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AIBU?

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To let my baby sleep??

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LouBlue1507 · 27/09/2016 07:28

Hi ladies!

My LO is nearly 9 weeks old and since 6 weeks she's been sleeping through the night! (Yay!).

She sleeps in her Moses basket from 10:30/11:00pm right through to 06:00am when DP wakes up to go to work. He'll change and feed her and bring her back to the room.

I'll then have her in bed with me, we snuggle up and both sleep in until 9:30/10:00am! (Lucky I know!).

When I've talked about how lucky we are with other people (DM, MIL, other mums etc) they're horrified! They've told me that I should be getting up with her at 06:00am too and get her into a routine. I've been lectured on how awful it is to bring baby into bed for a cuddle!

I really have no need for an early morning routine yet and love love love our morning cuddles Am I being selfish to bring baby in bed with me for a cuddle and a cheeky lie in??

We do have our own little routine throughout the day etc. It just doesn't involve early mornings!

AIBU??

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tibbawyrots · 27/09/2016 08:14

Enjoy it. You've a newborn who sleeps through and this is working for you both.

It's jealousy. Ignore it.

LadyConstanceDeCoverlet · 27/09/2016 08:19

Presumably the routine that all these people think you should get into includes a daytime sleep for the baby? Why is it wrong if that sleep is between 6.30 and 9.30 a.m? And there is definitely nothing wrong with having an early morning cuddle with the baby.

londonrach · 27/09/2016 08:20

Jealous! You very lucky. Just nod and do what you feels right, its your baby. Enjoy it..we were only up 4am and 6am so not bad but id love to stop that 4am nappy, bottle but a few wks ago it was 2am as well so pleased just the 4am at the moment. Enjoy the cuddes my new born is leaving the new born stage and becoming a baby at the moment (sob).

RB68 · 27/09/2016 08:25

If you are happy with what you are doing I would stick with it and just keep telling every one how lucky you are = far better to have a chilled out baby getting enough sleep etc. You can later on start to get an older child into sleep routines that fit with working life better.

I have always been super chilled about the whole routine thing until more recently when mine started secondary and I can see she is tired, so I try to make sure she is in bed for 9.15 and lights off around 9.30 for a 7am get up. But she has never really needed alot of sleep over night - usually 8hrs ish and struggles a bit to go off if there isn't a level of background noise to lull her off (I always let her go to sleep amongst us when she was tiny due to prematurity and being able to keep any eye on her as due to habits in scbu she was a front sleeper no matter how many times I turned her over etc

KayTee87 · 27/09/2016 08:27

Do what's right for your family.

We prefer to treat any time between 7pm and 7am as night time as we prefer have our evenings and we're both early risers anyway.

During those times baby is in our room/in his crib and the lights are out, no unneeded nappy changes and no chatting etc.

My baby is 8 weeks so we're still working on this as he still needs a night feed. Last night he was bathed at 6.30pm, fed at 7.00pm and was asleep for 7.30pm, he then was fed at 1am and 6.15am. He was wide awake at 6.15am but I kept the lights off and things quiet until 7.00am.

This works for our family but my husband is home from work at 4.30pm so he can spend time with baby then before bed time.

Wish babies could tell the time

PuntasticUsername · 27/09/2016 08:29

But.. You ARE in a routine, and it sounds fricking awesome! Tell them to go swivel. It'll all change in time (because everything does) but in the meantime if it's working for you, enjoy it. In the early days it's much more important (imo) to prioritise maximising sleep over instituting routines. Plenty of time for that later.

jobrum · 27/09/2016 08:31

Jealousy. If it works for you do it, what you do at 6 weeks is not going to have any effect on sleep/routine in months time. I bet someone has used the phrase "you'll spoil her" at some point too.

I would definitely do what a pp suggested and occassionally get a cup of tea and beeakfast or a long shower on your own. Only because its someting I miss!

diddl · 27/09/2016 08:42

Perhaps others feel that you are boasting about it?

Who gets up at 6am if they don't have to??

