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Taking a job were the interviewer was rude

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Toffeecrispy · 28/04/2016 20:42

Went to an interview around two weeks ago and the woman interviewer was nice but the man was so rude
He insulted the fact i do avon calling ut door to door sells and how does that even pay and something about shuting doors in face
He said why are you even here
When i said i was friendly he said
Your face is scary you dont like friendly you terrify me

I could tell the woman liked me but he didnt and it made me feel horible when i left

The woman called me today and said she wanted to give me a test run which i am surprised about im going tmro there as i forgot everything about pay ect but im sure the pay was 16k 40hours

Now including the above i have 8 years exeperience in reception n admin i was last on 21k

I hadnt worked for two years due to my childs sickness
Now i can work but i was doing avon so there is a gap on my cv

Would you take this job?

On my phone so dont mind me grammar please Smile

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jeavcike · 28/04/2016 20:47

I don't think I would tbh and I'd explain why. Then I'd sign up with agencies and look into voluntary work in order to fill up my cv.

pippistrelle · 28/04/2016 20:51

I probably would, OP, and if you terrify him, so much the better. What's in it for you is that you close the gap in your CV, making it easier to move on to a better paid role, and one without such a rude person in due course.. But maybe he was just playing bad cop for the duration of the interview. Still a wally, mind.

Vilio · 28/04/2016 20:54

I had an interview with a very big supermarket chain a few years ago. It was an amazing job and I got through to the second interview stage but I declined. One absolutely horrible man on the panel was the reason.
He was sneers before I even spoke. Then the whole way through acted in a really bullying fashion with me and the other. Interviewer.
While in the interview, I triedd to find out who I would be directly working with. Ie was I going to have to deal with him and it seemed likely so that was decision made.

I was kicking myself after but everything. Happens for a reason, as they Say And something better came along for me.

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Toffeecrispy · 28/04/2016 21:21

Im scared this guy will be my manager, if he is how long would i have to stay to be able to move on?

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JapaneseSlipper · 28/04/2016 21:25

This sounds very difficult - I understand you feel you need the job, but do you have any other options? If you can possibly avoid taking this job, I would do so.

TudorLady · 28/04/2016 21:27

Why don't you ask who you would be working with/reporting to. Phone the lady you like and ask. And ask if you would be working with the chap/how or where he worked or related to your day to day role.

It may be that the chap is just a knob from HR or head office and you would rarely see him. In that case yes, take it.

If you find out he would be someone you would report to/work with then decline.

Chippednailvarnish · 28/04/2016 21:28

I would ask for a second meeting with him to check if he was testing to see how you react when faced with a difficult person.

If he's still a knob, then decline.

LivininaBox · 28/04/2016 21:30

Wow that's awful. Can you go in and have a chat and ask if you will be working with this man? The comments about Avon I could ignore, but "your face is scary" is just an out and out personal insult, so rude.

Spandexpants007 · 28/04/2016 21:31

Decline and say that you thought the the male interviewer was unkind and you don't fancy working for him

pippistrelle · 28/04/2016 21:31

I think it would be reasonable to call and ask for clarification on the structure of line management. If it's him, you can always say no then. The fact that the woman called suggests that it's her.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 28/04/2016 21:31

No way would I work for him. I think he surpasses rudness. He was beyond abusive. I've certainly csms across uncouth people, but he takes the Star prize..
Why are you here. Erm, well I wish I hadn't bothered turning up now, but incase it escaped your notice. I was invited for an interview.
If he's acting like that before you even work there. What's he going to bd Like whsn you are working for him. He'll have you dreading going into work. I mean I obviously don't know whether youre working or not at the moment. I don't want to know. It's NOMB, but surely signing on can't not be any worse than working for an arse hole.

TondelayaDellaVentamiglia · 28/04/2016 21:31

yes, def ask who the fucking hell he was and what contact you might expectto have on a daily basis

and that also gives you the opportunity to discuss the wage banding, and then if she won't budge you can graciously decline, or tell her that the other guy was rude and weird. ....what's the worst she can do if you have no intention of working for her?

thiswayplease · 28/04/2016 21:32

I wouldn't. If he was that rude during the interview what would he be like to work for/with?

