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To try and get my son's Pokemon card back.

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user1478448728 · 09/11/2016 10:59

My son had his 2 friends round yesterday. One child showed an interest in a Pikachu card and asked to "borrow" it. Was told no as it is my son's favorite card. 2 children left home and immediately after I noticed card has gone.
I know it is only a card, but my son is upset it has gone.
I do not know which of 2 kids took it, but I suspect it was the one who kept begging to "borrow" it.
Should I leave it as IT IS JUST A STUPID CARD or pursue it with the child's mum as I now do not want the child back in the house in case something else gets pinched?

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PilkoPumpPants · 09/11/2016 11:00

How old are they?

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user1478448728 · 09/11/2016 11:00

Personally I think I should have polite word with the prime suspect's mum to make her aware there is a chance he is stealing. Doubt I will see the card again, but I get on well with the other mum.

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user1478448728 · 09/11/2016 11:01

6,7,8. My son is 6. Prime suspect is 7.

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user1478448728 · 09/11/2016 11:02

The prime suspect is normally a nice kid, but very immature for 7 and acts more like 5/6.

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PilkoPumpPants · 09/11/2016 11:05

You sound a bit ridiculous over a pokemon card however if your ds is upset the simple thing to do is message the parents of the boys and ask if they accidentally took the card home with them.

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user1478448728 · 09/11/2016 11:08

It is RIDICULOUS! It is a bloody card with a picture of a Pikachu on it....however my son is very upset. It is important to him.
Thanks for the advice, I will ask the mums about "accidentally" taking the card and if that does not work, it is tough cheese for my son.
The whole Pokemon craze is nutty anyhow!

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Mybugslife · 09/11/2016 11:11

Yes it is only a card but at the end of the day a child has stolen someone else's property...just a card or not...that's not okay and his parents should know.

My dd once took a building block from her nursery. Just a plain boring old building block that wouldn't have even been noticed to be missing but I believe children need to learn right from wrong so I made her take it back and apologise....which is just what this kid should do!

RhiWrites · 09/11/2016 11:17

If you don't get it back I have one he can have. PM me?

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user1478448728 · 09/11/2016 11:26

Thanks Rhi I am cleaning the house now, so searching from top to bottom for the card. There is a tiny chance it may show up, but not holding out much hope.
Problem is I do not want the suspect back in the house. The 7 and 8 year old are related to each other and visit my son as a pair, so that may mean he loses both friends. However there are other issues with both of them which give me cause for concern and I was on the verge of stopping them coming to the house prior to the card going missing.
I know it is something minor, but this is the straw that broke the camel's back for me.

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user1478448728 · 09/11/2016 11:27

I should add the other concerns I have about this duo are far more serious than a bloody card and I have concerns their attitudes may rub off on my son.

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PoldarksBreeches · 09/11/2016 11:30

Kids steal coveted cards, it has happened to ds and to my shame he also stole one (I found out and he returned it plus some of his own pdq)
It might seem stupid to us but they can get very upset so you should absolutely follow it up. Be aware the other parent might not give a crap though.

FeliciaJollygoodfellow · 09/11/2016 11:32

I don't think it's minor. Just because it's a card doesn't diminish your son's feelings. Children of that age can be as passionate about a card as they are about an expensive console - although which one is potentially more expensive is debatable!

Definitely call the mum and ask her. I'd also take up RhiWrite's offer if it isn't returned.

Dizzybintess · 09/11/2016 11:39

I had a friend as a teen who was slowly pilfering off me for ages she took loads of naff naff and Bennetton t shirts and jeans and she took a fleece the worst thing she took was a swatch watch that my grandma bought me 2 months before she died and my friend knew it was precious.
My mum asked for the items back and was told that she had not taken them, despite them being on her washing line at the time.
Definitely ask for them Back or the theiving will continue

User1234567891011 · 09/11/2016 11:40

You should talk to the parents and explain you think their son might have 'misunderstood' yours and taken the card by 'accident'.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 09/11/2016 11:44

I have an 8yo who is very into Pokémon cards too. He'd be pretty upset if someone took his favourite card, and yes, I would look past the fact that it is just a card with a silly cartoon character on it, and call the parents to ask if X had accidentally taken it home with them, as it was missing and DS couldn't find it, and was upset about it.

It's not so much that it's a silly card, to your DS (and mine) it's a valued possession, and someone else has had the cheek to just walk off with it. Show him that that is not the right thing to do, and that it shouldn't just be ignored.

I hope you get it back by the way - it's not like you can just go and buy another one, you have to keep buying the sodding packs until he finds another one!

TheSnorkMaidenReturns · 09/11/2016 11:44

Are you totally sure it wasn't swapped or lost in a battle (or whatever it is they do)? If you are, do text the mum 'to see if it has been taken by mistake, as you know they were all messing around with it'. Or something similar.

GrinchyMcGrincherson · 09/11/2016 11:50

I would ask parents to check if either child has taken it accidentally. Just say they were playing with it and now you can find it. Tell them you've been tearing the house apart and would appreciate them checking kids pockets just in case. If you stay neutral parents will likely check. If you call their kids thieves and liars they will likely just tell you to piss off.

EdmundCleverClogs · 09/11/2016 11:56

I'd ask the parents 'if it was taken by mistake '. I used to collect them a million years ago and would have been devastated to lose my shiny Charizard favourite. If I still had them, I'd happily send them to you, but long gone I'm afraid.

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user1478448728 · 09/11/2016 11:58

We will try the accidental thing. It could not have been lost in battle as I was in the room at the time and no battles went on.
I am at the end of the road with these 2 anyway. I think the parents of the 8 year old are using me a bit as they go out for hours leaving 8 year old with me as unpaid babysitter, but son hardly ever gets to play at their house.

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User1234567891011 · 09/11/2016 12:03

Let us know what happens OP

TheSnorkMaidenReturns · 09/11/2016 12:06

Good luck.

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user1478448728 · 09/11/2016 12:13

I should add I am vulnerable adult so people can take advantage of that and these parents I think are taking the mick a bit. My son had a babysitter last week as I work some evenings. When I got back she described my son as lovely but said other kid was "hard work". He had been told to leave by babysitter, but he came back to the door mithering to see my son multiple times. My son liked the babysitter but other child said she was useless and he did not want her back again. If I wanted a kid entertainment service I would have hired a clown.

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sherbetpips · 09/11/2016 12:16

When my nephew was little some older boys persuaded him to 'trade' some of his cards for better ones - they pretty much nicked all his good Pokemon cards and replaced them with rubbish ones. Sister was fuming!

YummyMummyInWaiting · 09/11/2016 12:17

It's the principle that the boy has taken something that doesn't belong to him.

A Pokémon card to an adult is a silly, ridiculous thing to be upset about but to a small boy it's a big deal, something he loves has been taken.

If you don't mention it to the boys mother you are sending the message to your son that it's ok for his friends to steal his things.

mikeyssister · 09/11/2016 12:18

Can you post a picture of the back of the cards as DS has loads from when he was a child and I'd send them to you if they matched.

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