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Original poster

To dislike being asked how I'm going to vote?

43 replies

ChaosTrulyReigns · 21/06/2016 15:38

Hmm.

I rarely vote. I know, I know.

But I am voting tomorrow.

But I get naffed off being asked how I'm going to vote.

AIBU or perhaps old fashioned in not wanted to reveal this?

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Gardencentregroupie · 21/06/2016 15:40

I was brought up to believe it was the very height of rudeness to ask people how they planned to vote.

Gardencentregroupie · 21/06/2016 15:40

However I am pretty sure that the voting is the day after tomorrow, not tomorrow.

Barneythepurpledinowhore · 21/06/2016 15:41

Yanbu. I don't like it either.

Helmetbymidnight · 21/06/2016 15:42

When are you going to vote Wink

We have a secret ballot in this country for a reason. Tell em that.

PuppyMonkey · 21/06/2016 15:42

A customer came to visit my DP about some work yesterday (DP works with glass/windows etc) and they were chatting about the job when all of a sudden the chap randomly said: "So which way are you voting then?"

My DP was like Hmm, I don't really want to talk about this with you actually, duck.

Nosey arse.

NewLife4Me · 21/06/2016 15:43

tell them it's none of their business and doesn't make any difference.
The MP's who vote the most for whichever side will be the only votes that make the difference.
Our vote is for them to get an idea of what we think.
Your vote means nothing, anyway.
Think of the lottery without somebody verifying the numbers that come out of the machine.

FreeasaJailBird · 21/06/2016 15:44

I didn't know it was rude to ask Blush

I've been asking my friends !

I did say I'm just being nosy ! Oops! Blush

DustyBustle · 21/06/2016 15:45

Voting is Thursday Chaos, hold yo hossess Smile

I don't like being asked either, but you could think of it as a compliment that whoever is asking you can't decide and they've thought, 'I know, I'll ask Chaos, she's a clever sort'

AlcoChocs · 21/06/2016 15:45

YANBU. I just say I haven't decided yet.
Will be voting Leave but that's between me and the ballot box.

Original poster
ChaosTrulyReigns · 21/06/2016 15:46

Ohh ffs.

THURSDAY. I knew that. [blysh]

I actually don't mind "what do you think of all this palaver", but the direct question really irks me.

DF always told me I'm not obliged to answer any question, but sometimes I fell it's socially unacceptable to not respond, so a vague question is much easier to deal with.

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Original poster
ChaosTrulyReigns · 21/06/2016 15:47

Lulz, doubt that with swirly nobs on, DuBu. Wink

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PuppyMonkey · 21/06/2016 15:47

Yes asking a friend or colleague whose opinion you rate highly, I could understand. But randomly asking a bloke who's supplying you with a piece of glass you've ordered seems a bit, I dunno, out of order.

leopardspice · 21/06/2016 15:48

I hate when people ask me it makes me so uncomfortable... someone asked and I said I was "undecided" I'm not... and she threw down my throat with her views!!!!

HopeClearwater · 21/06/2016 15:49

'That's between me and the ballot box'

OohMavis · 21/06/2016 15:49

It's irritating. Especially when the person asking obviously feels very strongly about it, like they're itching for a debate.

Interestingly I only seem to be badgered about it from Brexiters.

DJBaggieSmalls · 21/06/2016 15:56

YANBU. Its rude to ask how old someone is, how much they earn or how they vote.

FruStefanOla · 21/06/2016 16:00

I was in Waitrose last week - putting my shopping through the checkout - when the assistant asked me how I was going to vote. I was a tad surprised, so just said "well, it's a difficult decision, isn't it?"

Zosebrina · 21/06/2016 16:13

I wouldn't mind if people ask, accept my answer and then leave it.

What I don't like is people asking and then ranting on about how I shouldn't be voting the way I want to vote and then trying to ram down my throat how I should vote the way they are voting Angry Angry

Helmetbymidnight · 21/06/2016 16:20

New life, what rubbish.

NewLife4Me · 21/06/2016 16:24

Helmet

I'd be happy to see your proof of other.

Helmetbymidnight · 21/06/2016 16:28

The MPs who vote the most for whichever side will be the only ones to make a difference

Not sure what you're trying to say here at all so I don't know how you expect anyone to prove anything.

It seems you have you moved on from your the govt will win either way position in another eu thread though so that's good.

Ragwort · 21/06/2016 16:35

Interestingly I only seem to be badgered about it from Brexiters.

I've noticed that too- very few people have actually asked me how I will vote, but those that do - who then enjoy launching into a one sided 'debate' of their own views have all been 'exit voters'. Which I am not. Grin.

VulcanWoman · 21/06/2016 16:40

Sounds like some people don't want to own their vote.

NavyAndWhite · 21/06/2016 16:45

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Modestandatinybitsexy · 21/06/2016 16:49

I think the question is awful! Although I have been suprised at 1) the amount of people who ask me and 2) the persuasion of some people who I would have sworn would be the opposite.

This reminded me my DM tried to do something awful at a party she was hosting the other day; she'd printed out little ballot cards for a microcosm vote within the party goers "because it's interesting isn't it?"

My DSis and I were mortified, I think our horrified expressions convinced her to bin them before anyone arrived. It was a birthday party not a political party ffs!