I remember morning sleeps of 7-11 with my PRB, but my goodness did I need it as he was feeding 2/3hrly through the night!

Another time I found myself ironing at 5.30!!

Do what suits you & make the most of it!

chocolateshortcake · 27/09/2016 08:44

We did exactly this. I loved my morning cuddles. Just don't tell them, it's your baby and none of their business what you do! The cuddles are part of the routine.
Anyway. The baby will make their own routine.

Enkopkaffetak · 27/09/2016 08:52

DD1 was like this and she never outgrew enjoying snuggling down in the mornings. Even as a 5-6 year old she would regular show up for a morning snuggle with us in the bed. She is 18 now still adores a lie in and will get completely wrapped up in her duvet and nice and cosy.

Loads of people told me it wouldn't last with her and that I was making a rod for my own back. I am pleased I stuck with what I instinctively felt was right for my family as I look back on those early years with joy.

ChickyDuck · 27/09/2016 09:07

As my mum would say: NEVER WAKE A SLEEPING BABY (unless there is a medical reason to do so). It's basically her motto!

sleepy16 · 27/09/2016 09:11

Bloody enjoy it! Life's to short and baby's don't stay little for long.
I am slightly jealous as my 8 month old is a very poor sleeper and wakes up between 4/6 times a Night.
But my eldest ds was a great sleeper so can not have it all.
It's non of anyone business anyway, I'm sure as your baby gets older sleep patterns do seem to change a bit other then my little girls sleeping habits
Enjoy

muminmanchester · 27/09/2016 09:15

God no! Sleep while you can!! X

redexpat · 27/09/2016 09:17

Invite them over for 6am to get her into a routine.

What is this obsession for a routine? You have one ffs. It works for you. They're just jealous I think.

welshgirlwannabe · 27/09/2016 09:23

Do NOT wake your baby. You have a good thing going. Enjoy it. When my baby was tiny we could snuggle up in bed until 11.00 some days, he didn't care as long as he has access to the boob.

Now at 6 months he is active, squirmy, and when he wakes at 7.00 that's it, we have to get up.

Enjoy this while it lasts, it sadly will not last forever!

SeenYourArse · 27/09/2016 09:30

Your routine is almost exactly the same as ours has been with our now 15 week old baby only my DH doesn't do the morning feeds and changing. My LO now mostly sleeps solid 11pm until 7/8am so I just get up then he feeds is changed and we play for an hour hen he has an hours nap when I get showered and ready.

Elephantsaremygods · 27/09/2016 09:32

Good god no, let her sleep!

Btw my son did this til he was 3 months. Now he never fucking sleeps doesn't.

Enjoy it while it lasts as it could all change :)

KnitsBakesAndReads · 27/09/2016 10:04

YANBU! Enjoy those sleepy cuddles. I've never understood why some people think it's a bad thing to enjoy cuddling a baby! If it's working for you then stick with it.

Worieddd · 27/09/2016 10:07

Absolutely nothing wrong with that! Enjoy it

NaturalRBF · 27/09/2016 10:10

I'm so jealous she STTN my 15 month old has only done that twice in her life!

Snuggle that baby and have all the sleep

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LouBlue1507 · 27/09/2016 13:44

Thanks for your reassurances! DD slept until 10:30 again this morning and I enjoyed lying next to her doing my online shop guilt free

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helenatroy · 27/09/2016 13:46

What a lovely way to spend a morning..

TheHubblesWindscreenWipers · 27/09/2016 13:52

Christ on a bike. Have the lie in!! Enjoy the cuddles! Ignore anyone telling you to get up!

My ds sleeps in twenty minute bursts. Sometimes he doesn't sleep at all. He's usually up for the day at four.

Enjoy it and never, ever wake a sleeping baby.

Vanillaradio · 27/09/2016 13:56

Enjoy it! She has absolutely no need of a routine yet. Ds was similar at that age and it was lovely (sadly it all went to hell at about 18 weeks!)

OhhBetty · 27/09/2016 14:12

Let her sleep. I used to do this with my son until the bloody sleep regression when he was up every bloody hour.

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