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Original poster

He messed around with my take away curry!

60 replies

crackedphone · 26/02/2016 20:35

It is rare we have a take away, and for me its always the same thing. I have tried many different dishes over the years, but always regret it. He knows this.

But for some reason he ordered a wide small taste selection of different dishes. There was a small sample of my favourite meal included, but he had the full size dish of his favourite. There was also loads of naan bread and I only have a small bit of this on occasionally.
There were some sauces, one a snotty whipped egg/yogurt thing that looked repellent.

Anyway, I feel cheated. quite a lot left over blobs of goo left and all sauces, but in the end ate a decent amount of what I liked.

Am I being Unreasonable?

OP posts:
TheObserverOne · 26/02/2016 20:37

Who?

coconutpie · 26/02/2016 20:37

Did you ask him why he didn't order what you wanted?

SquidgeyMidgey · 26/02/2016 20:38

Do you think it was deliberate or thoughtless? It would annoy me too.

XiCi · 26/02/2016 20:38

Surely you would have told him what you wanted to order? If dh, or anyone else for that matter, had ordered for me I'd be furious, especially if getting a takeaway was a treat.

OhShutUpThomas · 26/02/2016 20:38

LTB.

Wolfiefan · 26/02/2016 20:43

We never get takeaway without the "what do you want conversation!" But then we rarely get takeaway.

DoreenLethal · 26/02/2016 20:45

Of course you should feel cheated? Why the fuck did he do this?

Original poster
crackedphone · 26/02/2016 20:50

The 'he' is my husband. and yes we did talk about what we wanted. The usual.

He has apologised and said he thought I might like to try something new.

ugh! so disappointed. and being a sulky cow about it.

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SquidgeyMidgey · 26/02/2016 20:51

I would sulk about that. Silly bugger should know better. Make him go and get you something nice Wink

gamerchick · 26/02/2016 20:53

You do the order next time and order him a phall. He might like to try something new. Well unless that's what he usually gets.

Don't fuck with the curry man Angry

Original poster
crackedphone · 26/02/2016 20:54

he is my husband. apparently I am being a bit of a bitch complaining about it. He only thought I might want to try something new. Sadly nothing was new, all stuff I would consider a side dish and 2 of which looked like a bag of frozen veg with curry sauce. To be fair he wouldnt know that before he got it. btw how do you share one samosa with 4 adults? or one of those tikka sausage looking things? (I hate them anyway)

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springscoming · 26/02/2016 20:55

Fucking hell YDANBU. You have serious training issues there.

springscoming · 26/02/2016 20:58

Start the training with the take away episode from Gavin and Stacey. If he's a fast learner, that ought to be enough but you might have to fuck about with his weekday dinners for a bit just to consolidate the learning.

Arfarfanarf · 26/02/2016 21:02

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MrsHathaway · 26/02/2016 21:03

The bit that proves he's the unreasonable one is the bit where he got a full portion of his own favourite.

Full portion of his, full portion of yours, additional snot and grobbles you can ignore - that would have been fine. But nooooooooooo. He wanted you to try something different without his having to risk his pleasure.

Buy a KitKat Chunky and eat it in front of him without sharing. That'll learn him.

JuneFromBethesda · 26/02/2016 21:19

Not acceptable. I would be seriously pissed off too.

Because I'm nosy I want to know what it is that you always have Grin (I always have the same thing too - our local Indian takeaway does a chicken balti korma that is the MOST delicious thing ever drool )

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 26/02/2016 21:20

Order another one and dont get him any.

comedycentral · 26/02/2016 21:22

I had takeaway curry tonight and I would not have been pleased if my husband changed my order without asking!

Poor you!

VagueIdeas · 26/02/2016 21:24

There was a small sample of my favourite meal included, but he had the full size dish of his favourite

So how come he thought to order a full size of his favourite but not yours? LTB Grin

Original poster
crackedphone · 26/02/2016 21:24

I have onion bahjis, and chicken tikka massala with mushroom rice.

if I need a side dish, takka dahl or saag aloo.

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ByThePrickingOfMyThumbs · 26/02/2016 21:26

I'd be really pissed off.

He ordered his favourite for himself, but some random stuff for you? Fuck that.

Quietwhenreading · 26/02/2016 21:26

My DH just walked through the door with our curry. I told him about your situation cracked. His response?

"What a fucker!"

DoreenLethal · 26/02/2016 21:32

Do you know what, in honour of your lost curry i am going to have the OH get take out tomorrow night.

Longdistance · 26/02/2016 21:36

You tell him, that if you wanted to try something new and different you would have told him so.

Sulk away, I would.

He doesn't get to choose what you eat!

guineapig1 · 26/02/2016 21:38

Sounds like he ordered a Thali (selection of mini dishes). I love that but can understand that you may not. Sometimes DH and I will text mid afternoon/early evening to sort out who is picking kids up or who needs to work late/is stuck in a meeting and one will offer to pick up a takeaway. If the other says "yes fine" it is generally accepted that it can be indian/Thai/Malaysian/pizza/Vietnamese and a general selection. Basically something tasty from wherever you are passing. If on the other hand I were to text "yes please, lamb tikka, aubergine curry and coconut naan" DH would not then bring me something else! If you specified what you wanted and he deliberately got something else, he is being a sod!