To dislike being asked how I'm going to vote?

[ChaosTrulyReigns]

Hmm.

I rarely vote. I know, I know.

But I am voting tomorrow.

But I get naffed off being asked how I'm going to vote.

AIBU or perhaps old fashioned in not wanted to reveal this?

I wouldn't ask although I am happy to say which side I am on. However, if I am asked I really really hate it when the other person then tells me why I'm wrong. Don't ask me only to berate my answer!

I've asked friends and colleagues. I wouldn't ask strangers though.

I'm not sure how its a rude question if you know the person. Surely if you've thought through how you want to vote there's nothing to hide

I don't mind people asking at all.

Do you know, yesterday my colleague mentioned she's voting differently to me. We had a lovely chat about our own feelings over a cup of tea. It felt dirty and wrong.

Our vote is for them to get an idea of what we think.
Your vote means nothing, anyway.

'newlife* what are you talking about? If more than 50% of people vote to leave, we leave. If more than 50% of people vote to stay, we stay.

How do you think a referendum works .

I used to hate this too OP, think it was really rude and reply 'between me and the ballot box'.

However, I'm now changing my mind - more and more I think it would be good to have honest and open engaged conversations about politics so it is just something politicians and the media discuss. What show says. So now I'm happy if people ask, don't mind if they agree or disagree...the only caveat as pp is any idiot who jumps down your throat for not agreeing with them.

msvestibule a referendum is advisory. MPs still have to vote. Technically they could go against the public vote (although unlikely).

A referendum is advisory- but woe betide a govt who didn't stick with it.

And it's a long way from that to Your vote means nothing anyway

Fair enough christine that may technically be correct (although I didn't actually realise that!) but to say 'your vote means nothing' is ridiculous.

If there was more than a tiny, tiny chance of MPs rejecting our votes, I'm pretty sure we would have heard a lot about it.

I haven't ever discussed which way I vote during a GA. However, the Scottish referendum and EU referendum are different and I have been very vocal in the run up to both. I don't ask people though, most are rather forthcoming. Well, at least for the EU one.

"How do you vote?"

"Like you. By secret ballot".

I got asked by a trainee once and I explained to her that that is something you just don't ask in working life, whatever you do in student life.

Years ago a Labour candidate came to my door. Firstly he shook my hand which was not warmly received by myself. He then asked me who would I be voting for. I told him that was private and he had no right to ask. As soon as he started walking away I shouted " Well it won't be Labour".

Because this referendum is like no other - it's such an bloody unsolvable Rubicks Cube of a social problem - I have broken my golden rule a few times and have asked a few people Have you made up your mind yet, which means they can either say Yes/no or give me some more info.

Maybe it's the people I know, but it has always been a reasonable and interesting discussion, not extreme or hateful, which has helped me make my mind up.

The people who ask me are all remainers. When I told one person (a good friend) they said "I thought only old people were voting leave"

If someone asked I would tell them, I wouldn't ask though. We often chat about it at work, but the opener is normally "have you decided?" as against "what are you voting". None of us have declared which was we are going, though I suspect that we will be similar.

I postulate that people passionate about passionate politics perhaps have parallels to vegans.

If you get me, bro?

Word

Fistbump.

The only person really asking is my mother. If I tell her the opposite to her (which is true) I get the earache. If I say it's a secret ballot she'll assume I'm not saying because she won't agree with me and I'll still get the earache. I'm screwed either way