If you can afford to, hang fire until something more suitable comes along.

You would have thought he would have been impressed with your Avon role, showing that you have initiative

TheDowagerCuntess · 28/04/2016 21:36

I wouldn't decline without finding out more/having a conversation first. That's a bit passive.

An interview should always be a two-way street - they're working out if you're right for them, but you need to be sure that they're right for you, too.

I would go in and do the trial, and make a point of having a conversation with the woman. Just be honest, and say you're very interested in the role, but want to understand a bit more about the reporting line structure, and the culture within the company. If necessary, come straight out and ask if the manner employed by yer man is typical of what you should expect as an employee - because if so, the company would unlikely be the right fit for you, unfortunately.

TheDowagerCuntess · 28/04/2016 21:39

Your face is scary you dont like friendly you terrify me

P.S. What a twat. 🙄

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 28/04/2016 21:42

He sounds like an arsehole. Are you on benefits at the moment? I think if you're on universal credit you can be sanctioned (effectively fined) for turning down work.

Stillunexpected · 28/04/2016 21:43

What is the role? Isn't there an interview technique where the interviewer is deliberately rude to test your reactions? If dealing with difficult characters would be part of this job, is it possible that he was testing you? I also don't understand their invitation to give you a "test run" at the job. How long would this test be for? Is it paid?

Naoko · 28/04/2016 21:44

'Your face is scary'?! Absolutely fucking not. If he's getting away with saying that to an outsider (and you have to wonder also, would he say it to a man?), someone who doesn't even works for him, in a job interview - where generally both sides are on their best behaviour, what on earth does he do to his actual employees? What the fuck kind of company culture condones that sort of behaviour? Anywhere decent it'd never happen, and if it did happen the rest of the panel would be Shock and falling over themselves to make the company look less bad.

If you can get one job you can get another. Something is very, very wrong in this company, and I'd tread carefully.

314pDream · 28/04/2016 21:45

That'sca good line about wondering if he was testing how you'd deal with a difficult person

CantWaitForWarmWeather · 28/04/2016 21:50

I used to work with someone like this. A huge arse he was. I had just returned back from maternity leave and was continuing with my apprenticeship. He was one of those confident, popular, talkative people who had been there for yonks, whereas I was quiet, an introvert and just preferred to get on with my work. A couple of days in, he came in to the office and he stood at my desk and started talking to me. He was saying things like "Have I got this right? You've returned from maternity leave to do an apprenticeship on what, £3.00 an hour?" "Don't you think you should get a better paid job now you have a baby?"
Me:..... I actually have 2 children
Dickhead: You're joking!

Everyone in the office heard and were silent. Nobody, not one person stuck up for me. I felt absolutely humiliated, but I managed to say:

"But I am working though" And then got up to go to the printer.

I went in to the toilets and cried that day. I just wanted to be at home with my babies and thought that I was doing a good thing bettering myself for their/our sake. I never put in a complaint about him because he was popular and I would have just looked like the silly trouble maker. I left a few months later and gave up on what would have been a good career. I had PND too. Complete dickhead.

BillSykesDog · 28/04/2016 21:54

Don't do it. I took a job where I had a similar feeling and am really regretting it. Sounds like it's below your experience too.

I don't like the idea of a company which is only offering a 'test run' either.

CantWaitForWarmWeather · 28/04/2016 21:56

Missed a bit off there!
"No I'm not. But I am working though" that was my response to him asking if I was joking about having 2 children.

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Toffeecrispy · 28/04/2016 22:02

It is for a receptionist on a hotel desk. The hotel is very nice, think it is 4 star? So a decent role.
I am going to go in and have a chat with her, see who the guy was.

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Toffeecrispy · 28/04/2016 22:05

I actually have another interview tomorrow as well, the woman seemed really jolly on the phone and is for a recetionist for a health spa which i would rather have.

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Toffeecrispy · 28/04/2016 22:13

Wow cantwait that is awful, I had a bad experience doing an apprenticeship as well.

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