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Original poster

He messed around with my take away curry!

60 replies

crackedphone · 26/02/2016 20:35

It is rare we have a take away, and for me its always the same thing. I have tried many different dishes over the years, but always regret it. He knows this.

But for some reason he ordered a wide small taste selection of different dishes. There was a small sample of my favourite meal included, but he had the full size dish of his favourite. There was also loads of naan bread and I only have a small bit of this on occasionally.
There were some sauces, one a snotty whipped egg/yogurt thing that looked repellent.

Anyway, I feel cheated. quite a lot left over blobs of goo left and all sauces, but in the end ate a decent amount of what I liked.

Am I being Unreasonable?

OP posts:
janethegirl2 · 26/02/2016 21:39

Order what you want and tell him to bugger off in future.

AcrossthePond55 · 26/02/2016 21:40

My DH has a wee bit of 'form' for this. If I send him for something I have to specify 'no substitutions'. Usually it's when there isn't any of what I want. I've had to train him to call me and ask not just to decide what he thinks I'd like.

Kill him.

BigQueenBee · 26/02/2016 21:43

I am your hubby, I always like to encourage people to try different foods. Eating is such a pleasure, and new dishes often awaken my palate.
I can't abear fussiness re food. Try it, if you don't like t move on.
I wish I have someone to order a take out.
Not got bigger fish to fry?

DinosaursRoar · 26/02/2016 21:45

I always order the same thing if we have an Indian - this irritates DH, but while he's happy to experiment in what he orders, he knows to order what I want to eat. Sometimes, additional dishes will arrive with encouragement to try them, and I usually will try them, but still prefer my main of choice.

Your DH fucked with your meal, but not his own. This is very selfish behaviour and I'd be grumpy for days.

DinosaursRoar · 26/02/2016 21:48

BigQueenBee - I'd have more sympathy if it wasn't for the fact the OP's DH ordered his own 'usual' but not hers! So he decided to experiment with trying something new with her meal, not his. Unacceptable.

If you get a takeaway every week, then yes, try something new now and then, but if it's a 4 times a year treat (which it pretty much is for us), then wanting a particular meal isn't really fussy.

Arfarfanarf · 26/02/2016 21:48

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Mombino · 26/02/2016 21:55

YANBU!!! He was already being thoughtless with ordering something other than what you specifically asked for, but ordering a full size of HIS favourite took him over the line into utter knob territory.

If he 'thought you might like to try something new' could he not have ASKED you if you'd like to try something new??? If you'd wanted to try something new you wouldn't have ordered your favourite! His lack of all thought is baffling to me.

If you're still hungry I'd phone now and order what you originally wanted.

DoreenLethal · 26/02/2016 21:57

It has got nothing to do with fussiness! It has everything to do with being an adult and an ability to read a sodding menu.

MySordidCakeSecret · 26/02/2016 21:58

what a twat! I'd be livid!! you don't mess with food Angry

MistressMerryWeather · 26/02/2016 22:05

Kill him.

janethegirl2 · 26/02/2016 22:05

If I'd ordered a certain food and my dh decided I wanted something different I'd kill him. My stomach, my choice, fuck his ideas!

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 26/02/2016 22:08

Bee, why is it any of your business what people eat. What if they dont want to try new things. They are allowed choice.

I'll have what I want, try new things if I want. Now I have to be very careful because of a nut allergy, so I cant just try things without knowing whats in it.

Phalenopsisgirl · 26/02/2016 22:09

Lololol definitely a first world problem

springscoming · 26/02/2016 22:13

Is the clue in the username BigQueenBee? Grin

VagueButlmportant · 26/02/2016 22:13

LTB and then kill him.

This is why I love being single. I've just had exactly the curry I wanted with no man to fuck around with it. Chicken Shashlick with bhuna sauce, peshwari nan and half a pilau rice, shared with DD.

Pinkheart5915 · 26/02/2016 22:35

When will men learn, never mess with a lady's take away order

teawamutu · 26/02/2016 23:13

Queen Bee, did you mean to sound that patronising?

Original poster
crackedphone · 27/02/2016 00:00

I dont think I will ever forget what he has done. many years of happy married life and he does something like this.

I am going to buy him a butter chicken next time, see if he likes getting a crap curry.

OP posts:
MarkRuffaloCrumble · 27/02/2016 00:11

I'm so glad to read these responses! I had a similar thing in Nandos once and was worried I was over reacting, dp decided to order something similar, but not what I'd asked for as he "didn't think it mattered" Hmm Confused

I was at first, annoyed, then when he continued to say that he thought I might like something different etc and told me I was being unpleasant and should just be grateful he was buying me lunch, I walked out and left him to get a taxi back to work Blush

He's never fucked with my order again and we laugh about it now, but at the time I was so pissed off that my anticipated lunch was NOT WHAT I ORDERED!

MarkRuffaloCrumble · 27/02/2016 00:16

And funnily enough today we went for lunch at one of our other favourites where we always order the exact same two dishes and share.

I suggested something different and he panicked so we got the same two dishes again!

BreconBeBuggered · 27/02/2016 00:26

I'll kill him for you if you like. When a curry's a rare treat, you need the one you wanted, not some poxy bits of nonsense 'to try'. Luckily DH is too lazy to do the ordering and would not in any case dare to venture to educate my palate.

Lynnm63 · 27/02/2016 00:40

I'd be furious. If he wanted you to try something new then why not buy your favourite and a selection as his dinner for you to try. or buy both your normal order and something additional to try.
If you had takeout 3 times a week it may be less twatty but as this is a rare treat words fail me.
Does he have form for this kind of behaviour or is it a one off epic fail of twattedness?

AcrossthePond55 · 27/02/2016 00:46

I dont think I will ever forget what he has done. many years of happy married life and he does something like this.

Just when you think you know them, they turn into Hannibal Lecter or something.

As far as 'expanding one's palate' I usually find when someone suggests I try something new for that reason it ends up tasting like shit. Unless it's like, you know, chocolate or cake or something like that.

bumblebee1234 · 27/02/2016 01:03

YANBU

RiceCrispieTreats · 27/02/2016 01:09

Did he actually call you a bitch, OP? As per your post at 20:54.

If he has, then yes you have a serious marital problem, and it has little to do with curry.