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re Exh & birthday cake

50 replies

Blossom591 · 01/05/2016 11:34

Ds birthday today, arrangements made in advance,
I did a birthday party at home for 10 friends Saturday morning (bloody hard work on my own but all went well)
Ex collected him for sat afternoon.
This morning he comes over as arranged so he could see him on his actual birthday, all fine but ex just hanging round & then said when are we having the cake?
I've made a second cake to take down to my family this afternoon for tea but I didn't think to do another for him coming (that would be 3 I'm not Bloody Mary berry) but now he's being all passive aggressive moaning about how I've robbed him of a chance to sing happy birthday blah blah
I'm so sick of this shit, he's the same ex who slept in my bed if anyone remembers that
Should I just have made another sodding cake? Why can't he just enjoy the few hours with his son rather than pacing up & down & blaming me for stuff

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Cakescakescakes · 01/05/2016 11:35

He is being unreasonable.

MunchMunch · 01/05/2016 11:36

Tell him to nip to the shops and he can buy ds a birthday cake

HSMMaCM · 01/05/2016 11:36

Ask him where it is. He could have brought one. Didn't he want to sing happy birthday then? Why is it your job?

FayKorgasm · 01/05/2016 11:36

Why didn't he bring a cake? Tell him to feck off.

rubberducker · 01/05/2016 11:37

If he wanted cake he should have supplied his own, he could have picked one up in a supermarket for a few quid - YANBU!

dementedpixie · 01/05/2016 11:37

Yell him if he wanted a cake then he should have brought one with him!

dementedpixie · 01/05/2016 11:37

Tell*

SmokyJoJo · 01/05/2016 11:38

Sounds like he was just looking for an excuse to act like a dick & make you feel uncomfortable. If you'd made a cake he would have had a tantrum about something else. What a nob.

attheendoftheday · 01/05/2016 11:38

Definitely his responsibility to provide one!

Pinkheart5915 · 01/05/2016 11:38

I don't think you should of made a third cake.
Couldn't he of attended the party yesterday to see the cake?
Or surely he could of brought a small cake of his own today and had candles?
So today is his ds birthday and he's moaning over a cake why not just enjoying seeing his son

Pinkheart5915 · 01/05/2016 11:39

Agree with munchmunch tell him to pop to the shop and get one.

TheWeeBabySeamus1 · 01/05/2016 11:41

Why didn't he have do a cake/party tea yesterday when he had him if it's so important to him?

YANBU - you aren't together anymore and your ex needs to realise that he has to arrange his own stuff ( like cake ) for special events as they are no longer joint.

Ilovenannyplum · 01/05/2016 11:41

YANBU
Tell him to go and buy a cake!

Tiopyn · 01/05/2016 11:41

So he moaned that you didn't have a 3rd cake for his benefit. How many cakes did he do?
I could understand if he hadn't realised you'd already done it a different time, and be a bit disappointed, but certainly shouldn't moan as it's not your responsibility to make sure DS has a cake for ex's benefit

DoreenLethal · 01/05/2016 11:43

Can he take him out for cake somewhere?

coconutpie · 01/05/2016 12:18

YABU. He can buy his own cake. I wouldn't be letting him inside my home at all after the sleeping in your bed incident. Tell him to leave.

FuckSanta · 01/05/2016 12:20

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Thingsthatmakeugoummmm · 01/05/2016 12:35

Get over it FuckSanta. Surely the content of the message more important than having the grammar police comment!

Costacoffeeplease · 01/05/2016 12:36

Are only mums allowed to buy/make cakes? Knob

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 01/05/2016 12:40

"When are we having the cake then?"

"I don't know, what time do you want to do it? Where's the cake you brought?"

Wanker.

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FrogFairy · 01/05/2016 12:54

Well he could have shown his face and helped out at the Saturday morning party or did a mini tea party when he had ds.

Cheeky fucker.

DailyFailAreABunchOfCunts · 01/05/2016 13:14

'I haven't robbed you of anything. You has him yesterday, you could have bought him a cake and sung to him then. Please stop moaning - I am not your Mother and it is not up to me to keep making arrangements for you.'

Then change the subject. But you know what you actually need to do is to stop having him in your house. If he asks then simply say 'no'. End of discussion.

RaeSkywalker · 01/05/2016 13:17

Tell him to get a flipping cake!

Finola1step · 01/05/2016 13:25

Blimey Santa.

There is nothing stopping the adult male popping to the nearest supermarket to pick up a small cake. They even sell candles. And matches to light said candles.