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Taking a job were the interviewer was rude

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Toffeecrispy · 28/04/2016 20:42

Went to an interview around two weeks ago and the woman interviewer was nice but the man was so rude
He insulted the fact i do avon calling ut door to door sells and how does that even pay and something about shuting doors in face
He said why are you even here
When i said i was friendly he said
Your face is scary you dont like friendly you terrify me

I could tell the woman liked me but he didnt and it made me feel horible when i left

The woman called me today and said she wanted to give me a test run which i am surprised about im going tmro there as i forgot everything about pay ect but im sure the pay was 16k 40hours

Now including the above i have 8 years exeperience in reception n admin i was last on 21k

I hadnt worked for two years due to my childs sickness
Now i can work but i was doing avon so there is a gap on my cv

Would you take this job?

On my phone so dont mind me grammar please Smile

OP posts:
Tiredbutfuckingfine · 28/04/2016 22:22

A "gap on the cv" is no big deal really, you decided to be a stay at home parent for a while and now you are ready to work again.

OliviaStabler · 28/04/2016 22:22

Don't do it. For whatever reason he does not like you. Find somewhere else you will be appreciated.

Good luck.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 28/04/2016 22:26

"Your face is scary"
. Erm is he George Clooney's doppelganger, or something I bet he had a face like a monkey's arse only not as good looking.

newname99 · 28/04/2016 22:31

An interview is the best that they will treat you, this is the courtship stage, once you work for them they can do worse.I had a level of rudeness at an interview and over looked it as being sensitive..big mistake, the manager only got worse until I had to leave.Leaving was more demoralising and harder to explain on my CV.

FuckityByes · 28/04/2016 22:33

Why on earth would anyone take a job where the interviewer behaved in that way? It's rude, insulting and tells you exactly what they would be like to work for. I'd knock it back and tell them why, frankly. Totally unacceptable conduct.

HelenaDove · 29/04/2016 01:30

Eleven years ago i had an interview with a building society and the woman interviewing me turned really nasty accusing me of getting the sack from two previous jobs on my CV. I didnt The tv hire company went bust. And i was made redundant while on sick leave from my office job before that. She was INSISTENT that i MUST have been sacked.

The interview was going ok in fact rather well till she asked what my biggest achievement was. So i told her ........losing ten stone. I got gallstones from the weight loss which is why i was off ill from the office job. i tried to explain myself and thats when she turned nasty insisting that i MUST have done something to be sacked. She was absolutely fine until i answered her "whats your biggest achievement question." and i told her it was my weight loss.

She was quite overweight. Might have had nothing to do with it but it was really strange.

I didnt get offered the job.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 29/04/2016 01:44

Would you have wanted to work for her, Helena. She sounds like a right arse hole.

HelenaDove · 29/04/2016 01:50

I reckon she would have made my life a misery

ErNope · 29/04/2016 01:52

Unfortunately many interviewers look down on direct sales/MLM. Even though it can be a hard job for little reward, Is good for customer service skills, sales experience and shows you're a hard worker (if even when you were unable to get a job in your chosen career for whatever reason you still went out there and did SOMETHING) I sympathise. Truly.
As for the scary face comment, extremely extremely rude and I wouldn't like to work with him. You wouldn't be unreasonable at all to turn it down TBH. But if you have to take the job, work there for 3-12 months (however long you can stand it) then start looking for something new

Seren85 · 29/04/2016 01:53

Its absolutely awful. Could be a shitty form of test and you were "supposed to" reply by saying "oh that's interesting, I usually find people are quite supportive and impressed that I've found a great opportunity". I don't know who would react like that btw, I certainly wouldn't have. I'd give the trial a go IF he won't be your direct supervisor.

Baconyum · 29/04/2016 02:13

Not rtft

I wouldn't, 3 times I've taken jobs when the interviews were weird in some way (all differently) each one a nightmare!

echelon · 29/04/2016 02:31

Screw him OP
Who does he think he is Lord Sugar?!

If he's this rude and frankly verbally abusive to an interviewee , I dread to think the kind of working relationship you'd have with him.
If I were you I'd focus my energies on this other job, and I'd also feedback to the other people how abusive I actually found his comments.
Would also make sure they knew damn well they'd lost out on a great employee .

AyeAmarok · 29/04/2016 03:16

Of ask some more questions about the role and you're involved this man might be in your day to day job.

I've had an interview with someone really rude, abrupt and scary before who turned out to be really nice (it might have been a test).

Good luck in your spa interview, would be great if you got that too and could decline because of that man.

curren · 29/04/2016 06:35

I have to be honest. I wouldn't. But then I would have told him saying 'your face is scary' is rude during the interview. Everyone needs constructive criticism sometimes and he certainly does.

I spent years working for managers that were awful and it destroyed me. It wasn't until I had just had enough and started speaking up that it stopped. It's really surprising. When people know you are the type of person to stand up to them, they don't really act like this. For the most part.

curren · 29/04/2016 06:36

Oh and would tell them why I am not taking the job.

FindoGask · 29/04/2016 06:53

Don't take it. His behaviour in the interview would be a massive red flag for me. Far easier to extricate yourself now than in two months' time. The pay isn't great for your experience level even considering your employment gap - you should be looking for equivalent jobs to your last one.

AlMinzerAndHisPyramidOfDogs · 29/04/2016 07:04

I wouldn't take it.
hotel reception is a nightmare too.
actually hotel work full stop is a nightmare.
find out who is the higher up authority here and write a written complaint.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 29/04/2016 07:06

I think you're doing the right thing going in for the trial and then asking who you'll be reporting to and how much contact yiu have with male interviewer.

Whocansay · 29/04/2016 07:28

I wouldn't want to work with someone who is that rude and unpleasant to be honest.

I hope you didn't take anything personally OP, as he's clearly an utter twat.

Muskey · 29/04/2016 07:36

Interviews are a two way street they are interviewing you but you should also be looking out for potential issues. It's bad enough when the interviewers are nice and then turn into psychopaths when you get the job but when there are big red flags at the interview I wouldn't touch the job with a barge pole. If it's any consolation I went to an interview last week and both of the women interviewers behaviour was appalling. I actually walked out half way through the interview.

lasttimeround · 29/04/2016 07:44

If it was possible I would decline. Worry would be it'd be awful I'd have to leave and that man writes my previous employer reference

OurBlanche · 29/04/2016 07:50

Go and chat to her, find out who he is, use that delay to do the other interview and see what happens...

Good luck

BadLad · 29/04/2016 08:08

The interview was going ok in fact rather well till she asked what my biggest achievement was. So i told her ........losing ten stone.

She sounds terrible, but that answer wouldn't have impressed me very much. I'd have been expecting something you had done at work, or failing that, something from school / university / sport etc.

OurBlanche · 29/04/2016 08:18

Oh, I don't know, BadLad.

I got so annoyed by one interviewer, I was actively looking for a way to piss him off.

He kept calling me love, trying to stare down my cleavage and used a truly patronising tone of voice, cutting off others in mid sentence and continually correcting pronunciation, word choice etc. - of his employees, all the way through the interview.

So when he asked my what my proudest achievement was I said "Being asked to join Mensa". I smiled, piucked my bag up and left, leaving him sitting with his mouth and eys opened a little widely.

Oh! Did I forget to mention - car sales manager in a shiny suit Smile

SquinkiesRule · 29/04/2016 08:35

Nice one Blanche Grin