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To ask How did a peadaphile see my baby?

51 replies

MrsCK · 08/09/2016 19:13

Police had evidence but he hadn't been convicted. Child and baby porn. How on earth was he not prevented from living a life where he had access to children before he was sentenced?

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Skittlesss · 08/09/2016 19:15

:( big hugs. Not too sure what's happened, but it sounds awful.

TaterTots · 08/09/2016 19:17

With zero context how is anyone supposed to answer this?

Soubriquet · 08/09/2016 19:17

What sort of pictures you taking?

Normal children photos or...not nice photos?

Did he take them himself or was they stolen from the Internet?

Sorry to hear you are going through this though

Soubriquet · 08/09/2016 19:17

Talking not taking

MrsCK · 08/09/2016 19:21

He was actively seeking sex from underage children and had the vilest photos you could imagine on his computer.

Of course none of his friends knew. So he carried on as normal whilst being investigated which included seeing, holding, touching my baby.

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ChampagneCommunist · 08/09/2016 19:22

So, he's a relative? A friend?

Soubriquet · 08/09/2016 19:22

So how did he get access to your children?

Did you know him? And therefore trusted him and let him alone with your baby?

Skittlesss · 08/09/2016 19:22

Ok, if he was under investigation then he should have been given bail conditions regards children. Did he ever have time alone with your baby? Have you spoken to the officer dealing with the case?

Queenbean · 08/09/2016 19:22

How do you know him?

Skittlesss · 08/09/2016 19:23

She may not have known about the investigation...

SarcasmMode · 08/09/2016 19:23

I'm confused how does he know your baby and have photos of them?

So sorry you've gone through this what a disgusting creature he is.

TaterTots · 08/09/2016 19:24

You've seen what's on his computer? Hmm

MrsCK · 08/09/2016 19:24

He was a friend. He didn't tell anyone about the investigation so of course he was trusted.

The photos aren't of my child.

I've literally just found out that he was sentenced

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MrsCK · 08/09/2016 19:27

No TaterTots. The press have done a pretty good job of describing them though.

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hesterton · 08/09/2016 19:27

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Soubriquet · 08/09/2016 19:28

So he doesn't have photos of your baby but of someone else's children?

Still sick either way

MrsCK · 08/09/2016 19:28

He wasn't ever left alone but he very well could have been. And that's what concerns me...Surely he should've had restrictions on seeing children?

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JenLindleyShitMom · 08/09/2016 19:28

So he was being investigated for having images of child abuse but he was still in contact with children? Is there nothing the police can do to prevent that while an investigation is underway?

MrsHam13 · 08/09/2016 19:29

I know it's crazy but I remember watching a documentary about it recently. When they are given their conditions of bail (and what contact they are allowed with children) it is dependant on how much of a physical risk the police deem them to children. So some are allowed no contact and some can carry on as normal.

Skittlesss · 08/09/2016 19:30

MrsCK that happens quite a lot in these cases - they keep a secret from as many folk as possible.

It must be such a shock and no doubt you're questioning everything. The police officers will have looked at the risk of him committing contact offences and should have looked at which children he has contact with to see if there's a risk there. Most people who have images haven't done any contact offences and often have children of their own that they can have contact with during the investigation.

Try to stay calm and if you think it will help then you could ring the safeguarding unit for advice.

MrsCK · 08/09/2016 19:30

Thank you MrsHam

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MumOnTheRunCatchingUp · 08/09/2016 19:31

How jen?

Waltermittythesequel · 08/09/2016 19:31

Are you questioning the system? As in 'why was a paedophile allowed around children'?

You must be really shaken. Were you close with him?

MrsCK · 08/09/2016 19:31

Jen that's my question. I doubt he'd have disclosed knowing us as we only saw each other sporadically.

I'm just shocked

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Redglitter · 08/09/2016 19:32

If he didn't mention the investigation he wouldn't mention.any bail conditions. Might be worth enquiring if he has breached bail by being with your child.