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About this ready meal falling on the floor?

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Teaandcakeat8 · 05/03/2016 19:39

I'm at my parents house for the weekend (for Mother's Day). Back story: I moved out when I was 18 and I'm now nearly 30 so I'm quite used to looking after myself.

I've driven 150 miles to come home. My parents are going out tonight to a party (not an unusual occurrence) so they bought me a ready meal to have for my dinner.

Just went to put said ready meal in the oven, didn't realise it was already hot and then dropped the meal on the floor. Swore a bit, in annoyance went into the lounge.

My parents asked if I wanted some money for the chip shop but I said no as I already did this last night. I said when I work up the motivation (it being Saturday night after all) I would go and find something to cook.

At this point my mum started crying, ran out of the room and hasn't come back.

Can anyone tell me what I have done wrong here?

(Just made myself some soup etc so I'm not starving)

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ArkyOptics · 05/03/2016 19:41

It's not the ready meal, there's something else going on. Talk to her tomorrow after the night out, find out what it is.

Picnic2223 · 05/03/2016 19:42

Possibly depends how you said it.

Janeymoo50 · 05/03/2016 19:43

It sounds as if you were acting like a brat/teenager (the bit were your parents asked if you needed chippy money was a clue). Do you want to be there? Sounds like you don't and have possibly made that quite obvious.

BillSykesDog · 05/03/2016 19:44

I think it sounds like your mother is under some kind of strain, saw this as a criticism and it was the last straw on top of other things.

TurnOffTheTv · 05/03/2016 19:45

She probably just wanted to feed you, and then ready meal went wrong, then you didn't want a chippy tea. You're visiting, they're going out, so she probably feels she's abandoning you whilst you're visiting and you're going to starve!

hesterton · 05/03/2016 19:45

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PommePoire · 05/03/2016 19:48

Slow typing, was going to say the same as ArkyOptics and TurnOffTheTV. Your mum is probably on edge because of something else that is on her mind. Maybe she and you dad had words about the party, or what time you were coming, or plans for tomorrow? But also, she wanted you to have a nice evening while they're out, and the food she arranged/offered hasn't worked out.

RudeElf · 05/03/2016 19:51

My mum would talke it personally if i rejected her offer of money for a chippy, or even the suggestion of a chipp altogether. She wouldnt run out crying but she would sigh and say "fine, suit yourself i'm only trying to help" i dont know why. Like you ive been out of home since 19 and am 30 this year. She still likes to parent me when i go there.

Waypasttethersend · 05/03/2016 19:51

Did you clean it up or just swear and strop off into the lounge?

Were you arsey when you said you didn't want a choppy tea? Or get grouchy about them going out?

BillSykesDog · 05/03/2016 19:53

Is she menopausal?

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Teaandcakeat8 · 05/03/2016 19:54

I don't think I was being a brat, they offered me the money I think as they felt bad about my dinner being ruined but I ate chips for dinner last night and said I would find something to cook from the cupboard.

As I said I'm nearly 30. I don't come home to expect meals cooked for me anymore...

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CurlyhairedAssassin · 05/03/2016 19:55

Had she already cooked it for you and that's why it was hot? Maybe she feels guilty for interfering and cooking it for you, resulting in you dropping it because you didn't know it was hot? You miss have been annoyed that it dropped on the floor so maybe she thinks the whole thing is her fault and she feels upset?

OhShutUpThomas · 05/03/2016 19:56

Mine does stuff like this Tea. It's exhausting Flowers

StableYard · 05/03/2016 20:00

Very odd reaction by your Mum. Can't see what you have done wrong.

diddl · 05/03/2016 20:00

Sounds an overreaction.

Can she cook-is that a sore point?

Will there be food in the house for you to cook?

TheFlyingFauxPas · 05/03/2016 20:01

I'd have picked it up and ate it 😊

Notimefortossers · 05/03/2016 20:02

Is this usual behaviour for you DM? What sort of relationship do you have?

Can't you go and ask her what's wrong? cos I really need to know Grin

LobsterQuadrille · 05/03/2016 20:03

I used to find returning to the family home as an adult quite stressful ..... the relationship seemed to revert to child/parent and I ended up saying a few teenage, petulant things while my parents were overbearing and it was almost a "children should be seen and not heard" scenario (and my father used to quote that constantly in my childhood).

As I think a PP said, it seems as if you DM feels inadequate as a mother because the ready meal failed for whatever reason, plus you have rejected her compensatory offer of chips. She probably feels guilty about going out too. I would just be cheery with her before she goes out and wish her a lovely evening.

Waltermittythesequel · 05/03/2016 20:04

Did you clean it up?!

TattyDevine · 05/03/2016 20:05

Me too FlyingFauxPas Grin

5 second rule and all that

LineyReborn · 05/03/2016 20:06

Did you pick it up?

Why couldn't you eat it?

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Teaandcakeat8 · 05/03/2016 20:08

To all those asking of course I cleaned it up!

We do have a difficult relationship at times as we are very different.

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Waypasttethersend · 05/03/2016 20:10

Hmmm no idea then! Talk to her when she's calmed down.

UmbongoUnchained · 05/03/2016 20:12

I'd probably just leave if my mum did something like that.

JennyOnAPlate · 05/03/2016 20:17

Very odd reaction. Maybe she feels guilty or abandoning you to go out to a party? Maybe she'd had a row with your dad and the meal on the floor was the final straw.