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Home Educators - I need your collective experience

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BantyCustards · 02/12/2016 19:33

I'm in court in 2 weeks for a final hearing - my ex-partner is trying to force my pre-schooler into school.

Would you follow the link and give me your advice?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/home_ed/2795108-Ex-partner-taking-me-to-court-WRT-HE?watched=1

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user1477282676 · 02/12/2016 21:08

Well....the child is his too. Why do your beliefs trump his?

drspouse · 02/12/2016 21:10

I'm confused - if your DC is a preschooler how can they go to school?

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BantyCustards · 02/12/2016 22:33

Thank you for your stunning insight, user.

Drspouse - because our preschooler will in the not too distant future reach school age.

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user1477282676 · 02/12/2016 22:35

Yes...not at all! You're welcome. Whether you like it or not though, it is a fact. If my husband and I split up and we disagreed on education, he would have as much right as I to decide such an important issue. It's not your job alone.

Crunchymum · 02/12/2016 22:35

I can't click on the link but can you surmise the reasons you want to home educate.

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BantyCustards · 02/12/2016 22:42

And the insight continues....

Yes, user. You are absolutely right. Which is why we are in the middle of a specific issues duspute.

Do you have any other insights? Perhaps a suggestion how we resolve our difference of opinion? Should I just roll over and let him have his way when I do not think it will be in the best interests of our child?

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Lunar1 · 02/12/2016 22:47

Is there an option for part time school, at least for early years then reassess the situation.

user1477282676 · 02/12/2016 22:49

Well equally do you have any more detail!? You've asked for help but nobody knows a thing about the circumstances.

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BantyCustards · 02/12/2016 22:52

User, are you a home educator? If not I don't honestly see how you think you can help?

Thus far you have wasted time stating the obvious.

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BantyCustards · 02/12/2016 22:53

Lunar - there possibly is but the rub with that means that you have to follow the national curriculum as I understand it.

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brasty · 02/12/2016 22:54

I followed the link, there is still no real detail.

longdiling · 02/12/2016 22:54

Perhaps if you'd bothered to reply to the person on your original post they would have offered you even more advice and others would have followed suit. Now you've posted in AIBU you are going to end up having to defend your choice to home educate - perhaps you could use that as practice though!

brasty · 02/12/2016 22:55

What is your ex arguing?

StStrattersOfMN · 02/12/2016 22:55

Well, having HE both DDs, I was going to comment, but as you're being rather obnoxious to user, I'm not going to bother. She's right, your wishes don't trump your XH's, and I really cba to c&p your link with an attitude like that.

user1477282676 · 02/12/2016 22:57

I home educated for some time OP yes. My children are 12 and 8 and they were taught by me for a year.

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BantyCustards · 02/12/2016 22:57

Long - if the person who had replied to my post in the education forum had replied before I posted here in AIBU I would have replied to them.

The education forum is quiet - I am on limited time. I posted here for traffic.

My thread specifies that I'm asking for help from fellow home educators. I am in no way responsible who decides to post what on this thread.

Does that clarify things for you?

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ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 02/12/2016 22:58

Does your ex have parental responsibility? What sort of access does he have to DC?

What are your issues with mainstream schooling and his with home edding?

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BantyCustards · 02/12/2016 22:59

Great user - hope it was a positive experience.

I'm asking for help - do you have anything useful to add?

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user1477282676 · 02/12/2016 23:01

Well Banty it's impossible to add anything useful as all you're doing is attacking people. When you've explained the circumstances, then I MIGHT have something useful to add...as others might.

Answer the questions It'sAllGoingToBeFine asked and we will be able to help!

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BantyCustards · 02/12/2016 23:01

StStratters

I did not say my wishes trumped my ex-partner's.

You are free to post wherever you want to just as I am free to reply to members who are just wanting to be goady.

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BantyCustards · 02/12/2016 23:03

I didn't attack you, user.

You accused me of believing my wishes trumped his - we simply don't agree so we are using court to help us resolve the issue.

I asked for help, not having the obvious stated.

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ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 02/12/2016 23:03

Ok. Have read other thread. The judge will want to do what is best for the DC, not what is best for you or exDP.

You need to be able to explain, with reference to your child, why Home Edding is the right choice for them. You need to explain why mainstream schooling is not the best choice for your DC. You will also need to be able to show how you are going to provide your child with a full education that will not disadvantage him compared to his peers.

StStrattersOfMN · 02/12/2016 23:07

User wasn't goady, it's a perfectly relevant fact that your XH has as much right to decide on his child's education as you do. You, on the other hand, appear to have rather an attitude problem.

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BantyCustards · 02/12/2016 23:08

Crunchymum

I already home educate eldest DC - have done for nearly 3 years. It's gone well.

Ex was all for youngest DC to follow suit but now that I have left him he has changed his mind.

I can't give more information really. All I'm looking for are links to anything that may be useful - articles, research etc etc.

I'm pretty much out of steam right now and though the power of MN may be useful.

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BantyCustards · 02/12/2016 23:09

You are entitled to your opinion, Stratters. I'm afraid I am going to have to disagree with you.

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