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To let my baby sleep??

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LouBlue1507 · 27/09/2016 07:28

Hi ladies!

My LO is nearly 9 weeks old and since 6 weeks she's been sleeping through the night! (Yay!).

She sleeps in her Moses basket from 10:30/11:00pm right through to 06:00am when DP wakes up to go to work. He'll change and feed her and bring her back to the room.

I'll then have her in bed with me, we snuggle up and both sleep in until 9:30/10:00am! (Lucky I know!).

When I've talked about how lucky we are with other people (DM, MIL, other mums etc) they're horrified! They've told me that I should be getting up with her at 06:00am too and get her into a routine. I've been lectured on how awful it is to bring baby into bed for a cuddle!

I really have no need for an early morning routine yet and love love love our morning cuddles Sad Am I being selfish to bring baby in bed with me for a cuddle and a cheeky lie in??

We do have our own little routine throughout the day etc. It just doesn't involve early mornings!

AIBU??

OP posts:
rhiaaaaaaaannon · 27/09/2016 07:33

Yanbu. Enjoy it now, it's all part of bonding.

It probably won't last though unfortunately, unless you are very lucky!

SpongeCakeBigPants · 27/09/2016 07:37

YANBU It sounds like you've got into a pretty good routine already if she's sleeping through and you get a lie in!

Enjoy this precious time and don't worry about what other people say.

Champagneformyrealfriends · 27/09/2016 07:38

Enjoy it-DD slept through and slept late until about 12 weeks and she now routinely wakes at 7 (still not too bad!)

DragonMamma · 27/09/2016 07:40

I don't think it's awful but I wouldn't do it - mainly because I'd rather focus on getting more of my evening back rather than having them going 10-10

onemorecupofcoffeefortheroad · 27/09/2016 07:40

Take no notice of them - people always have some judgement or other on how parents should be raising their children and this will continue throughout your DD's life. Just don't talk to them about your early morning snuggles and enjoy them while they last.

RainyDayBear · 27/09/2016 07:41

YANBU, enjoy it! DD slept in until then at that age, sadly at 8 months she's up at 6am most days. It's completely pointless to try and get them into a routine that young in my opinion! Enjoy the sleep Smile

passingthrough1 · 27/09/2016 07:42

I'm lying in bed with my baby now. He woke "only" 3-4 times last night and is older than yours so I'm obviously horrendously jealous...!
I really hate this stuff about getting into bad habits. If the bad habit is enjoying time with my baby, feeling less stressed, letting him get all the sleep he needs etc so be it.

MrsSparkles · 27/09/2016 07:42

If it works for you and you're both happy don't worry about what everyone else thinks!

HarleyQuinzel · 27/09/2016 07:42

Nope, my DS had a phase where he was waking at 10am it was fab. Now he's up at 6 like clockwork so enjoy it!

Do what you want, until he/she is 6 months they won't have a clue what's going on.

user1471507699 · 27/09/2016 07:43

She is a newborn baby, why does her routine need to start at 6am?! Enjoy the lovely lie ins whilst they last. She will most likely naturally shift to earlier bedtime and earlier wake up. Besides if you get her up at 6, she will miss out on that sleep, which she needs, and become overtired.

Artandco · 27/09/2016 07:43

I would and did do it. It was super handy and still is. I was self employed and it meant after a few weeks I could work from laptop 6am-10am whilst baby slept

My eldest is now 6 years old and sleeps 9pm -8am school days, but often 9/10pm-10am weekends when again it's nice to have a few hours to get some work done or up and shower or simply lie in also

HeCantBeSerious · 27/09/2016 07:43

YANBU! Mine were the same (but they mostly slept in my bed from birth). They'd sleep from midnight till 11am-ish from about 8 weeks. Sadly most baby groups/classes were earlier in the day so I'd take them and they'd sleep through them! Had countless people telling me I needed to be getting them up at 7am "for when they went to school". Hmm

They're dyed in the wool night owls (as are their parents) so it worked for us. Enjoy it while it lasts!

