My MIL will be here in a hour

[LewisAndClark]

To help me clean the house as she does every week.

It's a shithole though (mainly toys and breakfast stuff) and I need to clear up a bit before she gets here for my own sanity.

So why am I still on the sofa, un showered and in pjs, posting on mn and FB?

Somebody kick me and give me a bit of motivation. Where should I start?

Always start with the room she'll see first, so hall/lounge etc, put toys away- that's an easy win. Stack the dishwasher if you have one? And have a large glass of wine smile sweetly when she comes in

Good plan, I'll clear the hallway. There's a big show cupboard (that needs clearing out) that I will chuck every thing in.

Then put everything in the dishwasher.

Maybe not the glass of wine .

I'll just have one more coffee first and then crack on.

Shoe not show.

You lucky person! My mother in law would happily show up with food for my husband (as I don't feed him properly) and some nice fat comments (that my husband will then gloss over as mistranslation).

Oh my MIL is wonderful. She's one of my favourite people.

My mother is another story...

I have a MIL like that, will drop anything whenever I ask for help. She's a wonderful lady and I have a lot of love and respect for her. Shame DH's MIL is the bitch from hell......

She cleans your house every week?

I'm not sure I'd like this myself, but if you are happy with it then great! Not sure why I'd not like it...I'd take offense that she thought I wasn't coping I think. But seemingly contradictoraly I'd love someone to come and help me sort some shit out.

She comes every week to clean your house?!

Yes. I'm not coping tbh, have a pile of mh issues going on and keeping on top of the housework helps me immensely. She comes and motivates me for a couple of hours every week and we crack on and do all the jobs.

Oh, I see

Just wait for her Don't worry!

Your mil sounds great op

She sounds amazing.

She sounds great.
Glad you have this support when you need it.
Have the coffee, do a bit, have a laugh with her when she is there.
The cleaning will get done together.

She sounds like the kid of person who won't give a fuck if you're still in your pjs on the sofa...don't worry about it!

hope you have a productive day, I struggle with housework too!!

Get in the shower. That's often the hardest part for me to actually get ready myself. Once that's done everything somehow doesn't seem so daunting.

My MIL is great like this. She's often taken care of me and the DC when I've had a MH crisis, when DH just can't take any more unpaid leave from work. She shoos me off to sleep and tidies round as much as she can, although she never likes to intrude and doesn't mess around with piles of paperwork etc. She will fold clean clothes though, which is fine and always appreciated.

I agree that you should hop in the shower now, and maybe stack the dishwasher and put a load of washing on - I draw the line at my MIL having to deal with dirty grundies

Aw, that's lovely that she's helping you. When I had post natal depression the lovely woman from the upstairs flat used to come down to have a cup of tea and would then spend an hour or so gently coaching me through doing all the simple household stuff that at the time seemed beyond me. I don't think I would have survived without her.

She sounds great, can you send her round mine when she's done? Thanks

I had a mil like this, absolutely amazing woman. Would drop anything to help out if needs be. Completely different to my dm

YY shower then go from there. She sounds lovely, hope you have a good day (be nice to yourself).