult interaction with a two year old in tow? I worry that you will spend the whole time with your child as your primary focus, which is a) no fun for you and b) deeply frustrating for anyone who is trying to have a conversation with you.

Call me an evil old child-hater, but I find it very difficult to actually chat to someone who is also looking after a child -- children are very good at getting the attention of their caregiver (for solid, evolutionary reasons :) ) so chatting to someone who is also engaged in childcare ends up feeling like I am wittering away to someone who isn't really listening, but needs me to provide background noise so we can both pretend we had an adult conversation

You know your friend. Mine didn't mind when my DD was small, or when older really as there would almost always be one or two kids in a specific kids room at parties, especially as a good proportion of the women attending were single parents.

Hopefully she will be asleep tiger, the problem is she's just about always with me so if I do see anyone I have to have her with me.

I wouldn't. I've just been to a New Year's party (I'm in Oz) and it had a few small kids and it was bloody annoying and worrying. Pissed men and women shouting and roaring with laughter, alcohol being sloshed about...and this was in a "naice" house with "naice" people. I just felt really uncomfortable.

Like others said: it depends on the nature of the party and how much drinking/partying there is.
I'm taking 6yo DS out tonight to a friend's party and he'll sleep there until we leave (prob after midnight). There won't be other kids but it'll be a low key evening so I think it'll be fine.

Fairly low key I would think ... But I think I'll leave it, she'll be tired.

If he is leaving you to it again I would go, an evening with friends will do you good.

I'd go if friend is ok with it. Why not?
Have a good time

I would and am, depending on the party. I have a 3 and 4 yr old and we have taken them to a friends party since newborn. Buy is is very family oriented. We start early with a meal, dc play together and then fall asleep. Always some sober adults with them (we take turns so people can have a proper conversation).

No don't bring the child.Nothing worse than an adult party with kids there.Changes the whole mood

Depends. Amongst my friends and family children are expected to attend xmas and nye parties & we just adjust bed times etc accordingly.

I think I'll literally stick my head round for half an hour to say hi then go.

We're going to a party tonight. Dc (8 and 4) are coming with and will be the only children. I won't be getting drunk, they will probably end up falling asleep on one of the beds and we'll wake them just before midnight to see in the new year, transfer them in to car and then home to bed.

It's one night a year. Won't do your DD any harm. However, only you know the kind of child she is and whether she'll cope OK or if you'll actually be able to enjoy yourself or not.

If I was in your situation, I would go along and just play it by ear. Nothing stopping you leaving if your DD isn't happy and nothing stopping you staying if she is OK.

Happy New Year!