To ask for your definition of SuperMum?

[TheABC]

My son thinks I fit into that category when I produce an ice cream , but I would like to aim a little higher. What's your definition (and Superpower)?

I don't give a fuck about being super mum, I'm too tired.

Super mum is someone who can get to the end of the day without walking out.

A bore with too much time on their hands

Burnt out

In the eyes of the UK media apparently it's Sue Radford

Well, not me for starters. I'm just muddling through, and some days I barely manage that.

My cousin is , maybe. She has a high-flying, well-paid career (as does her DH); two lovely, bright, well-behaved and sweet children; keeps a lovely home; is slim and stylish and well-groomed and young-looking; keeps a lovely home; bakes and cooks healthy, delicious meals from scratch; and is generally lovely and kind and supportive and great company too. Oh, and she runs marathons.

If I didn't love her so much I'd probably hate her!

apparently I'm the best mum ever because I gave them a granny who buys treats

No such thing.

The level of cynicism on here is very refreshing! [Smile]. TitaniasTits, just reading that list of your cousin's achievements makes me tired. Bet she batch cooks and her children don't wake up at night!

Doing, I count it as an achievement if my toddler is still alive by night fall. But I am not sure it's a superpower as other parents may just be more organised than I am. Or have more coffee. ( I am still baffled as to how we have an overpopulation problem as toddlers in general seem hell - bent on killing themselves. )

Don't know about her youngest, ABC, but her eldest was a truly awful sleeper for at least the first three years of her life. My cousin is well into "don't know how she does it" territory!

I know someone who I believe to be a supermum and I don't know how she does it. Kind, super clever, love of her child constantly shows, high earner and successful at work and very beautiful and well dressed. Can only imagine being a qauter of that.

Parenting isn't a competition.

My definition would be the same as above, well organised, well groomed etc.

But I wonder what a child's definition would be? A mum that let's them roll around in mud, write on the walls, gets down on the floor with them, let's them eat chocolate for dinner etc.

Supermum in my definition is someone who hasn't had a glass of wine by tea time

I'm a super mum because my kids think I am. No other opinion matters.

I'm very cynical - anyone who looks like 'supermum' on the outside I just assume has cripplingly low self-esteem for various reasons, and feels the need to 'perform' their maternal role. This has been true of a few people I've known well enough to see beyond the facade.

The one I remember best involved her doing huge amounts of crafty stuff, amazing themed parties, photos of super-healthy meals for the kids presented in a 'fun' way etc, all of which made me (briefly) feel awful by comparison at the time.

I'm tired reading this thread. We avoided any major meltdowns today and I felt pretty shit-hot.

Well one of mine broke today so I spent 5 hours in A&E alone with 3 children including a 9 month old and fed them all McDonalds for tea in front of the telly
I feel pretty 'super' right now

Haha as someone who is frequently called "super mum" for "balancing" work, study and child rearing, I don't believe they exist. Mainly because the rest of the world can't see me on the verge of a break down, self medicating with caffeine, and letting the 3 year old have cereal for dinner because I don't have the spoons for an argument. I also haven't brushed my hair in about a week.

Super mum is anyone who holds their shit together on a daily basis and gets through the day with their dc still breathing.

'Supermum' is a try-hard, inadequate, up-themselves arse! The public front that some people presents means nothing. So long as you love your children and bring them up with an understanding that there is always someone worse off than them, that everyone in the world is equally worthy of respect regardless of colour, race, sex or religion, then you are a super mum! It does not matter how clean your house is or what your career is, or what your children eat on a daily basis. What matters is the people that you add to society.

I got called a Supermum today by one of those fucking annoying red shirted charity collectors.
I had 3 DC one in sling one running away and big one strolling along with her head in the clouds and a double buggy laden with shopping.

Felt far from it!!

I hope I don't ruin the theme of the thread, it's making me laugh a little reading the first page!
I think we all are to some extent.
I could do better in several areas, but my daughter is loved, fed, clothed,clean and happy.... I've had a few years where I've managed to do very little, but these things I've managed to maintain. I feel like its made me a bit of a super mum to have managed that despite the wag I've felt. She is my proudest accomplishment.

A supermum is any mum who gets up in the morning and does her best. She's by no means perfect and that's ok. She first and formost trys to build a relationship with her children and all the rest (baking, cleaning, dress style) comes second - if at all. She says sorry when she gets it wrong and also gets good at forgiving herself. She (miraculously) stops comparing herself to all other mums because at the end of the day, she is the best mum her children can have.

Before I had children Nicola Horlick was held up as the example of Supermum. Now it's more Sheryl Sandberg.

The kind of woman you see in the guardian's career pages, talking about how she became a blogger/started making organic jam/invented a new kind of sling* when she gave up her high-flying career in the city to be with her children.

*No mention of the fact the business makes no profit but that doesn't matter because DH earns 300K