Evergreen17 · 27/09/2016 07:43

Enjoy it!!! Honestly some people! I am 20 weeks pregnant now and already got some "lectures" from others Envy
It sounds like they are jealous to me. You are bonding nicely and there will be plenty of time for routine.
Enjoy your cuddles and tell them to go get lost

passingthrough1 · 27/09/2016 07:44

Also I co-sleep (not something I'd wanted to do initially but the only way to get him to not wake up hourly). The horror on some people's faces when you say that! What am I actually supposed to do, go back to getting 2 hours sleep a night and raise a painfully tired, angry, unhappy baby for the sake of not getting into a bad habit?

00100001 · 27/09/2016 07:45

Let her sleep!

Maybe suggest to those helpful people thatvyoubwill come round to theirs and wake them up at 5am, you know, to get them into a routine Hmm Grin

Zippidydoodah · 27/09/2016 07:47

I remember that beautiful little bubble- first baby, no need to get up or do anything in the morning. I had a very similar routine (though my first went to bed earlier than yours and woke up once for a feed, before the 6.00 feed and sleeping til 9.30-10. After a while, I decided to get up while she slept and get a shower/cup of tea etc. On my own before she woke up.

It was bliss. Enjoy every wonderful second of it, because it reeeeally doesn't last long, and then if you have a second baby, you will have a toddler to look after and there'll be no morning cuddles til 10.00!

Just don't tell them what you're doing if they're going to get all horrified on you! Grin

MimiSunshine · 27/09/2016 07:51

If she's actually awake until 22:30/23:00 then what would be the point in putting her 'to bed' earlier, she'd get upset and you'd be up and down the stairs all night.

If she sleeps say 20:30-22:00 wakes up a last feed before bed then she still doesn't "need" to be put to bedst 20:30 if it doesn't suit you.

But with all things baby related (whether it's sleeping through or seeing 'every hour') then "this too shall pass" is always appropriate. If the former then a growth / development spurt will knock babies out of whack for a bit and if the latter well it won't last forever and they will suddenly like to sleep for more than 90mins st night

Pistachiois50pmore · 27/09/2016 07:52

Oh god YANBU at all. There's some sort of Victorian mentality here that the earlier you get up the better a person you are. I hate it when people go "you should get up and dressed with the baby at 5.30 then put them down for a nap at 6.30". Erm that's not a nap mate, that's still the night.

We're the same - not quite as good as baby usually wakes at 5, but still very much back to bed until 8.

switswoo81 · 27/09/2016 07:56

My baby was the same at that age. I miss it so much. She was a winter baby so we would lie looking out at the cold and the rain. I read about 30 books on mat leave. happy memories. She's still a fantastic sleeper at 19 mo and has a great routine.

SovietKitsch · 27/09/2016 07:57

My DD was like this, and I tried to change it a few times out of guilt that I shouldn't be in bed til ten, but on every occasion she was grumpy and cross until I went back to bed with her - so we promptly went back to that rather lovely routine until she was 6 months and never slept again

You may find you can't change it even if you want to!

Original poster
LouBlue1507 · 27/09/2016 07:59

Thanks ladies, I feel so much better already. I guess I just feel people think I'm lazy and I'm really not Sad!

DD has always stayed up late and now it works at DP works until 6:00 then does work at home until 9:00pm so he likes to spend some time with her after that. He also loves the morning cuddles in bed with DD on the weekends! Grin

OP posts:
rosegold33 · 27/09/2016 08:00

Very similar situation here. I too have 9 week old who is sleeping 11.30-7. I've just fed her and she will
Go for another sleep beside me for hour or so.

I tend not to listen to many people- do what's right for you.

Shutupanddance1 · 27/09/2016 08:09

I'm the same - I've a 10 week old and love the morning lie ins.. Baby slept last night from 9.30 - 4 and then 4.30 to 9.30..

Hate that all baby groups start at 8 and 9am - my baby is asleep most of the time! She's been a great sleeper since birth though so I'm hoping any development leaps she takes doesn't Feck us over!

helenatroy · 27/09/2016 08:12

Hope I get one like yours

liquidrevolution · 27/09/2016 08:13

Enjoy it! I did exactly the same with my DD. If you do the same thing each day it is a routine. Babies are not born being able to tell the time so it makes no difference.

And learn to be selective with ignoring/listening/worrying about other peoples advice...